My child is the only child not invited to this party

These details are recognisable. What are the chances that one of the parents involved will read this?


If you are lurking, lying crying woman, explain yourself.

So first the son forgot to place invite in the envelope, then oh it was to do with transport

I had this last year with my dd she was leftout of a party invite, the mother herself asked the other mothers, dd never mentioned it to me, it was the other mothers who rang me in disgust that my dd had been left out, again a very small class and one other girll had been left out but as she was new to the class my dd felt the slight more. I think the transport excuse was used.

TBH I ignored it, and smiled and chatted with the mum and made a point of taking all the children for pizza and the cinema on my dds birthday as there were only 7 of them. She is now at a secondary school that none of her other classmates went to and loves it, as someone else said roll on next year for your ds!

I have since moved my other dcs to a bigger school and they are so much happier with loads of friends to choose from!

I am pretty certain that I have been more successful (academically, professionally) than the classmates who excluded and even bullied me. I would have thought that I would have been an obvious target in secondary school, as I had also internalised my role as the scapegoat, but I made friends easily and was happy there.

From the time I left primary school, I never saw that kind of behaviour again until recently, when I encountered it from other mothers. I have since heard that the ringleader mother was a school bully herself. She is clearly harking back to her glory days as Queen Bee, playing power games and enjoying her power to make others miserable.

Pictish: "Also hate the why-should-my-child-invite-someone-he-doesn't-like argument. I'll tell you why - because to not invite one child makes you a fucking bastard, and it really is that simple. We should be teaching our children kindness and fairness, and leaving one kid out is the polar opposite of those things."

I think this is great, and you are right.

Holeyghost - echoing with me!

By which I mean to say Holey you're articulating things I think sometimes.

Do the two boys normally get on well together? Or do you have any suspicions that this other boy just doesnt want him to be in with the group?

Lets face it, you cant expect everyone to be the best of mates.

This happened to my dd all the time at primary school - not the only one in the class but the only one out of the group she considered to be her friends. She is now in year 8 and has a lovely group of friends.

I got very upset by it and have had many sleepless nights and tears over it. Dd on the other hand was very grown up about it and made out not to care. But i do know that although It might not matter in the long run it does hurt.

I hope your son is ok and I wish you well for the future. I hope the other mother IS crying and feeling bad - childish I know but there you go!

I think its really weird when parents enable their dcs to behave dickishly. Do they want their dcs to grow up to be inconsiderate twats or something? because that is what is definately going to happen. Never mind OP fuck the stupid parents and fuck there childcare!
Ds will storm secondary school I'm sure!

Think they were being unreasonable, but you also. Their having childcare with your mother is surely their business not yours. Also your reaction wHen they spoke to you about using your mothers childcate was strange. Finally your reaction to them about your dd s party sounds rude. Maybe they were trying to avoid you, not your ds as you seem quite strident in your prev dealings with them

i feel so sorry for you son. kids and there parents who should know better can be so cruel. i had a similar problem with my ds2 when he was id yr 6 he only has 2 real friends and the 3 of them were inseparable. for his birthday that year he had a sleep over and only invited the 2 friends, well a few weeks before he had a fall out with one of them and didn't talk for about a week, they made up and both mothers assured me in the morning that there boys would be over in the night. well neither turned up and ds was in tears ( this is a boy who never shows emotion, so he must have felt bad). we managed to get hold of one of the boys mothers who said her son wasn't aloud to sleep due to bad behaviour ( he had thrown something at her) but he could come until 9 pm, so he did. we couldn't get hold of the other boy. the next day his mother said as my ds had told her son that if he couldn't come to the party he wouldn't be able to sleep? ( there never was a party just the two of them for a sleepover). my ds tried to keep his friendship going and believing there excuses until 2 weeks later we found out that they had there own sleepover that night at the second boys house after the one boy left at 9. i was fuming and expressed this to both mothers about how bad there behaviour was in letting this happen how spiteful and nasty it was to a 11yr old boy that both his best friends treat him like this on his birthday. well ds had nothing to so with them much after this and was a bit of a loner and i did worry about comp, but he made new friends, better friends and hopefully your ds will so the same.