Why are girls so awful

[Lushmetender]

Why is it girls change around age 9? My first dd had a couple of friends but then they all dumped her at around age 9 and ddoesnt have any friends at school. Teacher put her on a trust thing where they meet other girls with difficulties where she’s met a few girls but they’re all a bit odd frankly. Now my other dd best friend has started being really horrible, ripping up her drawings, not wanting to partner with her and has not invited her to her party! What is it with girls???

I agree to an extent. My DD around this age is on the autism spectrum and she has always found it hard to make and maintain friendships with girls. She's usually just running round with the boys. Whenever she has felt isolated and left out, or received comments for being different, it's always from girls. Talking about it with her paediatrician, they said with boys what you see is what you get. The same usually can't be said for girls. And I think there must be some truth to it, all her friends are boys or girls who are also on the spectrum, despite the fact she has feminine interests.

I feel your pain. My dd is currently upset about being 1 of only 2 girls from the class not invited to a birthday sleepover. The girl whose sleepover it is has been discussing it all week and even sent a message last night via WhatsApp saying she was at a sleepover from one of dd’s best friends phone. She’s a ‘lovely’ girl who the teachers think is wonderful. Venting here so I don’t say anything hideous in front of dd but it sucks and I’m so upset for her.

My dd is 9 and has ASD she struggles massively with friendships but maybe you would think her 'odd'.?

Just a follow up to my previous story. Yesterday as I dropped my dd to school, three of her former 'besties' all walked past us, ignoring me and ignoring her. I was so hurt! These girls have all been in and out of my house for years - I've fed them, bought them birthday gifts, dried their tears etc etc. Now they won't even say hello to me OR her. Why are girls like this?? My dd, by the way, is being a real trooper about it all. She's made new friends, both at school and in her after-school hobbies, and is taking it all on the chin. I'm really proud of her. I just wish I didn't feel so hurt on her behalf. I'm dreading meeting their mothers

Sorry to hear this - sounds like your daughter has great resilience!