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Preschool education

Get advice from other Mumsnetters to find the best nursery for your child on our Preschool forum.

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What should I do/say

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 15:07

My daughter's bag has gone missing at pre-school and not sure if I can do anything about it.

At pick-up time we went to the coat room. There was a parent and child next to DD's hook who I didn't recognise. They stumbled through me to get out so my routine was all wrong. When I got home I realised I'd put DD's cardi in my bag and left her bag at pre-shcool. I rang pre-school to see if they could keep it safe but they said it was no on her hook or anywhere else.

Now, we went from pre-school, into car at back home. The bag must be at pre-school. What do I do/say. I rang again and left a message on their answer phone at 1pm asking them to look again but they haven't called back.

What do I say/do?

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 15:08

BTW, I have 1 yr old on my lap, hence typos.

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purpleturtle · 14/12/2009 15:11

What does she have in it?

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 14/12/2009 15:12

what a pain. When they do call you back, just explain what happened and say you are certain that the bag was at school and if it's not with them then it must have been taken home in error by another parent.
You might find that tomorrow it's been handed back in.

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 15:58

It had clothes in it - trousers, top, knickers.
They didn't call me back and they'll have gone home now.
I'm not sure what I can do if it is not handed in tomorrow.

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displayuntiltwelfthnight · 14/12/2009 16:02

if it's not handed back in then ask the preschool to send out a note to parents to double check that it hasn't gone home with them accidentally. It was in their care so preschoolo should make an effort to retrieve it.

purpleturtle · 14/12/2009 16:02

I wouldn't even have rung them, tbh. In all probability the bag is still there somewhere, and if not, then perhaps someone picked it up by mistake and will most likely return it.

Have a good look round at drop-off tomorrow, and if you don't find it, talk to a member of staff.

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 16:09

To be honest, it's the bag rather than the contents that we want back - - it was a birthday present and DD's favourite.

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MrsBadger · 14/12/2009 16:12

chill

even if it isn;t there tomorrow morning the person who's taken it home in error will realise soon enough

was it and all the contents named?

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 16:17

The bag has a sticker with DD's name on it and my mobile number.
Today was last proper day at pre-school, tomorrow in Xmas party and Wednesday the Nativity.
I shall try to chill but if it is not returned by Wednesday I'll not be pleased.

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MrsBadger · 14/12/2009 16:21

ah, didn't realise it was the last day
in that case await apologetic text

maybe think about naming the clothes - I do all dd's and all lost things have made it home so far...

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 14/12/2009 16:23

How is it the nursery's fault you were to distracted and/or another parent was to disctracted and your bag went home with the wrong child.

at the I won't be pleased comment. The bag will either show up when the other parent realises or it won't if your implying some strange woman and child "There was a parent and child next to DD's hook who I didn't recognise. They stumbled through me" came purposefully into the nursery to steal your bag

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/12/2009 22:38

I didn't say it was the nursery's fault and I've re-read what I said to check that I did say that.

I was not implying that someone walked off the street to steal it. The women next to DD's hook was someone I have not seen before and her child was not someone whose hook is close to my DD's but there were several people there that I did not recognise today and I am not suggesting that the pre-school let in several unknown parents and children!?!? However, the woman's behaviour was really quite odd.

I think I have a right not to be pleased if the bag isn't returned - would anyone be pleased? It has my phone number on it so there is little excuse for any of these items not to be returned.

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mumblecrumble · 14/12/2009 22:49

We got aletter home suggesting we leave nothing at nursery of value or of sentiment.

Crap advice in hindsight but possibly good for next time.

Really sorry. get in touch with them, see what they can do.... but otherwise... [shrug]

MrsBadger · 14/12/2009 22:54

bet the 'odd woman' thought you were behaving oddly too.

Really, chill.

(NB I realise that if this was me I would be beating myself up for being so careless, and possibly preparing myself to replace the treasured bag, rather than trying to pass the buck)

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 10:29

DD spotted the t-shirt that was in the bag poking out of the bin outside pre-school as we walked in today.

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displayuntiltwelfthnight · 15/12/2009 10:42

how odd - was the whole bag not in there?
wonder if it got lifted up with a bag of stuff for the bin and thrown in accidentally
I've gathered up piles of washing and then realise I've also picked up various toys in the pile that then end up in the laundry bin!

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 11:41

I did have a little look (din't get my hands in) but it wasn't in there. This was the public bin on the pavement, not part of the pre-school. It's all very odd.

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displayuntiltwelfthnight · 15/12/2009 11:44

bizarre indeed
did preschool not say anything about it then?

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 13:27

The pre-school are not too concerned because they think things will turn up as they usually do. To be fair, there is not much they can do about it except keep an eye out for the bag for me.

I mentioned it to a friend who has DS there too and she said she saw a pair of girl's knickers on top of the same bin yesterday so not sure what to make of it at all.

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hobbgoblin · 15/12/2009 13:31

Did the bag have a wrap of cocaine sewn in the stitching and 'odd other woman' had a sniffer dog with her because it sounds like this is what happened, y'know, from your OP

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 15:58

That's it exactly. My DD is a crack-head...

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hobbgoblin · 15/12/2009 18:27

thought so hence i can understand the melodrama

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 21:59

If it's a boring melodrama why bother making a contribution?
I've always found Mumsnet a supportive place but have put 2 threads on the Pre-school forum and they have been the 2 threads that have garnered unhelpful responses, presumably from people who rule their own school-gate.
You may have possession of the school-gate back. I'm sure that will make you feel really important in your little world.

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hobbgoblin · 15/12/2009 22:00

i didn't say boring

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/12/2009 22:07

OK, if it's a melodrama why bother making a contribution?
Anyway, I'll not anything else unless I have something new to say on the melodrama e.g. to report on DD's cold turkey that she is currently experiencing.

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