DH forgot to get DD from preschool

[Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes]

As the title says DH forgot to pick our three year old up. I did get there as soon as I could but was about twenty minutes late.

Will there be further fees etc or worried they may say she can’t attend. I obviously feel awful for DD and staff.

[Drummend01]

I doubt there will be extra fees for just 20 mins but depends on their policy, i imagine you signed their contract when you enrolled DD so it would say so in there?

For a one off I don’t see them being that strict

[Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes]

thank you ☺️

[SaltyGod]

You might get charged a late fee, depends on your contract.

They won’t ask you to leave, sometimes
parents are late for various reasons.

I’d be more concerned with why and how he forgot than the nursery tbh. What was his reason?

[WagWoofWalkMeeoow]

You'll have to look at your contract, there will be something about lateness.

i would definitely expect to pay for it, plus a fee/fine (or maybe just a higher rate). They MAY waive this for a 'first time offender'

they will not ask you to leave.

As for DH, it's one thing if he usually collects her every Friday, it's another if this was a one off & how he came to forget. If he's a good DH/Daddy I'd just put it down to one of those things, but take the pee all weekend & remind him on his pick up nights for a while.

[Coolblur]

I think you're worrying about the wrong thing. I'd go nuts if DH had ever done this! What was his excuse?

[Akire]

It happens parents can be late or get mixed up as to who’s collecting when. I would take in box chocolates or flowers in the next day in to say sorry as someone would have had to stay late. Unless it’s happening all the time noones going kick her out.

[LubaLuca]

@Akire

It happens parents can be late or get mixed up as to who’s collecting when. I would take in box chocolates or flowers in the next day in to say sorry as someone would have had to stay late. Unless it’s happening all the time noones going kick her out.

I agree. When you work with humans you expect the odd brain malfunction will inconvenience you every now and then. An apology should smooth things over, they're not going to kick her out.

I once forgot to get my son from a school disco. I felt awful, thought they'd judge me harshly. They laughed at me when I turned up on the verge of tears. He was helping them tidy up and finishing off the leftover hotdogs with the Head. These things happen, we're all fallible.

[Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes]

Thanks, it’s normally me who collects but I had an appointment so asked DH to and he just forgot. I do feel bad!

[SummerInSun]

Next time, tell him to set an alarm in his phone for 10 minutes before he'd have to leave to do pickup. Then when it goes off he'll think "why is that alarm going off - oh yes - my turn for pickup, got to go". I do that for anything I have to that's outside my usual routine, especially if I'm having to leave work early to do it and it's mission critical like child pickup or a medical appointment

[LauderSyme]

Does DH feel bad too?

Ds's nursery gave parents leeway the first time they were late, then charged by the half hour on any occasions after that.

[NYName]

@Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes

Thanks, it’s normally me who collects but I had an appointment so asked DH to and he just forgot. I do feel bad!

Next time he has to do this get him to set reminders. My DH used to have to occasionally pick up the kids from primary school on a Monday. He set a reminder to pop up on his computer 15 mins before he had to leave and then another at time he had to switch off computer and go.

[Thelootllama]

I cannot believe that you are not going absolutely fucking bad sit at your DP.

That is what you should be worrying about. That the ONE time you asked him to contribute, he just so happened to 'forget'

[SusieSussex]

I once forgot as 1 day of the 4 i used they finished at 12.30 and 3 they finished 1.30 and I got mixed up on the 12.30 day one time. They did charge me.

[bonzaitree]

Next time make him go and get her anyway. He can explain why he was late to the nursery and pay the late fees. Let him clean up his own mess.

[Devilsmommy]

@Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes

Thanks, it’s normally me who collects but I had an appointment so asked DH to and he just forgot. I do feel bad!

You shouldn't be feeling bad but your DH definitely should

[TheCompactPussycat]

@Coolblur

I think you're worrying about the wrong thing. I'd go nuts if DH had ever done this! What was his excuse?

I wonder what it's like to be so perfect. And aggressive.

Back in the normal world mistakes happen and people forget things. The child was with her usual carers so she was perfectly safe and looked after. Slightly annoying for the carers at her preschool but as a one-off, especially when the usual routine had changed, nothing to get too worried about.

[DreamItDoIt]

Goodness yes, we all need to remember that expecting a child's father to collect them, even just once, because we have appointment is a MASSIVE ask. Remember these Dads have A LOT on their plates and remembering something so small and unimportant is too much - I mean did you not remind him at least 10 times by test and phone? Well shame on you, how did you forget to do that? Rubbish.

So glad you rushed there to collect her and no harm done, to your DH I mean, I really hope he's not worried about this and so glad he didn't rush there himself and disrupt his day. Remember don't ask again, it's too complicated and difficult.

[Kittylala]

Dunno. Ask them

[Pootlepattle]

I have done this once with third child

totally mortified, I don’t know how it happened,I literally forgot! I think I was given a one off by the staff

child didn’t have any adverse affects but I was so embarrassed

[KaiserChefs]

Usually they tell you on the spot but there's usually about 2x fees after closing time at every nursery we've used (4 so far). If you apologised profusely enough and are usually on time, I'd expect them to let the first one go but to charge next time.
If you do get billed, please ensure DH does the life admin to pay the bill even if it's out of a joint account. He should be the one worrying about how much his cock up cost, not you.

[mynameiscalypso]

I did this with DS once. Was not my finest hour. I was only about 20 mins late in the end. Technically, I was supposed to give them some cash to cover the extra staff time but they waived it because they could see I was very upset and it only happened once in the three years he was there.

[SecondUsername4me]

Bet he doesn't forget ad hoc stuff with friends!

[LittleGreenDragons]

@Geeseflysouthtowarmerclimes

Thanks, it’s normally me who collects but I had an appointment so asked DH to and he just forgot. I do feel bad!

You were at an appointment so I assume you had to take a phone call and leave?

You should have called her father and told him to pick her up because you were busy. Let him deal with the consequences of "forgetting" his child the one time you ask him.

[ThursdayTomorrow]

I’ve forgotten my own kids at various clubs and play dates. I felt terrible but sometimes if you have a lot on, or there is a change to the normal routine, it happens.

[MerryMarigold]

I work in a preschool and we have the regular offenders who are 5 to 10 mins late v regularly. They probably get up to 20 mins in a week. I think a small box of Choc or flowers for whoever had to stay late would show you are sorry but don't sweat it if you're usually on time. Incidentally, why didn't he get her late if you were at the appointment?