Mums with girls, why do you look "down" at boys and their mums?

[dietqueen]

The playground this morning was full of tuts,raised eyebrows and ushering DD away whislt the boys let of steam before a day of
school.

It's becoming more and more apparent that the Mum's of girls are standing one side of the playground the boys mums the other side. Even the Mums nights out seem to be only the Mums of girls

Party invitations have also gone out today and only girls invited...I understand that this divide does happen but I heard the mother saying "thank God im only having girls I couldnt bare a party with boys invited". I felt very hurt.

Depends on your perception of "blowing off steam" Surely if more than one parent was frowning and pulling their DC's out of the way then a reasonable person would assume their own child was at fault rather than the majority.

I feel a little envious of girls only mums, they always look neat and well dressed, pretty clothes, skirts and dainty shoes where as I with two boys, always seem to be scruffy and dressed for hiking!

I have two quite "posh" friends who only wanted girls.I think it had something to do with boys struggling socially, emotionally and at school or some other nonsense. I feel blessed to have two boys, they think I look great in my jeans and wellies

I haven't noticed anyone looking down on boys mums though.

We have a mixed sex playground as far as mums are concerned no looking down noses or excluding from parties.

Maybe you just have a 'girly' clique in your school. It only takes one to start the trend and others usually follow like the sheep they are. I have 2 boys and what you see is what you get. My sister has a wonderful daughter, but jeeze, she messes with her mum's head I just don't get it - why can't mums stick together. Some are so bloody awful to each other, when we all want to same thing - doesn't make sense

"I feel a little envious of girls only mums, they always look neat and well dressed, pretty clothes, skirts and dainty shoes where as I with two boys, always seem to be scruffy and dressed for hiking!"

You obviously have never met me then . I never have pretty shoes on and always feel scruffy. My friend of two boys however always looks immaculate. Gorgeous shoes and I've never seen her in the same outfit twice!

I don't look down on mums of boys either. My DD seems to be friends with more boys than girls and she's louder and more boisterous than all of them. Although she's only at preschool yet so maybe I should start thinking about starting a MOOG (Mum Of Only Girls) club next year.

Never experienced this. 2ds's.

I found some girls didn't want to come to boys' birthday parties as young as four as they "didn't like boys". It wasn't anything to do with judgey parents, though. My DS1 is now in year two, and while he had a mixed birthday party last year this year it will be only boys as he's only having ten. I don't think that's unusual, or suggests I don't like girls. It's just the everyday reality of most small children at seven!

We have thought about starting a MOB club, where we can use pink glitter and make butterflies .

I have one of each, elder DS younger DD, both ahem, lively.

I have definitely experienced SMOGs and if I am honest, tend to avoid them. I am not overly keen on certain really girly girls, and I have a good friend who has admitted she's not so fond of some very boisterous boys. It happens. Not every parent loves everyone else's children.

It doesn't pay, however, IME, to be overly sensitive about these things. Stick with the children and parents that you feel comfortable with, regardless of sex.

I have twins, a boy and a girl in different classes in the same school. I have to say that I have never witnessed this behaviour in either mum groups. I do feel sorry for you, is there anything you could do like try and be the first to encourage more interactions?

I have one of each DS first and never felt looked down upon but my DS is quiet and sensitive and was one of only two boys invited to girls parties. my dd will not invite boys to her parties although she has said she might do this year. I have tried to get her to play more with the boys as I would prefer her to play in a mixed group.