DS is a bright and highly academic child. He's in year 6, and will shortly be moving to senior school.
We moved him at age 7 to a private prep school as he really didn't fit in at his state primary. The school has been great for him - has given him lots to do, keep him busy and really stretched him.
He has maintained an outstanding record of academic, music and drama achievements. I 'm honestly not boasting, but the fact is that he has the highest grades in two musical instruments, in drama awards, and he is consistently an 'A' student in terms of effort/ achievement/ presentation/ homework etc. He's had lead parts in school plays etc.
I know he sounds like a pain, but he's not, honestly, he's friendly, popular, hard-working and reliable. His teachers always get his help woth things, and trust him with tasks and responsibilities etc.
Earlier this year he won scholarships to two of his chosen schools for next year - one of which was the top scholarship offered.
The thing is - he never seems to get any sort of recognition or congratulation for his hard work and achievements 
. I know schools have to share the rewards around, but it feels as if he is being deliberately discriminated AGAINST!
He had really hoped to be Head Boy or House Captain. It changes every term, and each term he has come home dejected - having not been given any position of responsibility . It's not just me being a proud parent either - I've had numerous of his friends' parents telling me he was such a 'dead cert' for Head Boy. When he wasn't chosen again last term I had FIVE parents ask me why hadn't he been chosen, as they were really surprised/shocked.
Most of the other Head Boys/ Head Girls were all academic/ scholarly types, so it's not as if it's e.g. just the sporty ones that were chosen. Weirdly, the last Head Boy was one of the silly/ disruptive ones, which surprised everyone (but then his Mum DOES help a lot with the PTA... 
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Last night he asked me why he has never been rewarded for his hard work, and had he done something wrong? I didn't know what to say, because I fel the same. I just said he should feel good knowing that he has done well, and achieved the best he could. But I can tell that he's disappointed that his isn't one of the names on the boards that fill the school hall...
I just wish I could be a fly on the wall, and find out what conversations happen about these things.
Is there any premise under which I could ask the question about how children are chosen for recognition etc?
Please don't flame me for this (long) post... I know my son is fortunate to be bright etc, but he has also worked so hard to achieve what he has, and I feel that he is rather taken for granted really .