I'm angry with the school that my son can't read

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my DS is 5 and has just finished reception. Reading has always been a struggle and he has "progressed" to level 1. I've been trying to get him to read appropriate level reading books over the summer and have now given up. He can only read basic words like "and" " to" "for" "at"..... I'mwondering what the school has been doing for 2 years -he started in their kindergarten so he has been "reading" for 2years. What he does is get the teacher/us to say the word out loud, then he memorises it. Now that he has read a couple of books cold i have discovered he cannot read at all. WHAT DO I DO???????

Hi op my ds us youngest in his year and couldn't read much by end of reception then in middle of year 2 it just clicked and now he can pretty much read anything 6 months later-it's been a marvel to see him learn.. He's 6 in a couple of weeks and I've just put a special light on his bunk bed so he can read every might in bed for pleasure. I wouldn't stress put too much pressure on him he's very young and you don't want to give him hang ups about learning.

You didn't offend BlueMoon, I think I'm just venting about DS' teacher
He is very patronising when he speaks to me, and seems to think it's all my fault, despite the fact that DS hasn't learnt to read any words during the 6 hours a day he's with him either.

Sorry!

I read with my DD most days, and DD and DS have a book or two before bed every night unless they have been a nightmare and have done since birth.

BUT Bluemoon I have never signed DDs reading log until very recently, because I didn't know i was meant too . I had thought it was just for the teachers, and quite a few of the other parents thought so too. I'm now thinking I must have been pegged as an irresponsible parent by the teachers whereas really I am just a bit dense.

xpost with Pagwatch

Oooops I mean middle of yr 1 it clicked

I wouldn't be concerned if a 5 year old couldn't read.

5 years old seems really young to be stressing about reading..

we are in scotland and depending on when theri b/day falls.. some kids dont start school till 5.5 years old ...

they catch up with thier english counterparts just fine

Pagwatch tut tut!

No, we don't only go by the diary don't worry! (although getting reading diaries signed is one of the banes of my working week! That, and the sheer competitiveness of 'what level is your child?' conversations that go on on the playground and spill over into my classroom. Usually by the child pleading with me to move them up a level so that they're on the same level as Joe Bloggs and then their Mum will be happy!. But that's a whole other thread!!!!!)

Bluecanary No, sounds like your teacher has poor communication skills to me! I inform all my new parents in September via a newsletter of what I need them to do/support etc. Definitely blame the teacher in this instance!

that last post is so true. All children do things in their own time, and 3, 4 and 5 is just so young. really all they need to do is play in the sandpit at that age.
just keep reading to him and having books around.
I remember when my dd was 4, and some infant school teacher was telling me what a huge deal it was that she couldn't really write, and she even said,
'She will never get a good job when she leaves school at this rate!'
(I was like wha a a a a at?')
Then, at the beginning of secondary school, she still had a reading age of about 6 or 7, (and I had been reading to her for years) but after 2 years she has caught up with herself and has a reading age of 13.5, which is her exact age!
Her writing is still not too good, but her touchtyping is coming on....

i meant soverylucky's post

Maybe the teachers gave up the same way you gave up. Remember, they have another 29 kids to teach how to read; YOU HAVE ONE!! I was lucky as my parents taught me to read before I even got to school. There are plenty of guides that will help you help your child..if you find you have the patience.

Thank god BlueMoon

Don't get me started on competitive reading level conversations though...

The teacher gets paid not to give up,what a stupid post.

And what type of parents give up? Usualsuspect do you have any concept of what teaching a class of 30 involves? Please don't be rude.

Thanks BlueMoon. DD has a new teacher in September for the first time in 2 years, so I am planning to be teachers pet for diary writing/signing .

Well I think the Op would have cause to blame the school if the teacher gave up, don't you?

If a teacher is giving up then they are in the wrong career

Actually, I am with usual suspect.

Suggesting that a teacher would just shrug and give up if a child was struggling to read is quite an extraordinary accusation.

I don't know why I put 'actually' in there. It makes it sound asif agreeing with usual suspect is an odd thing to do. Which it isn't. Sorry

There's only so much you can do, given the time and curriculum. If no teacher ever gave up on any child then every child would go to secondary school reading and writing to a good standard.

Much more tactfully put that me Pagwatch

If a teacher ever gave up on a child, they shouldn't be teaching.

WTF is going on at the moment? Why are some people under the impression that posting on AIBU means any OP is fair game for people to make unneccessary and unpleasant comments towards them? That's not what it's for. It may have a reputation for being the home of 'bunfights' but that doesn't mean it's perfectly ok to speak to someone like they're shit on your shoe. Fuxake.

As before Usual, do you have any concept of what it's like to teach a class of 30 kids?
FeakandWeeble After a good few months of attcks on schools/teachers etc on here, I think I just snapped. Apologies if I spoke to Op like she was shit on my shoe.

Even more shocking if you are a teacher then.