Reluctant reader - sanctions, bribery or just bloody give up?

[sethstarkaddersmum]

DD (Y1) does not like doing her reading.
I am fed up to the back teeth of trying to make her.

Please do not post helpful suggestions for making it more interesting, I have tried plenty of these and she's not having it.

I have tried the 'no tv/playing/snacks until you've done your reading' approach. This works but means 45 minutes of hell.

I have never tried bribery but I daresay it would work - 'If you do your reading you can have a sweet.' But I am reluctant to do this for obvious reasons.

Was discussing with MIL and she said 'Well, why don't you just let her not do it? She'll learn to read eventually.'
This seems very radical but has a certain appeal.

I just don't know any more. What do you do in these situations?

FWIW we have a house full of books, she loves having stories read to her, she loves making up and telling stories (doesn't mind writing them either) she just will not read for herself.

I posted the other day because she decided she wanted to read Pippi Longstocking (which is obviously too hard for her) and was given some great suggestions for other things to read, but she isn't interested in anything else.

I wouldn't look to a reading scheme to give a 'reading age' for a child. The only proper way to obtain a 'reading age'is by way of a properly administered standardised reading test.

I would say to the OP again that the ORT books are probably what is putting her child off reading; not their literary merit but the fact that they will contain words which she will be unable to work out because she doesn't have sufficient phonic knowledge.

I would try her with some decodable books; Ruth Miskin Ditty books, Dandelion Readers, Jolly Phonics, Jelly and Bean are some to look out for, in bookshops or on the web.

Or just leave her and don't make an issue of it...

My son was the same last year and I imagine I was labelled a disinterested mother as he probably read about 5 school reading books to me last year after I decided to just give up.

Well I gave up on the reading homework

What I did do was read to him, get him to read the odd word if he was in the mood. I picked up some easy 'read at home' ORT, jolly phonics, etc books and I didn't even given them to him but left them in the car, in his bedroom. I read some as bedtime stories.... I read the first 2 Harry Potters, Georges Marvellous Medicine, Mr Gum, Horrid Henery - so longer stories over weeks and months.

Now... just going into yr 2 and he's read 5 school books since the beginning of term

And now I am starting the battle to convince him that reading is about pleasure and not learning.

Give up... keep the school informed re: how you are dealing with it and don't stress x

sarahfreck What if they are not?
I came on this thread as I have the same questions as the OP and there is some fab advice. I felt myself get angry with DS when he was figetting, looking into space & jumping about. I found myself creating a negative experience which is the opposite of my intention. This morning he read while eating an apple which seemed to stop the figets and he read well. I will continue with the morning reading & read for pleasure at night to him. Not sure about bribery incentives yet! Or sticker charts as I suspect I won't keep them up.
Has anyone tried after school classes such as KUMON & Explore Learning

The teacher told me to give up with DD when she was in Year 1, just to continue to read to her and ask her questions because comprehension is a good skill she can learn without being able to read as this will help her is Year 2. We also played guess the word. She is still not a brilliant reader in Year 2 but still only 6 and will read when in a quiet room. It just takes a long time as she pretends to meditate in between each word, time consuming, but hey she is reading.