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Punishment for slow clothes changing - if this OK or 'weird'?

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Solo2 · 16/11/2010 12:15

One of my twin boys aged 9 - was upset this morning after I'd told him off for leaving behind his school jumper and blazer yesterday. He said he hadn't had time to remember those clothes/ put them on
last night.

Then it emerged that one of the sports teachers (a recently qualified young man) is v v strict about children changing quickly after Games and if you're not changed within 5 mins, this is the punishment:

He makes you change back into Games kit and then back into uniform again as quickly as you can and possibly more than once and he also keeps you in for morning break time and the whole of lunch break!

To me, this sounds way over the top, especially if the child involved might have dyspraxia or be anxious about changing quickly.

I also felt concerned that the teacher must therefore be watching a boy, on his own in the changing room, dress, undress and dress again and again....isn't that a bit 'weird'?

Additionally keeping the child in for both playtimes of the day, seems way ott too.

In this context, I could well understand why DS1 was upset this morning to the point of tears, as he and his twin are both v slow changers and he'd naturally do anything he could to change and get out of the cloakrooms at top speed. Remembering additional items of clothing, won't be his top priority. All children have to contend with tying a tie as well as the other usual clothes.

I verified the story with DS2 - who is v sensible and honest and both agreed with what DS1 had said and said one boy recently, at least, has been forced into this punishment - a boy who's first language is not English and who has also had other problems settling at school and feeling happy.

Can I have a MN reality check please? Is this just a normal method of discipline to help lazy children speed up changing their clothes? Am I reading too much into it?

Also, I can't possibly ask the teacher about it because a) I never see him in passing (despite the fact that he's also DS1s form teacher but is rarely around in the mornings and barely knows DS1. b) if I arrange a special meeting solely about this, it'll make a 'big deal' of it and seem as if I'm questioning the teacher's discipline and that might make him feel angry and undermined. c) I can't go above his head and ask another member of staff as that also would be perceived as making it a formal issue.

I just want to know to what extent this is being regularly manifested as a form of punishment and if he could find a different way of responding to slow changes - given that I'm worried one of my twins might be next in line?

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rabbitstew · 22/11/2010 15:03

But I think the problem here spreads far wider than the sports teacher and his attitude. His attitude is atrocious, but maybe he could be helped to get better if he had support from higher up. So it is merely yet another instance of management failure and management blaming the people it is failing to manage rather than being helpfully critical and suggesting better methods to them to improve things.

Hullygully · 22/11/2010 15:05

You are the customer. Complain.

And if there are lots of new and young teachers, it's because they are cheaper. Not a good thing.

I would email outlining concerns and request a meeting.

rabbitstew · 22/11/2010 15:18

Worse than being cheaper, it might also be because experienced people wouldn't touch the school with a bargepole at the moment, because of its reputation for poor management...

Not that I'm hammering home my point or anything.

rabbitstew · 22/11/2010 15:28

And Solo2, if you as a loyal parent feel the way you do, then how on earth do you think a new parent to the school might be feeling if her child is coming home the way your ds is each day? As an experienced client of the school, it is your duty to tackle this with the school for the benefit of everyone else, unless you want the whole school to nosedive. Your dss only love the school because it used to be great - these days it is less than perfect.

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