Co-sleeping and starting school presented as bad by school

[camaleon]

Our school has recommended parents to stop co-sleeping with kids who are starting reception next September in order to help them with their independence and make it easier for them to start school.

Honestly I have not a view on co-sleeping for the general public. I know parents who do it and others who do not. I believe nobody should tell me how to sleep in general. I would have never thought it was linked to a smooth transition into their reception year and I can easily imagine children who co-sleep with brothers or sisters or grandparents due to lack of space in the house or whatever reason.

Is this a normal recommendation?

Shellye, that's it, luck. My first slept through from 16 weeks and is now 9. You know what, just don't have another. Or another two. You'll be living life in a zombie fashion like I was.

Sorry, there should be some kind of on there otherwise it sounds too confrontational. Sorry

Hindsight is wonderful thing, I should have shared bed with my children for four and something years, I would have gotten better sleep, at least they don't snore, What is it with the men and hitting 40's? Mine snores thunders every night , I am exhausted because of him not the kids.

Mine have always had a tendency to wake up after a few hours and want to come in with us. Not a problem really: tbh dh and I rarely have passionate sex at 2 o'clock in the morning.

I would be questioning why the school think it's their place to tell you how to live your home life. As others have said I would wonder how much understanding of attachment a teacher has to suggest that having a close realtionship makes a child more clingy to his or her parent.

I co-sleep with all 3 DC, have done since I was pg with DC3 and couldnt cope with getting up 7 or 8 times a night to one or other upset child. When DC3 was tiny she slept in a cot attached to the side, but since she was 6 months she has just had her own side of the bed with a bed guard. She's 2 now, DD1 is 4 and DS is 6...none of them have asked to move to their own beds and I see no reason to force them to do so.

There are lots of things parents do which cause kids problems at school, allowing them to sleep together with a parent is not detrimental to their behaviour or confidence so I dont see why it should be of concern to the school.

Jugglingmug, is there room for your dh/dp with you and three kids in the same bed?