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DD1(10) yr5 seems to be the only child in her class not remotely intersted in the opposite sex

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drivinmecrazy · 20/05/2011 13:33

Title says it all really. to her boys are still just one big pain she has to endure, while many of her friends are 'dating' and am hearing about all kinds of boy friend angst from their mothers.
DD1 is very polular, has many friends but just cannot understand the 'boy thing'. Many boys in her class tease and chase her, paying her lots of attention, DH & I have explained to her that this is more likely because they like her than not (she can't understand this, not sure I do, as an almost 40yo do either)
Are your yr5 girls still not interested?? Will she just come home one day enrapture??
She is taking 11plus in November and with a bit of luck will go to an all girls school, which I think will suit her down to the ground.
Am not worried, just curious about others DDs

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BeattieBow · 20/05/2011 13:35

my 10yo dd isn't at all interested in boys either. i don't think any of the girls are tbh.

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lljkk · 20/05/2011 13:47

DD & most of her mates have been quite keen on boys since Y1.
But no more so / no more early than girls were interested when I was a child (1970s).
I don't think DD herself has had a "boyfriend" since early Yr3, though.

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IndigoBell · 20/05/2011 14:03

In my DSs Y5 class they're not up to any of that stuff yet.......

They hate playing with the girls 'cause they tell the teacher when they get pushed accidently knocked over.

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 22/05/2011 06:08

Enjoy it. My DD is a small episode of a romanatic drama every day. She has always preferred men to women and adores a couple of boys every week.
She is not sexual in her enjoyment of the smellier other sex, but does seem to always have a crush.
unfortunately, one boy in her class adores her, she loathes him and his adoration manifests as kicking her.

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PlentyOfPrimroses · 22/05/2011 06:46

My DD is 19 and just getting interested now.

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bidibidi · 22/05/2011 15:02

That's what she wants you to think, PlentyofP. Wink

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CeliaFate · 06/06/2011 14:27

My dd's nearly 11 and her mates are "going out" with boys. I think dd's too scared and doesn't want to admit to liking anyone as she still wants to be a little girl. Long may it continue!

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weblette · 06/06/2011 14:36

Dd is 11 and not remotely interested, think having 3 v annoying younger brothers and being the only female Scout in her troop might have influenced her views somewhat Grin

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MynameisTerces · 06/06/2011 14:38

huh ? She's in year 5 ?

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Themumsnot · 06/06/2011 14:39

DD1 is in year 9 and DD2 in year 6. Neither of them is remotely interested in boys, nor are most of their friends. I think the idea of "boyfriend angst" in year 5 is rather repulsive tbh.

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MynameisTerces · 06/06/2011 14:41

dating in year five [shudder]

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startail · 06/06/2011 14:56

DD2 Y5 won't admit to any crushes herself, but entertains us with tales of the on of "relationships" of her classmates.
DD1 Y8 gets really fed up with the girls at school endlessly going on about who fancies who. She just chats (and fights) with the boys because they are better company than the girls because they don't spend their whole time talking about who fancies who, EastEnders or celebs.

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mummytime · 06/06/2011 14:57

Year 5 is too young! My 12/13 year old is still not really interested in boys (beyond Edward in Twilight). A friends son who had girlfriends when young is now openly gay.

Really if my daughter was surrounded by such a culture I would be getting her to horse-riding/guides etc. for some healthy influences.

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stealthsquiggle · 06/06/2011 15:09

Y5 with boyfriend issues Shock?

Admittedly only Y4, but DS has friends - of both genders - and observation of the year above doesn't suggest that changes radically in Y5.

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Fennel · 06/06/2011 15:13

My yr6 and yr 5 dds aren't interested in boys, though they do have boys as friends, it's still in a childish way. Though the boys' mothers often take it as more of a sexual thing than I do, so maybe from the outside they seem to be having boyfriends.

They do both lust after Orlando Bloom/Legolas, and squabble over who is going to marry him, but have no sexual interest in any real boys.

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EttiKetti · 08/06/2011 07:19

My yr4 dd has a boy who she says she "loves", which seems to be the phrase they use at school!! He certainly bought her an enormous lollipop from his half term foreign holiday :o

But that's as far as it goes, they never contact one another outside school or get up to anything in s book. Bless.

More concerning was my yr1 quiet, gentle DS coming home with tales of a girlfriend!!! She's really sweet but at SIX?! I don't think so!

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ohsolonely · 08/06/2011 07:26

My year 5 10yo DD is gointv through the same. We have had tears galore since Xmas because X says she must date Y and Y says she must be a lesbian if she does not date X.

She says she is bored at playtime and goes to the library with 1 other girl who is also not interested in the boys. She says they talk about grown up things about boys and sex and "rude stuff" and she does not like it and finds it boring.

Such a shame and seems so young to me but its obviously the way of the world. I am just thrilled she loves to still play Sylvanian Families.

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ZZZenAgain · 08/06/2011 09:27

dd 10 is not the least bit interested in "boyfriends" but she plays with boys the same as she always did

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chillistars · 10/07/2011 14:55

my 12 year old DD is not interested in boys, her friends don't seem to be that bothered either.

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chillistars · 10/07/2011 14:55

but now you will all say she is and i just don't know it lol

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