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Preschool education

Get advice from other Mumsnetters to find the best nursery for your child on our Preschool forum.

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forced to buy end of term presents

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loubes28 · 04/07/2007 05:54

I am effectively being forced to contribute to a computer for the pre-school by a bossy mum using emotional blackmail against me.What do I do?

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BBBee · 07/07/2007 07:56

that woman is a bossy bitch - she is doing something kind I give you that but going baout it in a bossy and inconsiderate way.

Don't give and don't givew an excuse.

tatt · 07/07/2007 08:03

tell her to get the computer from freecycle or ask if the local school will pass on an old one.

throckenholt · 07/07/2007 08:07

I can't see any real need for a computer for pre-schoolers - playdo, climbing frames, paint and glue are much more useful.

Oblomov · 07/07/2007 08:09

Dob her in to your teacher. You don't want your child to be excluded. Horrible woman. I do like the computer idea though. Alot of nurseries have them.

Oblomov · 07/07/2007 08:10

I wasn't comfortable with ds on a compueter at first. But it seems to be the norm. He can paint a picture and save it to his own file !!!! and he is only 3.5. I don't let him on our home computer though.

mummytoamonkey · 09/07/2007 18:39

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hana · 09/07/2007 18:41

why wouldn't you be comfortable with your son on a computer?

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loubes28 · 09/07/2007 22:42

my son uses the computer at home very competantly.I prefer him to learn other skills at pre-school.

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loubes28 · 09/07/2007 22:57

My older child is now sick and I just can't be bothered to get involved with the end of term present/sports day/put the kids in front of the parents for yet another show kind of rubbish(would the parents get up and put on a show for a room full of giants with camcorders?).
I have communicated my unease with the whole thing to one of the teachers-even though the woman has said not to tell the pre-school anything about it as it would spoil the surprise-who was shocked and agreed with me.By telling us not to tell anyone she is effectively isolating and disempowering us.Is this woman a control freak or what?
If it were my pre-school I'd want to know what nutty mothers were up to-I'm going to suggest the teacher tells her.
I'm not the only disgruntled mother-there are at least 6 of us but we don't know what the rest of them think.
Also the mother went up to one of my friends and asked her for the money-my friend said she hadn't decided if she would contribute or not.
has anyone come across anything like this before-I certainly haven't

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Bouquetsofdynomite · 11/07/2007 22:29

Well done for squealing, if she's on the comittee too they'd be able to discuss it at a meeting and clarify what fundraising methods are acceptable.
Are we not always telling our kids to tell a teacher if they are being bullied?

AttilaTheMum · 11/07/2007 22:32

Is she sure the pre-school actually wants a computer....

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loubes28 · 15/07/2007 22:13

There doesn't seem to be a committee.Should there be?
Apparently a computer waas on the wish list.I agree that it would have been better to get one donated or go to freecycle,but it has already been bought.
The sportsday was abit of a washout-not many of us hung about and the photo was done at the very end-so I wasn't too bothered.
I am not going to the end of term party where it will be presented.I will however give booktokens as I think they are more usefull.
Luckily none of my son's friends have contributed so none of them will be on the mousemat-£5.99 if anyone wants one!!!!

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