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Would everyone hate the 31st parents if you won an appeal??

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MrsGrumpyPants · 29/04/2014 15:41

Hypothetical as we haven't even decided whether to appeal or not!

But just wondering, would all the smug lucky parents who did a get a place resent the extra one who was admitted as a result of an appeal?

(This is typical of me, worrying that everyone would hate me in advance...)

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BobTheFly · 29/04/2014 15:41

How would they know it was you?

NigellasDealer · 29/04/2014 15:43

that is really silly how would they even know?

bleedingheart · 29/04/2014 15:43

Why would they know?
I don't know which school you are applying to but when I worked in a secondary school there was no way of parents knowing who applied when if they didn't discuss it.

starfishmummy · 29/04/2014 15:44

Unless you tell them there is no way they should find out

FatalCabbage · 29/04/2014 16:16

There are 31 children in DS's class. It makes no practical difference to us whether there are 30 or 31.

Good luck with your appeal.

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MrsGrumpyPants · 29/04/2014 16:17

It is really silly I know

Just got visions of everyone gossiping and moaning at the school gates, and speculating why there's too many children.

I am off to the Grip Shop in a minute

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MrsGrumpyPants · 29/04/2014 16:18

Thanks fatalcabbage

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 29/04/2014 16:18

No of course not although if you join the class late I would think it wise not to go on about class sizes at the school gate! (Have seen this!)

CuntyBunty · 29/04/2014 16:24

No, I would not hate you. Our school squeezed in DS1 when we moved a few years ago. The school was expanding so they put an extra one in (DS) for 7 months, then it was all ok in the next academic year. The alternative was a 20 mile drive, which we did for a couple of months until the local school took pity on us. I am still grateful.

FatalCabbage · 29/04/2014 16:31

Bear in mind that if you win your appeal that would ordinarily mean you ought to have been (say) the 20th child. So it's someone else who would be the 31st and ought not to be there...

MrsMaturin · 29/04/2014 16:33

How would they know? The stress is clearly made you a bit daft. Get a grip :)

TheScience · 29/04/2014 16:35

The only way you'd get a place is if the LEA made a mistake, in which case it wouldn't be your child who was wrongly admitted but someone else's.

allyfe · 29/04/2014 16:46

We have 31 children. We know who the 31st child and parents are, and I haven't heard anyone say anything negative. As others have said, it is an LEA mistake. If you won, you would have nothing to worry about

ReallyTired · 29/04/2014 16:50

There were 38 kids in my reception class in 1980 with no TA. Gawd knows how we ever managed to learn anything. In someways a class with 31 children and 2 TAs is in a better position than a class with 30 children and 1 TA.

Often people move so a class with 31 children in september may well only have 30 children in by October. It may well be that some other family wants a different school and wins their appeal.

All these things work out. If you do get a place then your child is meant to be there.

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MrsGrumpyPants · 29/04/2014 16:56

Thanks everyone, you're all lovely.

I shall put that worry aside, and go find something else to worry about instead

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WooWooOwl · 29/04/2014 17:14

There won't always be 31 children anyway.

Someone might leave or not accept their place, in which case the school just wouldn't offer a place to the next person on the waiting list until they were back down to 29 children.

Redcoats · 29/04/2014 17:19

Do people even talk about this? I've no idea how many kids are in my DCs classes.

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MrsGrumpyPants · 29/04/2014 17:23

I have no idea, I'm just being a stress bunny. During my extensive googling I found an old MN thread where a poor poster was celebrating that she'd won her appeal, and some people were laying into her.

So I projected that into everyone hating me (when I haven't even appealed yet) and me having a great big scarlet S on my jacket.

I really should get out more.

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DeWee · 29/04/2014 18:20

I think generally no one would know, the resentment if anything tends to go to those who have"bent" the rules and boasted about it.
You could potentially have the situation where people reckon that's the case, but they're as likely as not to choose someone else.

As it happens I generally know who has got in by appeal, but that's because of the anguish they go through when they haven't got the place-although it could be waiting list as an alternative.

frillysockmum · 29/04/2014 18:44

People know who won appeals at our school but only because everyone knows who got in on round 1 and loads showed an interest. They are generally kids from the 2 linked nurseries so everyone talks. Everyone is always simply pleased for them - I know 3 such families from 3 school years. I am sure those that lost appeal had more of a grudge !!!!

RandomMess · 29/04/2014 18:48

I minded but only because my daughter then became #31 alphabetically and didn't have her tray with everyone elses etc. and there were occasions when we didn't get invites/letters etc because of that!!! It was entirely the LEAs screw up though.

ThreeLannistersOneTargaryen · 29/04/2014 19:05

No, why would I hate you?

DD currently has 32 in her class. DS3 has 31. There were valid reasons in all three cases.

pornstache · 29/04/2014 19:11

I read the title as 31 stone parents& thought "well people may judge a bit if both parents 31 stone , that is pretty heavy!"

Jellyandjam · 29/04/2014 19:14

We are the parents of the 31st child in my DS reception class. Some parents were aware of the fact we were appealing and were really supportive and pleased for he when we won. Most others don't know who we are and no one seems bothered that there are 31.
We won the appeal as the panel decided that we should have been awarded a place originally so really if it wasn't for us someone else in the class would have not got a place I guess.

Xihha · 29/04/2014 20:24

DS had 32 in his class in the infants and I've never even thought to worry about who got in on appeal, let alone go to the effort of trying to find out who it was. tbh I don't think most people would notice or care.

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