9 year old son asking questions about where babies come from 😕

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My 9 year old son has started asking questions about how babies are born and how they are made. The problem I have is, I'm not sure how much detail I should go into !! He's never asked anything about this stuff before so it's come as a bit of a shock !! I've bought the Usbourne book 'what is happening to me?' but after reading it I found it rather too descriptive !! Any advise would be most appreciated.

Movingonup is holier than though, yet you think basic sex education is 'tainting' a child?

I don't recall mentioning how I parent my children nicky. But I guess from your posts you're not a huge fan of facts.

Probably the wrong choice of words there !
I didn't want force information that he had no interest in ! Surely that takes some of the innocence away from them ? God I must be a prude !!!

You should provide him with full, frank and correct information otherwise he will have everything wrong from playground mutterings. My 8yo came home one day and said his 8yo friend told him that a blow job was sticking your willy up someone's bum. I had actually done the baby making sex Ed with my kids so had to go even further to cover oral sex!

I am actually very open an honest with him. But like I said in my original post, he has never had any interest or questions about this before. Why are people so judgmental ! None of you know me yet you assume that I am not truthful with my child. Can someone not ask for advise with having people judge them ?

*without not with

My DS didn't have a clue at 9 and still seemed to young but by 10 he was a totally different child, much more mature and ready to know. Each child learns at different times so those saying he should already know is a bit narrow minded.

Name change fail, OP?

HeCantBeSerious - no why ? It's an old nickname from school as I've got small feet 😂

Nicky- are you the OP?

Yes I am the op

Do you realise your NC failed?

I think 9 is definitely old enough to be told everything. My 5 year old knows about eggs and seeds and how babies grow/how women give birth etc. I think that's appropriate for her age.

I've always just told the truth when asked. My eldest never asked, so he's 17 now and still innocent.

My DTs started asking when they were 3, they've always wanted to know everything about everything, so I told them in a way they'd understand.

Now they're teens I'm not allowed to mention any words to do with human reproduction.

We've got the Usborne book, I think 9-11 is the right age for it.

DS1 is 4 and knows how his baby brother was made.

This thread is...odd.

Right, I'm out of here !! Thanks for the 'advice' - I've learnt so much from you outstanding parental role models, thank you 😉

Woman makes eggs. Man makes sperm. Egg is fertilised after man inserts his penis into vagina and deposits his sperm through ejaculation. Baby grows in mummy's womb getting food and nutrients for 9 months before it comes out of mums vag.

Job done. Answer any questions truthfully.

At 9 it is likely some of their class mates will be going through puberty so I think it's important they know the facts. My parents didn't talk to us about sex and were really shy about it- it meant I didn't talk to them about anything personal as I didn't want to embarrass them.

We've got that book op, I'm struggling to see how you find it too descriptive for a 9 year old?

Its a great book, to support separate conversations.

I'm not currently a fan of that usborbe book, I've brought it and read it but holding back giving it to ds. Havnt got the book on me right now but pretty sure the first page says something about puberty being mainly about sex. I think it's to do with changing from a child into an adult, is it not?

Blimey

I think it's to do with changing from a child into an adult, is it not?

It's part of becoming an adult, yes, i.e. someone with the capability of being a parent. So yes, it's to do with sex.

We've got that Usbourne book. I bought it when DS was 9 because they were talking about puberty at school. He's 11 now and still reads bits of it from time to time. He greatly enjoys the drawings of penises and working out which one his looks like! He's interested in puberty and the changes happening to his body. He knows all the facts about where babies come from, having asked when he was about 6. I don't think his innocence was shattered. He listened to my explanation and then went back to playing. Now he understands more about it he just thinks the whole thing sounds disgusting!

I have an old anatomy book I used at uni, DS is 6 and has spells of flicking through it and asking questions. Its pretty scientific and makes the whole thing very straightforward. It's given us a frame work where we can talk about reproduction in the same way we talk about all the other stuff in the body and it's all very matter of fact and also led by DS.