Anyone else irrationally obsessed with their dc academic abilities?

[mine24]

I try hard to not dwell on what book band, ability groups etc., my ds is on and in. The silly thing is he is only in year 1 and i know rationally that things will be up and down throughout his school life. But i find it hard not to worry and feel a bit competitive. Please help me chill out.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of trying to give your children what you didn't have as a child.

My mum was very academic but her parents couldn't afford for her to stay on at school and do A levels (my Grandpa had been a prisoner of war in Japan and had trouble holding doan a decent job afterwards due to depression). She desperately wanted things to be differently for her children, but my dad died when I was young and so she had to bring us up on her own with very littel money. She scrimped and saved so that I could do A levels and go to university, and I am enormously grateful to her as I feel that my life is so much better because of it. However I tend to put pressure on my DC to do even better than I did as they, in comparison, have everything on a plate. This is completely unrealistic and I really have to keep myself in check.