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Giving a term’s notice - changing school

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Sillybonkers · 23/03/2019 20:50

We have decided to change school and will be giving a term’s notice in a couple of weeks, DD5 to leave at the end of the summer term.

Is there anything I should know? Will the school act differently toward my daughter as they know she is not staying on? We are moving because the school is not the right fit, we have discussed this with the school before but our moving will come out of the blue because they had made an attempt to help with the concerns we had, it’s just not working out.

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Sillybonkers · 23/03/2019 20:51

Independent school btw, moving to another in same city. A rival a suppose.

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Sillybonkers · 23/03/2019 22:07

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 08:18

Anyone?

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MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 08:21

Just do it.

MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 08:22

We took DS1 out of state primary and put him in private school. I emailed HT to say he was leaving in 3 days and did not even get a reply...

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 08:25

DD will be there until summer. The fees have already been paid. Plus we will not get our deposit back unless we give a term’s notice.

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pamplemoussed · 24/03/2019 08:37

We did this when dd was in year 2, moved her to another independent for year 3. I had already discussed that I was not happy with the school so it was not a big shock to them. It wasn’t the school that was a bit sniffy , it was some of the other parents. I don’t believe it affected my dd at school, day 2 day at all though. She was one of 3 leaving that year , so they are used to movement.

MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 08:38

So what is your question? You've made up your mind. Just do it. They won't be pleased but so what? You could move your child immediately to the new school. This is what I would do. Then they are not worried over the summer about starting a new school. You pay fees at both school for a term and get your deposit back.

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 08:47

MrPickles73 that’s thousands of pounds we’d lose!

My question is is there a way to go about this? I don’t want them treating my daughter differently for her last term.

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MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 08:52

It's the only solution I can see to them treating your child differently. I negotiated a term free at the private school so you try that at your new school?
As the other poster said the other parents will be more of a challenge. It will be socially difficult for your child to be there for a term knowing they are leaving.
Some of the other parents at our kids state primary now pretty much blank us because we have made a different educational choice yo them. In their eyes wgat is good enough for them is not good enough for us... You should prepare yourself for this if you are going to hang about for another term. If I was you I would get out at the end of this term..

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 08:54

The parents won’t know unless the school tells them.

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Comefromaway · 24/03/2019 08:56

The teachers won’t care.

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 08:59

Comefromaway thank you, that’s good to hear.

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pamplemoussed · 24/03/2019 09:06

My daughter was not treated any differently by teachers, they are professionals. When someone reigns from your workplace , you are adult about it. It’s the same. Does your child know they are leaving ? If so, they will tell their friends and they will tell their parents. You can expect a small child to keep it a secret.

Also in our school there was a waiting list and they let a new child join the minute we resigned so there was an extra pupil for the term. The other parents were not so thrilled about that..

pamplemoussed · 24/03/2019 09:06

Can’t expect a small child ...

Comefromaway · 24/03/2019 09:07

At dd’s school one girl who was leaving for a rival school actually won the year group prize that year.

ReggieWoo · 24/03/2019 09:09

No one will care less. Happens all the time, some come from place A, others leave to go to place A.

Very normal.

LIZS · 24/03/2019 09:10

They will change teachers anyway in September so it won't make any difference to her current one. Just be aware there may be a transition day in June/July where the class meet their teacher for next year and do group activities which won't be rekevant to your dc. Maybe she could visit her new school instead that day.

MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 09:23

Your child will tell all the other kids in under 10 seconds...

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 09:24

At the moment DD doesn’t know, she thinks it’s the school she will be going to after finishing this one.

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YouBumder · 24/03/2019 09:27

If you’ve already paid the fees why do you need to tell them now? Can’t you wait until the fees for next session would be due and tell them then?

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Sillybonkers · 24/03/2019 11:02

They have a term’s fees as a deposit. We’d lose that.

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LIZS · 24/03/2019 11:17

Just give the notice at Easter and have a fresh start in September.

MrPickles73 · 24/03/2019 11:28

Is there more to this than you are letting on because you seem to be making heavy weather of something that on the face of it is straightforward. The teachers are professionals and used to kids coming and going...

Comefromaway · 24/03/2019 13:41

Some schools break up on Friday. The OP will need to give notice before this term ends or she will be liable for September’s fees.