9 year old son asking questions about where babies come from 😕

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My 9 year old son has started asking questions about how babies are born and how they are made. The problem I have is, I'm not sure how much detail I should go into !! He's never asked anything about this stuff before so it's come as a bit of a shock !! I've bought the Usbourne book 'what is happening to me?' but after reading it I found it rather too descriptive !! Any advise would be most appreciated.

My mum gave me this book from the 70's (in about 1980) It's written by a dr from Denmark, so very matter of fact, simple and loving (very Scandinavian!). I've never found a better book and I've handed it into my dd when she was about 8 (who went and read with her 6 year old brother!).

It's out of print now and expensive but you can still get hold of copies via eBay etc.

I also got dd a book about puberty in general. She started her periods at 10.

Are you Amish!?
Just tell him the facts.
Ffs.

We had that book on our school library - we were about seven iirc!! I still remember my teacher reading from it

That baby looks like it's swimming out

I haven't seen those pics for 40 odd years

Just tell him. DD 9 knew about a sperm cell entering an egg cell, but didn't know how it got there. I asked her what she'd learnt about mating from nature programmes, and she said "I know they chew each other's ears a lot!" So I described what happened.

Dame, I love the book and I did as a kid. In many ways the baby made me laugh, but looking back the book was perfect. Not too much faff, writing. Told me all I needed to know from erections to crowning! It struck a perfect tone for me. My dd also likes it. She's nearly 12 now. She has coped brilliantly with sex-ed and has a healthy attitude,

I told my eldest where babies come from (repeatedly) and then did a real life demonstration because she was there when I gave birth. Holding her seconds old baby sibling, cord still attached, was by her own admission one of the best things ever.

Now I just have to explain it to said baby sibling who isn't a baby any more and I'm not prepared to continually educate my children this way

It must've been a brilliant book as it was so clear.

Seeing beardy man is like seeing an old friend after many years

My DD asked loads of questions up until the age of 4. I thought sex-ed would be a fiddle with her as she was so inquisitive. But at 7 she has never asked how the sed gets to the egg. I have trued to steer the conversation but she is simply not interested. I don't want to push a book on her. I have always been of the mindset that if she was old/ curious enough to ask a question she was old enough to have an answer. But what do you do when your child has no interest at all?

My dc is 9, he has known the biology since he asked where babies come from at the age of 3. He has yet to ask how the sperm actually gets into a female though since the 'special cuddle' conversation at about age 5 I don't know why people are so shocked that 9 year olds don't know this or think that they need to know the adult 'ins and outs' (pun intended) as early as possible?

As a single mum I'm more worried about the whole teenage boy puberty thing....I don't know how it feels to be a boy

If he's old enough to ask, he's old enough to know.

Finding this thread interesting as I have a 7&8 yr old dd and ds who haven't really pushed for too much info at the moment but I'm keen to tell before they find out from class mates (as I did which wasn't fun). Would you discuss together if you were me? Mine don't have any shyness at all with each other at the moment, share a bath and run about starkers 🙄.

• doddle not fiddle. Lol... why are all the typos so sexual 😆

And do we all just forget that some babies DONT come out of the vagina but are born via ceserean section? Or is that too much for children to hear?

Our Ds9 is eldest and has ASD and ADHD asked about aged 5 as he has to siblings by then.

We've always been honest and scientific with him ..... which helps him!

Although when discussing how the baby might be cut from the abdomen of pushed through the vagina .., he clearly expressed that the word vagina was horrid!!!

FizzBomb I think it's more about how they get into the stomach in the first place. The whole "coming out of the vagina/through the mummy's belly" thing is the easy part.

Yes fizz very true. Dc1 used to take great pleasure in telling dc2 that " I came out of mummy's tummy....but she POOED you out of her bum - ewwww"

Listen. If he is 9 then some of his school mates will be on the cusp of puberty. You need to fill in the blanks before someone else (a child) fills them in with nonsense. That Usbourne book is a good one.

But Angela the people on this thread that have told their version of the story it has, in simple terms gone (sperm meets egg)->(baby in womb)->(comes out of vagina)
In simple terms. 25% (I think) births in the uk are via c section so surely it's something that should be mentioned? why mention it at all if in your eyes it isn't important?!

Isn't it much easier to explain when they're younger and less embarrassed?

DD is five and knows the basics. Uterus, vaginas and eggs and sperm. Haven't done sex yet but she knows dads, penises and sperm and mums, ovaries and eggs. Sex seems fairly obvious.

Lean

Ds1 was vaginal delivery and ds2 was section, I look forward to telling them one day 'YOU left through the door and YOU left through the sun roof' 😂

(Don't worry i haven't deprived my kids of a sex education, they are 1 and 2 weeks old)

Mine wanted to know the entire procedure for sections and why one baby needs it and one doesn't and are fascinated by the scar. They have been told everything. I'm hoping for 2 surgeons in 30 years...

Lean kids love that gory stuff eh

I'm hoping for a mechanic and a dentist. Will save me a fecking fortune...