How much of an indication of future academic success are these? I hear from dd that she is in group 3 - I think for both phonics and maths, though she's not completely clear that she's in the same for both. I didn't think about it too much when she first said it and didn't even mention it at a recent parents' evening but then a friend with a ds in the same class mentioned (she REALLY wasn't bragging) that the teacher had told her that her son is in the top groups - leaving dd in the third 'set'. I must admit, this worries me a little.
Anyway, dh is a sahd (he thinks I'm being ridiculous btw) but he agreed to speak to the teacher and she told him that the groups were not set by ability - the complete opposite of what my friend said. This friend is someone I have known a long time and she honestly wasn't bragging and I cannot begin to imagine she would lie so I don't understand why the teacher is telling us both different things.
I have always been told dd is 'bright' (whatever that means) by family and friends (didn't go to pre-school) she spoke early, loves being read to and is generally articulate and interested in everything. I'm afraid I'm about to make myself sound ridiculous but we live in a deprived area and the school OFSTED states that many of its pupils are below expectations when they come in at reception. Now I can't help thinking that if my dd is in a third group in such a school she must have problems of some sort - though I know in my head she doesn't.
She had no interest in letters before school but now knows all letters of both cases, all the sounds they've done so far (don't know what pahse they are on) and is on level 2 books, though does very well with some level 3 charity shop ones we've got too. She is obsessed with Ancient Egypt, among other thinga and can tell you all sorts of stuff about it but she hates writing and just doesn't want to put pen to paper - I think she struggles with the physical act of it and worries about spelings and won't do it unless she thinks it'll be perfect.
Overall, I am quite worried that she is behind her peers (many of whom have had a disadvantaged start in life) and that she is considerably quieter at school than she is at home and her ability is not showing.
Her teacher says she's doing 'fine' but always sounds so vague, dh thinks I'm being ridiculous and would probably disown me if he read this.
Any words of wisdom?