Moving school at almost 6

[Benzer]

Hi, I'm moving my daughter to a new school in Sept & she's devastated. I feel soooo guilty. Old school excellent and she was top of her class, but I want her to make Religious Sacraments that the old school couldn't support. Wondering how to cope with the sobbing & pleas. Bought new Uniform today which started the tears tonight. I was sympathetic but firm. Spent an hour comforting & logically going through all pros & cons & she was less upset in the end. Have promised her we'll see her old friends & that she IS going to the new school.. I feel really guilty as my daughters a v sensitive wee thing & I feel her pain. Dreading Sept.

Thanks for all the messages, particularly the (2) supportive ones. Can tell from all the answers above that you all live in England, but we live in NI and unfortunately education & Religion are pretty entwined. It's not quite as simple here. School & Religion are one and we are unable to be appropriately prepared for Sacraments solely in Church/Parishes. It's mostly done at School. It's possible, but would've been difficult and I feel, made her feel more like an outsider. As we're a mixed marriage (ie Catholic/Protestant), I initially saw the non-Catholic school a compromise where I could fill the gaps & do the prep myself. The gaps are too big, however & I need the support of the school. Hence the move. I hasten to add that the school she'll now attend is Integrated, so she'll hopefully still see both sides of the coin.....but have some little friends she can share her special Sacraments with instead of being the only one at her school.

I think it might have helped if you mentioned it was NI! I still think it is a good idea to spend the holiday meeting next term's class.

She'll be fine. Its ery, very young and they're very maleable still. If you were talking about moving an oder child, then it would be different...she's still small and will adjust quickly.

As I said, people get far too precious about this type of thing...they don't give kids their due when it comes to change. I am sure your DD will be great at her new school.

Thanks for the constructive tips MadamM and MumblingRagDoll. When I posted it was really because I was at a loss with how to support & comfort my daughter. I wondered if any of you had done anything similar. I have done all of the above & she is more positive & accepting. I realise this will be tough for her for Sept but I know I'm doing the right thing for her pastorally & socially & the new school has an excellent reputation & as she is v bright so she'll be fine with the work. Have to say I'm taken aback at the ferocity of criticism & the notion that I may not have considered all the options available to us.....not sure I'll be posting again anytime soon!

pleased you came back and explained more OP. I am surprised that there are catholic schools with spaces I live in SE and the 4 I have had any dealings with (as in living near to) have all been so massively oversubscribed my friends have reported similar so I have to admit I assumed it the norm as many church schools are.

As for being on waiting list and knowing well yes you would have told your child when you applied but 2-3 years later child may have forgotten.

good luck OP im sure she will do just fine we moved our 3, 4 years ago due to a move and they have settled just fine at the time they were year 1 3 and 5

My comments were assuming that you were in England-in which case I thought the whole thing entirely unnecessary-I don't think that it is very fair to throw in NI at the end-and then blame people for not being supportive!

Benzer, I have done exactly the same as you. My ds did not get into the catholic school where I teach, so spent first two terms of reception in our local school, which he loved, and we then moved him after Easter into the new school when a place became available. worried a lot about moving him, but has all turned out very well. He is very happy at his new school, and still sees his friends from his old school. I understand how you feel about your dc being in a catholic school, and I know a lot of people did not understand why we moved our son, but has been, and will be, great for him. I did not bring up the move unless he spoke about it until about a week before he moved, too much talking about it can make it worse I think. Just showed him uniform and mentioned it if it came up in conversation. He went to a few birthday parties of children in his new class, but tbh he has made different friends so possibly was not essential. I wish you all the best of luck, I'm sure it will work out for you x

My DD moved schools at the beginning of Year 1 and after about a year had almost forgotten her old school. Four years on she couldn't name even one member of her old class, even her best friend of the time, whose photo she still keeps on her window sill.

I'm sure your daughter will be fine. Mine took a little while to settle, mainly (or totally) because she had a really CRAP teacher who didn't seem to get children (!). But once she had made a couple of good friends she started to settle in and went on to enjoy school.

If you are a catholic/protestant marriage and feel it is beneficial for her to see both sides of the coin, why are you pushing her into a particular religion at all? Why not allow her to develop a sense of self and choose at a later date what religion, if any, she would like to adopt?

Does this move mean that catholicism has 'won' in your house? What of her protestant parent? Will this cause friction for her at home being made to side with her mother as well as the disruption of moving school?

Hi - I think your DD will be absolutely fine. Sensitive children tend to worry about things but then surprise you when it actually happens and they cope better than you think.

We have not gone through this with DD but several children have joined her school over the past 4 years and they have all settled in really well. I am sure the school will support her with buddy systems etc and you never know, she may not be the only new child starting in September.

I would just say, try and treat is as an adventure and something really exciting. Easier said that done I know! You may have a bit of an unsettled summer with this hanging over you but just stay as upbeat as you can and come September you'll all be fine.

As for your reasons for moving, I am sure you have given this lots of thought and you will know what is best for you and your family more so than anyone giving you a hard time on here.

Best of luck.