Interesting, isn't it, rabbit, when we look back?
'How on earth would I help them sound out words, if I didn't know myself how I was and wasn't allowed to talk about the sounds and which letters made them???? '
Oh, here you seem to be saying children learn like you do.
'if phonics helps you learn to grasp the mechanics of reading more quickly, it can help you start to read more, more quickly, and if you are reading more, you are likely to start understanding more, more quickly, and you will be seeing more words more often, so will start recognising them as whole words more quickly. Most children don't have to be taught every tiny detail of reading and spelling to be learn how to read and spell. After all, how many of you remember being given spelling lists for every word you know how to spell?!!!!!'
It's almost like you're using the second person to talk about ... children. By mistake? Or because you were talking about children?!
'What I mean is: imagine the sounds that make up chair, /ch/ and /air/, then thinking of the letter combinations that correspond and making your attempt is not the same as saying cuh, huh, ah, i, ruh (as in 'old style' vaguely phonic alphabet I was taught), which is where the confusion you have described could lie. I do remember being taught letter combinations but my initial alphabet was how I labelled the letters when I was small.'
Obviously, you didn't intend to refer to your childhood here, I must be misunderstanding.
Do you want me to carry on, or is it obvious you've forgotten that you did start off talking about children's experiences? Whoops.