dd's class have had their first full week in reception and according to one mother...

[dinny]

the teacher has told her that her daughter is 'the most intelligent in the class'. Is this bollocks? would a teacher A. do that B. so soon after starting? seems very unprofessional and teacher strikes me as quite the opposite!

gggrrr, very annoying, can't work out why it's bugged me so much! (well, obv dd is the most intelligent lol ) jealous, moi?

she's clearly barking, or so insecure that she needs to make up such rubbish. What have they been doing for the first week in reception? IQ tests? No, playing with plastcine, listening to stories and singing songs, probably.

It is bollox, I expect the mum asked the teacher and the teacher said something fairly neutral like "she seems quite a bright child".

dh thinks I am hilarious for being bothered... just really bugging me as she is deluded enough to think everyone will believe this. just checking to see if my instinct that it's a load of Crap is correct!

Blimey, I would be buggeringly surprised if that were true. DS has just gone into reception and, while he is obviously the most intelligent child in the class, I'm not sure it has as yet been officially recognised.

They are all at completely different stages - the children who were in nursery last year know where to hang up their PE bags and what the teacher's names are. There have been ocassional elements of well, dampness, in some quarters. Some can write their own name - some can't. Some can read a few words, most can't. It all about what they've done in the year leading up to reception.

Any teacher who said that would, for a whole variety of reasons, not really be "the most intelligent person in the class" themselves. But I really bet they didn't. Probably said something polite and neutral along the lines of "x is a bright little child" which has been passed through the "Mummy spectrum" to come out as "the brightest child I have ever taught" etc

loving idea of IQ tests in first week of reception - I think all children should be labelled ASAP in their lives

off to take dd to school and hear a load more of similar, no doubt

I hope you laughed outright said 'oh ... right' quite pointedly and walked away still sniggering

I think its insecurity

LOL! Yes, all the children were graded according to talent and IQ within about 20 mins of arriving for school, and then the teacher broadcast the results from the top of the c,imbing frame......what complete nonsense -she's going to be a right one to deal with, isn't she? I think we should have regular updates of this Mummy's progress!

Oh you're going to have fun with that one, dinny Absolute bollox - even if you could quantify 4 and 5 year olds' intelligence in the space of a week I don't believe any teacher would say such a thing. Poor woman must be desperately insecure - feel sorry for her dd.

Gawd, I've got the opposite problem.

My youngest ds has just changed schools and is in a lovely class. All the kids are lovely except for one precocious little girl who has a mum that sounds just like your new friend. Her daughter is so clever that she has been moved up a year for numeracy and literacy.

Most of this went over my head as I have spent the two coffee mornings us mums have had so far just trying to keep everyone's names straight. I did pick up on a very clear grudgy feeling about this little girl and her 'pushy' mum though.

Last week, the school contacted me to ask if they could move my son up too. I nearly fainted. I love my ds but as far as I was aware the only thing he excells at are lego and avoiding washing.

I have a horrible feeling that he is going to be the subject of snide conversations.

The school want to move him up as he has already covered the areas that the class will be doing this term and they don't want him to be bored. It's a tiny school and I think that kids flit from class to class on a fairly regular basis but the mums deffo see this one girl moving up as a precocious thing. Ack. I am the anti-alpha mum and frankly it sucks being on this side of the fence.

Stupid thing to worry about in the scheme of things, I know.

I can't even picture your conversation with this mother - in my (sadly, rather extensive) experience of talking to other mums about schools the act of quoting someone else in order to boast about your own child is just unheard of. And I think if you found yourself doing it you would, after the conversation and if you were at all sane, kick yourself into the middle of next week.

So, I agree, I want regular updates on what this mum comes out with.

Look on it as a blessing - you now know she is the maniac parent to avoid in the playground in the mornings.

Definitely keep us posted dinny - at least you have her sussed now and can take her parallel universe with a polite pinch of salt!
IME (bright ds, good reader) teachers may say nice things about your child but NEVER compare him or her to others in the class.

Oh, Crackle, just saw your post - don't worry - I have a moved-up dd and nobody is ever ever snide about it (totally the opposite). The line to take I think is just to emphasise facts & circumstances - eg I use: my dd's birthday is October so she's only just outside the normal age range for the year above; and she has a brother who's only 18 months older and she's very competitive.

Bink, I've got one much madder than this in DS's new class. Phoned me up at home for 40 mins on Saturday morning at 8.45 am for a chat about a few things...

Crackle, I remember my mum being asked if I could move up a class when I was about 7. I was a very shy little thing at the time. We also had a fab teacher. My mum said no.

Thanks Bink. I just sooooo don't want to be, you know, that mum.

Crackle - it isn't the fact that the child has been moved into a class appropriate for the level which will have caused the 'talk' it will be the attitude of the mother!

You don't sound AT ALL like the other mother , just let your DS get on with it, don't go round 'bragging' about it - in fact don't tell the other mums at all (thry will hear from their kids) and then just answer factually an in a low-key way when they talk to you about it - if they do!

And good for your DS!

You know what you should have said?

"Oh yes is lovely, isn't she? She said that to me too, and . I think it is so nice of her to build the childrens confidance like that."

Would have pissed on her bonfire, good and proper, without being at all spiteful.

Aw crackle, I just spotted that too. You won't be like her, as the others say, because you are you.
Ds has a reading age almost double his years and occasionally I mention his good reading on here but I make damn sure I don't discuss it at the school gates. Women who go into my-child-is-a-genius megadrive and get on everyone's nerves about it in RL at the school gates are really rare.

Mazzystar, my initial reaction was 'no' but they explained that it was only for the morning lessons and he literally was drooling and staring into space through boredom. It's only 2 weeks into term and they wanted to nip it in the bud.

Any sign of him not liking it though and back he goes.

Sorry to jump on the back of your thread Dinny. I'm looking forward to many more threads from you about this as the term goes on.

Lordy, Mumsnet must be broken. You are all lovely.

Complete and utter shite. She probably said something like 'What a star we have today in class' or some such bobbins. I can't believe she has told you such loohlaah - that would annoy me more than the fact of it being true........or not.

Fio, that is priceless . Is this a wee fella in ds' Reception? What, is his sand and plasticine not sufficiently challenging to model? Does he need a more advanced carpet to roll about on and swap bogey jokes?