If your DC got some amazing award from out of school

[CURIOUSMIND]

Some really amazing award,such as high standard certificate, trophies from competition, medal, etc.

Parents, would you allow your DC to take them to school?
Teachers, how would you react and what would you do?

But, Backforgood,Mrs didn't ask to bring it back next week .Would it be awkard if we bring it back again next week? May well end up stay in the cupboard for another week.
I don't want to push Mrs do this, ask again or talk about again, as if we are tying to force people to clap.

Well, I don't know your school, or your teacher.
I know teachers have many things going round their heads at any point in the school day, and something given to them on a Monday morning could easily be forgotten by a Friday morning.
I also know in my dd's school - and they are all different - they would certainly want to celebrate that kind of achievement in assembly, and when there has been a slight mix up and a parent has sat there expecting the mention that didn't come, then a quick word afterwards sorts it out and there is an apology and it is celebrated the following week. I don't know what the 'culture' of your dc's school is, can only speak from my experience.

I have no idea what a Grade 6 certificate means or how presitgious the competition your ds entered is. I'd hazard a guess and say that the teacher doesn't appreciate it either. And yes, she clearly forgot. This happens.

ds has brought a couple of rosettes from riding and a medal from his sport in to school and it gets a mention in class (and possibly assembly).

APMF, when children in ds's class passed entrance exams for senior school, this was mentioned in class but certainly not in a newsletter. People don't tend to boast about scholarships ime - I completely understand feeling proud about it (as I am of a relative who won a scholarship and a bursary that covers 100% of her fees)but bursaries ands scholarships don't get talked about at school. It's too sensitive a subject.

Backforgood,Our school, like most schools has the curture.I know children took to school their swimming badge, certificate from gymnastic competition ,prize from dance competition, etc, to show it of course.

Jenaimarrheplayguitar, It's not really boasting, not at all.We all know that little prize may turn out to be nothing ( you might decide to drop it next year.) ,but may encourage young children a lot.

The problem is , if you are average, you deserve a round of applause when you achieve something;If you are usually far ahead , you should not 'boast' any more, like you said, too sensitive.

Curious, what happened when you talked to the teacher about it?

I handed a letter to the office yesterday afternoon. Haven't heard anything since.
Letter didn't complain ,only about sharing the news, nothing further .We will see.If nothing happened, then that's it .I learned the lesson.
(If this is the case, they shouldn't ask my Ds1 to play for them any more. I am a little red hen.)

Honestly, curious, I do think you are over thinking this. And, sorry, I really think you should have talked to the teacher. Are you absolutely sure that the school will know what the issue is?

curious, I don't think showing off certificates is boasting at all (well it is - but in a good way). I was insufferable when ds won that medal I completely agree that it encourages others - particulalry the younger ones.

I'd be pretty about a scholarship being included in a newsletter though. Unless it was to ballet school or something - something truly exceptional that others in the school are unlikely to have gone for that year.

Yes, our school allows kids to take in awards for assembly on friday mornign then all the kids get to come up to the front and talk about their award. Alternatively, they can take them in to class to do a short show and tell about them if they're really special.

Maybe next time you could tell the teacher on the Monday how proud you are of your ds and that he won a competition for much older children and a trophy and it is a big thing for him and a major achievement for a child of that age which he would love to share in the assembly on Friday, because he worked so hard to achieve it, so could he bring the trophy and certificate in on that Friday to share with everyone? I don't really understand why you brought everything in on the Monday and handed it over to the teacher to put in her cupboard - frankly, if you can see what happens when other peoples' behaviours, feelings and motivations are unclear to you, I don't know why you can't see that your own behaviour didn't make clear what you expected or felt when you brought everything in on a Monday morning for the teacher. Did you expect more to be made of your ds's achievements than are normally made of any other child's, by getting him to stand up in front of the class for the teacher on the Monday and talk about it, then, rather than wait until the Friday when everyone else's achievements are mentioned? Or did you expect her to keep hold of the trophy and then remember to get it out on the Friday when she was trying to get everyone ready to go into assembly on time and had had a whole week to forget about it? Or did you expect both?

Did you explain to her what the meanings of the trophy and certifcate were? Or did you expect her to have your knowledge and understanding of their meaning without it being expressed openly? You don't seem to be very hot on expressing yourself openly to people...

Rabbitstew,

I took everything on the Monday, is only because the competition was just done .Monday is a immediate catch up .Also, they have weekly whole school assembly on Monday .
I can't imagine whoever bring this sort of prize are expecting anything otherthan a little show !I didn't expect anything more special made than normally made of other children . (They decide to take it to any levels of recognition.)Whatever will do, but I didn't expect nothing.

Do you seriouly think a teacher could be unclear of parents 's feelings ,motivations of taking these sort of prize to school?

Rabbitstew,
I did explain to her, when, where, what. We don't need special knowledge to understand 15 and under, outstanding mark, first place, exceptional performance these key words shown on the paper .

You are right, I don't expressing myself openly to people( how proud I am)....sensitive.

Well, yes, if assemblies praising achievements are on Friday and a parent brings something in on a Monday - that is not making things clear.

I think there are endless possibilities for misunderstandings in any human transactions. And I think that if you didn't explain explicitly what an important thing this was for your ds and say that he was hoping it could be shown at assembly, there is scope for misunderstanding,

Did your ds not remind her?

Basically, I am thin skinned, too, and over the years have had to learn that what I find hurtful is water off a duck's back to everyone else. I have also learnt that people more often accidentally upset me than deliberately hurt me and if someone has not meant me harm, then to mull over it is just hurting me further for no benefit. Even if it is a deliberate slight, frankly it is better in life to assume otherwise than to think the worst of everyone who fails to understand your sensitive feelings.

Rabbitstew,
This is absolutely a beautiful input!

I am not really sensitive myself.I am fine without telling anyone I got this or that.I have my proudness inside.

She forgot. She had some problem crop up. I would really not get upset about it. if you are upset I would ask "ds was looking forward to sharing his certifs or trophy in assembly would it be possible to do this next week? I am sure that will do the trick. I am sure it is not deliberate.

They have a special assembly for this at DD's school. She wants to take in her 75m swimming badge this week!

The update is ....nothing.That's it.Forget about it and carry on, actually it's not their business.
But, massive thank you to Mumsnet Mums.My DS1 would like to play his favourite Chopin Nocturne for you.

You didn't actually talk to the teacher and give her the chance to put this right at all, did you?

Because it didn't look like she forgot it. She had her chance to put it right, I am sure she had.
Last school letter is full of teachers coming and going and school building work.

So basically you have decided that she did it on purpose- you dis'nt talk to her or give her a chance to explain and you've allowed you child to carry on thinking he was slighted. Everyone on here said you should talk to her, but you decided not to. That's obviously your prerogative but do keep in mind that you might have been wrong.

Me?Prerogative?
You might have been wrong.

I doubt that she did it on purpose. The end of the school year is manic and teachers are pretty much running on auto pilot. As others have said, she most probably doesn't appreciate how amazing it is and has a million things on her mind. If you really want to sort it out, you need to speak to her. If I get handed letters from parents, I often genuinely forget about them too - just go in and see her!