Mums with girls, why do you look "down" at boys and their mums?

[dietqueen]

The playground this morning was full of tuts,raised eyebrows and ushering DD away whislt the boys let of steam before a day of
school.

It's becoming more and more apparent that the Mum's of girls are standing one side of the playground the boys mums the other side. Even the Mums nights out seem to be only the Mums of girls

Party invitations have also gone out today and only girls invited...I understand that this divide does happen but I heard the mother saying "thank God im only having girls I couldnt bare a party with boys invited". I felt very hurt.

what a silly OP what about all the mums like me who have girls and boys - do we somehow have split personalities??

having said that in primary the children themselves do tend to play in single-sex groups

(and by the way it's clique so cliquey not clicky ...)

I have a quiet boy and boistrous girl. i frequently stand on my head trying to look down on myself.

I don't! Thank you very much! I do, however, look down on people who make sweeping generalisations like you do, OP!

Well I have one of each and have only heard one parent mutter that she was happy she had three girls and no son but then she is a nutter.

My daughter had three best girlfriends so not much mixing with the boys in her class I am afraid.

There's a reason for the term SMOG (Smug Mothers Of Girls) but I think you are being over sensitive. Just comfort yourself that they can tut now about how energetic, physical and noisy little boys are but at least you won't have to deal with teenage girls later on - don't be hurt by it, they just can't see the charm of boys, just the noise and dirt! (I have two DS and one DD btw).

I have boys and girls and I can't say I have noticed it at all.

nancy
In my post I was talking about one person where I believed it was shit parenting.
I used to have people look down their nose at me and DS2 because of his ASD - I didn't assume it was just because he was a boy.
I wasn't suggesting it was always shitness - I am sorry if you thought I was being mean

My point wasn't so much that the parents are shit - more that the OP may well be assuming that the issues is girls vs boys but i think that is unlikely. More likely to be something else IMO

Few of us live in such a bubble. Even if we only have DDs or DSs we often have much loved nephews or neices, or friends with different gender babies so we know more about children that this two dimensional stereotyping crap.

I don't. What a ridiculous thing to say. I am a mum of two girls but it isn't as though I had any say in the gender of my children, I would have been happy with either and still would.

I probably do talk more to the mums of other girls, but only because they are the mums of dd1's friends and we might be arranging for them to meet up after school or something. I am friendly now with some of the mums of dd1's friends now as we have had to chat about our dd's and got to know one another that way so I talk to them more as I know them better iyswim. But blank the mums of the boys? No.

The girls and boys at dd1's school seem to equally need to let off steam anyway.

And what would the mum of one of dd1's friends who has a son lower down the school do I wonder? Should we cease to speak to her or her to us because she now has a boy at the school.

Really odd OP.

If they're clicky, maybe they all have joint problems and so prefer to stay away from running children to avoid injury.

Have you suggested glucosamine sulphate to them?

This 'poor me' nonsense that some mothers of boys have taken to spouting is getting very tiresome. Children are children, all different. I only have a DD but I have a nephew and I have nannied boys. I have known lovely quiet boys and my DD is a hyperactive nightmare. Sounds to me like you're projecting just because of what one woman said.

erggh girls
YUK
i look down at them
and the POOR DADS

BadgersArse, you do right to pity dh. Poor sod.

Sits on hands.

Oh and dd1 only invited girls to her party this year. I think it's quite common for girls and boys to avoid one another socially right through primary school. It certainly was in my day (when it was all fields round ere). Doesn't mean there's a boy/girl parent divide.

People make odd comments all the time. It doesn't mean that everyone is so polarised.

I look down on these parents

I am a mum of a boy and also a mum of a girl. I now don't know whether to look look up or down at myself so shall just put head up arse instead

I have one of each, and you know mums through football and dance classes etc. My daughter is a tomboy, so I have the best of both worlds, and no one has everlooked down on me.

Really don't get this at all.
In our playground there is just as likely to be some girls chasing around and some boys sitting quietly having a chat.

I used to play football in the playground myself, right up until I discovered snogging boys was more fun than nutmegging them.

I only encountered it once ... when the mother of my daughter's then best friend tried to refuse to have boys at their joint birthday party (she had approached me about joining up). I made it clear that my DD had a lot of boys as friends and that they were not going to be excluded, so she (reluctantly) relented. She had two girls and openly expressed a preference for girls, because boys "were nasty, dirty and noisy"

I found our conversation very odd - it was positively snips & snails and puppy dog's tails-ish Mind you, DD is grown-up now and whilst this sort of thing is dying out, it sounds like it isn't dead yet.

Fair enough pagwatch. I suspect I am being oversensitive in light of my DS's behaviour: He is very boistrous, he does play fight and sometimes goes too far, he rarely listens to what I say and despite the fact he is reprimanded he actually couldn't care less.

And the thing is mums of boys seem to understand- if they see me looking exasperated or as I was this morning they sympathise, tell me their son is exactly the same or it is a phase that will pass.

Many of the mums of girls I know (including those I know through my dd so know I hope that I am decent person and a reasonable mother) spend a lot of time saying things like "god I don't know how you cope"; "he is suchhhhh hard work" and those immortal lines "I'm so glad I have girls".

So maybe the MN mums of girls don't behave like this but seriously in my corner of the world their are plenty that do.

I have one of each and I don't look down on anyone

IT'S CLIQUE AND IT'S PRONOUNCED KLEEK.

honestly.

Seriously? I have one of each, DS is eldest and can never imagine this happening.

They are young, fair enough, but I never will differentiate boys/girls in their classes.

Well today I have experienced PFB judginess when I didn't know it existed. Dd came out tonight asking if we could get the paints and crafts out because she wanted to make a jewellery box for some plastic tat she has acquired. I said of course and the mum next to me "it's so easy to accommodate them when you only have one isn't it? You should try it when you've got two it's far more difficult " Mind you she did shut up when I said " Oh she's not an only one, she's my fifth "
I have a mix of boys (3) and girls(2) but I do notice mums of only girls looking a bit horrified at the energy of some of the boys whereas I used to look envious at the girls only mums as they went into school pristine whereas my loud and lively boys looked like they had been dragged through a hedge backwards.