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dd's class have had their first full week in reception and according to one mother...

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dinny · 25/09/2006 08:27

the teacher has told her that her daughter is 'the most intelligent in the class'. Is this bollocks? would a teacher A. do that B. so soon after starting? seems very unprofessional and teacher strikes me as quite the opposite!

gggrrr, very annoying, can't work out why it's bugged me so much! (well, obv dd is the most intelligent lol ) jealous, moi?

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FioFio · 25/09/2006 09:48

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fairyjay · 25/09/2006 09:48

There does always seem to be one child who always gets the lead in the play, captains the football team, reads the lesson in Chapel etc. And funnily enough, they nearly always have pushy mums.

But I think as children get older they all develop their different talents, and get their moments of glory.

Well done to your son Crackle!

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dinny · 25/09/2006 13:51

hello, am back from school drop-off, coffee, supermarket, you know how it is, lol.

right, mother in question said this to a good friend of mine - whose son has started at a different school after being at the nursery bit of our school (she goes to same swimming lessons)... wish she'd said it to me but expect she wouldn't dare say it to anyone whose child was in the actual class for fear of being found out, lol!

Crackle, don't get me wrong, am all for bright kids being moved up, just seems a bit odd as we've only been there a week ft!!! (

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KBear · 25/09/2006 13:57

My DS just started reception and so did my cousin's DS. Cousin told me last week that the teacher told her he is one of the brightest in the class. YEAH RIGHT. Cousin is from the boastful side of the family so I tend to take most of what she says with large pinch of salt. It's a long way to fall from the top anyway!

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dinny · 25/09/2006 22:07

not really to do with my OP but dd came home today and said her teacher says she's no good at her letters. surely not, fgs? she knows 10 letter sounds (they use Jolly Phonics) - I'd thought she was doing really well!

really starting to not like this school business!

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willowcatkin · 25/09/2006 22:32

Wait until you start getting reading books - wonderful chances for 'comparisons' there!!!

And then the worksheets that they do in the morning as you settle them in are all differentiated so we can go on for hours about who is doing the 'top' one, not to mention that some have 10 spellings a week and others 'only' have 5.

Glad mine go to breakfast club as I rarely see the other parents

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dinny · 25/09/2006 22:32

tell me school gets better, please!

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anniediv · 25/09/2006 22:38

Well, my dd2 has been in reception for 5 whole days and today we had a parent's evening. What on earth did they think they could tell us?! (apart from, of course, letting us know who the most intelligent child in the class is !)

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dinny · 25/09/2006 22:40

God, hideous. What did they say then, Annie? How dd is settling in, presumably? Did they damn any kids to life as a dimwit yet

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anniediv · 25/09/2006 22:42

Just basically that she is settling in, seems happy, seems to play with other kids okay. Likes singing. no mention of her obvious genius though!!

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dinny · 25/09/2006 22:42

am starting to realise I may have been subject to abit of hot-housing by my mum - she said 'Oh, you absolutely sailed through everything, darling' and 'it did help I had planned 3.5 years between you and your sister' (as opposed to 2 between my dd and ds!)

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Kaz33 · 25/09/2006 22:44

We are having a parents forum when someone is going to come and talk to us about "gifted & talented children".

If you turn up to the talk everyone is going to think that you think that your child is and of course I am interested as DS1 is seriously smart .

A total mums nightmare. Its almost worth going to see who turns up...

tamum · 25/09/2006 22:44

They do actually do baseline testing in the first week here, to work out how much the children know in terms of letter sounds and numbers, or actual reading in some cases. Even so, they don't actually distribute a class ranking list to all parents I don't believe a teacher would say that either, and agree that this mother sounds like a source of much MN amusement if youdon't mind giving us regular updates dinny

tamum · 25/09/2006 22:45

Kaz, maybe a false beard and glasses would be in order?

Kaz33 · 25/09/2006 22:46

I think I am going to get myself on to the organising committee for this one as I do quite a lot anyway...

Gobbledigook · 25/09/2006 23:06

Sounds like bolleaux to me!

I can't believe people have this problem - I don't know any parents that go on like this. It's quite the opposite really with people just generally not talking about how the kids are doing at all.

My best friend and I discuss it a little but kind of pointless as our ds's are 'separated at birth' and so completely identical in almost every way that it's scary!!

marthamoo · 25/09/2006 23:11

They do baseline testing here too, tamum - in fact they're doing it atm. They initially sort the children into 3 groups by age, have a week with each group staying all day (the others go home at lunchtime) and then when they all start full time (next week) they shuffle them all around into new "Friendship Groups". They've done it like this for years and everyone nods at "Friendship Groups" and pretend we don't know they are being sorted by ability

Ds1 was put in the bottom group, many years ago, as - at the time of sorting - he was being Tom Kitten and refusing to talk, just licking his paws and doing the odd "mew".

tamum · 25/09/2006 23:13

Friendship groups is a good cover-up They are quite subtle about it here- dd told me she'd had to go a read a book to one of the cooks (actually the deputy head).

GreenLumpyTonsils · 25/09/2006 23:15

It smells a bit like bullshit to me . Poor child.

CJinSussex · 26/09/2006 00:14

Was the teacher holding a large cheque? Or is this woman a bit bonkers? I'd have been speechless - did you manage to say anything back to her?!

Like Blu, I want to hear regular updates about this woman too!

CJinSussex · 26/09/2006 00:20

Sorry Dinny! Just read the bit where you say that the woman made wild remark to a friend and not to you. It's late. My contact lenses are beginning to fuse onto my eyes... I'll just go to bed!

flack · 26/09/2006 07:02

Dinny, do you think that it's possible that the mother was being ironic? DD comes home every day & tells me that the entire class has pronounced that she (DD) is the "prettiest girl in class". I know it's not true, but given DD's competitiveness & insecurities, I just sort of rephrase it as "You are a lovely girl!" and leave it at that.

Twiglett · 26/09/2006 07:14

The only mother I am aware of who has intimated she has been told her child is exceptionally intelligent is the mother of a child who is extremely behaviourly challenged .. and this was well in to the 2nd term .. oh and yes he's bright but by no means is he the brightest in the class ..

I grinned at Tom Kitten Moo

sugarfree · 26/09/2006 07:44

"tell me school gets better, please!"

It's not that school gets better,but you get better at deflecting such rubbish!
I'm fully expecting an upsurge with ds1 in a year or so when 'option' selection starts in yr9.
We have an alpha mother in ds2's class(yr 2) whose son is very bright.In Reception she would demand to know which Word Pot your child had (I rarely knew) and is the type to read your childs reading comment if she has them for a play date.It's a running joke now and the teachers are well aware,we all just nod and agree how superbright her child is enthusistically.

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