when do they teach about same sex relationships?

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Hi - just been to a sex education meeting at my kids primary school and happy with the way they are going to be teaching everything, but I have one question that I forgot to ask and don't know if any of you mums can help:
At what age do they talk about same sex relationships??

I only ask as my brother is gay and my DH thinks it is wrong and thinks any type of promotion of SS relationships is wrong. I know when we come to this there are going to huge rows and arguments so just want to be prepared for when this is going to happen.

Thanks

You need to sort your husband out ASAP. If he feels really strongly against it and your DCs start talking about it he may well have a bad reaction which will really confuse your DCs.

e.g. DS 'I'm going to marry my best friend because men can marry men'

Your DH might well say something to the effect of 'stop that nonsense' or 'no you're going to marry a woman' etc or something worse.

I'm not articulating it very well but I think you probably get my gist.

OP you absolutely cannot let your DH think his views are in any way acceptable. There are lots of men out there with the 'look I'll be civil but it doesn't mean I'm ok with it' and think that because they aren't shouting about it then they aren't homophobes. He really really needs to know that this is not at all on and has to start working on his views of this. What will he do if one of your DCs turn out to be gay?

Everything Graze just said. It isn't up to the school to sort this out at some vague future point, it is up to you. You can't sit there kind of hoping it will never happen, you need to be honest with your DCs now.

And your DH really needs to take a long hard look at himself - has he even asked himself what he would do if one of his children should turn out to be gay?

I could not live with a man who displayed any kind of homophobia, to be honest.

graze is spot on!! Could be your children or your children's friends and they deserve to feel welcome and safe in their home or friends home.

This is one of the few things where "he's entitled to his opinion" doesn't apply.

These are people we are talking about and no one deserves hostility or attitude or being ignored or whatever based on being gay. I hope you can get your dh to see this!

Mine are in year 4 and 2. I don't know what the school has said about same sex relationships and it's never occurred to me to wonder when they might.

I just know I have talked about it with them as it has come up in conversation. Mainly through stuff they hear from friends and also due to our family members who are in a same sex relationship and have children.

Yes, I would also hope that your brother and his partner are able to feel welcome in your home.

My 3 knew about same sex relationships well before they went to school. Ds1 is in yr 5, not sure he's been 'taught homosexuality', but he's already been taught by at least one person in a same sex relationship. It wouldn't occur to any of my kids to be bothered about it because it is just as normal as a two sex relationship.
Really, just tell your kids about Toby and xxx being I'm love and 'married'. Let them ask.what/if they need to ask, and answer honestly. They don't care about the mechanics of the sex at that age, it's the relationship that matters, and the sooner they know about that, the sooner they just shrug and get on with their own lives!

It depends on the school, DD is reception and it has already come up at school as a child went round calling everything gay so the teacher explained what that meant. DS is year 5 and his school haven't mentioned homosexuality at all.

They both knew about same sex relationships before they started school anyway, because i have gay friends and have always been open about it with them.

You don't need to wait for your DC's to ask, you can just tell them. The sooner the better IMO.

It was discussed in DD's Grade 1 class (year 2) when she joined a couple of months ago. As far as I know they just had the facts laid out to them, it was explained that same sex relationships are just the same as a man and a woman being in love etc. They touched on that in some countries same sex marriage wasn't allowed but in no great detail.

I think the difference is whether if you were talking about a heterosexual couple your DCs know, would you refer to them as living together or as being married? It's not lying, no, but it's being selective about the information shared.