Ok I am a snob with a PFB, but please tell me there are lots of positives....

[mummyneedingahug]

about starting school in a very 'mixed' catchment. Children with very 'mixed' behaviour too.
At the induction session today, DS had a toy snatched from him, was told his work was 'rubbish; and had plastic toy food thrown at him :(
Equally there were some lovely children and the school has great results but I just feel so unhappy about him going there. It didn't help that I saw a mother smoking on her way to school and a child run out with just his shorts on!
Help!

Thank you Noggie and pookamoo he is on the waiting list for 2 other schools......but he is 4th for both :(

Yes nursery has been great but a distance from the school and private.

usual, the fact that the mothers are wearing anything on the school run is a plus. Well, to be honest, the fact that the mothers are on the school run is a plus!!

"veritythebrave did you move from private to state??"

It does happen! I have to break it to you, but there are crap private schools too! (or do I mean !!)

I went to a children's party full of DC from the vair vair naice school that my best friends daughter goes to recently. The kids (BFs DD aside) were all bloody awful! Horribly entitled little oiks, with no respect for property and a profound lack of manners

I am sure it does seeker

If you think a 'perfect school' with only 'perfectly behaved' children in it exists then you are sadly misguided! My DD's primary is in a nice area with no deprived areas nearby and yet there are some horrible kids there, and parents that smoke......

The secondary is one that parents have gone to the extent of buying houses in the vicinity to 'guarantee' a place yet pupils smoke, fight, have abortions and get excluded......

All kids have to mix with other kids from a variety of backgrounds, it's what helps make them well-rounded human beings!

Horse, although it pains me, yours is exactly the reason why I'm so against home ed. At some point the cotton wool runs out.

Depends which brand of cigs

Lambert and butler - mmmm bit common
Bensons - bit classier

Seriously, sounds like any school. Good uns, bad uns, smoking mums etc.

What do I do if he wants to go and play with x who's mum thinks its fine to play killing 18+ war games on the xbox.

What do I do it he buddies up with the naughty kids and his behaviour starts to change?

What do I do if he starts dropping his t's

You move to Knightsbridge.

I don't smoke but I'm sure that shock, horror some naice middle class mums might smoke!

OP, you come on MN and start a thread about it if that happens!

He will probably be fine, and you have said yourself that you feel a bit PFB and nervous about the whole thing. What did you think of the school otherwise?

FWIW, I live in a naice area, my PFB DD goes to private nursery until September, and even so drops her t's and says things like "when we was outside".

And I believe one of my neighbours smokes .

Behavioural issues can occur regardless of socio-economic background. The kids at DD's nursery with "problems" are ones from lovely backgrounds who have hearing and speech problems just being diagnosed. The behaviour is just their way of expressing their frustrations.

Relax!

pookamoo there is a great deal of care there, the staff seem to adore the children.....

My poshest two friends both smoke. And one's a doctor as well. ought to know better

I smoke nice marlboro lights. Yummy.

So all joking aside, you have found one positive, OP.

Not all schools are right for all children. We live in a town but are thinking of sending DD to one of the rural schools out of town even though it means I will have to drive her there, because the class sizes are smaller and we think she'd benefit from that. I'm sure there will be behavioural issues and some of the mums will probably smoke (you were joking about that being an issue, right?) but children will carve their own niche if the school is right for them.

I hope you are right!
veritythebrave 7 OMG!
Thanks all.....will pull myself together I am sure ;)

Mummyneedingahug, it is really hard when they are at school. As I said earlier I was really nervous about my DD1 starting and have had to say 'well different families decide different things' quite a bit but I honestly don't think that would be any different in any other school. She was invited on a sleep over (age 5) at a classmates house- I have met the parents once and just think she is far too young anyway so said no...so they invited someone else instead which is hard to explain but I guess real life is like that. If you really like the staff and are consistent at home your child will not 'go bad'....but it is understandable to want to protect them, do your best for them etc Hope you feel much better once school starts, am sure you will.

When we went to visit our local Primary with our PFB my DH's first question to me was "How much was (local private school)?"

On her first day she came home very shocked because "There was a boy that didn't do what he was told"!

Her first friend home for tea declared (on seeing a police car) "Old Bill, bet they want me Mam......nah! It's me Dad wot nicks"

She is graduating from Cambridge on Saturday :)

Ahhhhh Milliways that made me giggle.
Thank you noggie just want him to grow up to be a lovely chap who knows right from wrong and treats others well. So hard being a mummy!

I understand as I had same concerns. But you know what? The children are generally fab. It is a very inclusive school and DD1 is growing up to be a considerate, tolerant child, who understands that not everyone is the same. Her progress is great. I became a school governor to get close and influence how it's run. And I have grown to love the school. I look back now and see how prejudiced I was, and I wouldn't move dd for all the tea in china. I say give it a go - you might get a life lesson out of it too