Sex education lessons (Oh God)

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DD is in yr5 and her year are to start these sometime soon. She is quite a naive girl in a lot of ways, isn't very streetwise and certainly has no interest in boys (Thank God!). She has recently noticed that she is getting a bit of underarm hair, and is not so naive that she doesn't know where else it may appear, IYKWIM, but that is really where her knowledge ends. My dilemma is should I leave the whole thing to school, talk to her before the S.E lessons begin, or leave a suitable book on her pillow?!. Oh heck, my little girl is growing up! How have others dealt with this? Thanks.

I don't think I ever asked my mum about this stuff. I do remember asking my aunt though, who explained to me about sperm and how they got in 'through there' (pointing) but gave no information on how the sperm actually traveled to said area. I remember being very frustrated and asking my mum (only time, I suppose) who wouldn't tell me either and seemed a bit pee'd off with my aunt.

Then Beth on neighbours got pregnant after kissing Brad (was that his name?) so I surmised that it involved sperm traveling from the mouth to the vagina, possibly via some convuluted throat route.

That didn't sit right with me.

Then my friend told me about blow jobs and that helped me to work it out (although she did mention that cups were involved, which was odd and disturbing in retrospect).

Then my friend was giving me a co-carry and another girl asked if we were having bum sex so I worked that out too.

In short, primary school kids are not as naive as their parents think. She probably knows lots already; I would be surprised if she didn't.

I understand that you asked the question in good faith but must say I'm surprised that you're surprised by some of the answers you've received.

I have a 7yr old, 5yr old and a 3yr old. My 7yr old DS pretty much knows the basics. He knows about seeds and eggs and how they come togather to make a baby. He also knows, because he asked, what periods are.

He was 5 when he asked what the tampax was. I simply explained that ladies have a house in their tummy and each month, if the Daddy's seed hasn't met up with the Mummy's egg and made a baby to grow in that house then the Mummy's body no longer needs it and it crumbles away. I explained that after this, a fresh one will start to grow waiting to see if it is needed and if not, it too will crumble. He took it all in his stride and just asked why it bothered to grow and crumble each month rather than stay put! I told him this was a very good question but that it happened so the baby would always have a new,fresh home.

My 5yr old DD1 has asked lots of question about how babies are made but not yet about periods. If she hasn't asked by the time she is 6yrs, I will definitely explain it to her. Likewise her sister when she's old enough to ask/be told.

I firmly believe that whilst it is important for schools to teach this programme, it is a parents job to make sure their children are given clear, factually correct answers and explanations before it is taught in school.

Just to add, we used the term sperm but when DS asked what it was as this was confusing him, we explained it was like seeds in liquid.

"ladies leak"

Dear God in Heaven!

At least op is trying to seek advice.

I know one mum of a 5 year old who, last month, when asked where she came from...the mum said, panicked, 'I got a seed and swallowed it and it grew into you'

unbelieveble!

IMVHO, I think providing your children with good sex ed is just as important as all the other things that good parents do such as reading with your child and taking them to the park.

It's all part of nurturing their curiosity, encouraging them to ask about the world and crucially, letting them know that they can talk to you about anything and you'll always tell them the truth presenting it in a loving way.