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Talk me though your really premature birth.

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WorzselMincepieYummage · 11/12/2008 14:55

I am currently 24+5 with a baby who's likely to be born soon due to pprom. He's currently breech and the consultants said if i go in to about before 28 weeks i'll be able to have a vaginal breech birth which i am happy with, if he doesn't turn after 28 weeks then i'll have to have a section and i am fine with that too.

I am just wondering how really prem labours work.. i know thats probably a stupid question but do they take as long, are they as painfull and will i be able to move around etc etc.. will i even have to push ?

My daughter was born at 32 weeks and my labour was as i imagine a term labour to be, i couldnt move around due to monitoring but everything else was the same. it took 4 hours, she was 4lb8oz and i went though all the stages and it really bloody hurt. This baby is likely to arrive long before then so i excect it to be different but dont really know what to expect.

Another worry is that if i need pain relief then i dont know what to have, i had meptid and gas & air with dd but i was so off my head for a lot of the labour i dont really remember it. I need to be able to remember this one as our baby's likely to be very ill or be born asleep so i want to be able to remember it, not feel completly spangled, I am going to need my memories.

Would it be worth considering an epidural so i dont feel anything which is likely to alter my perception or is it likely to happen so fast i wont need anything ?

x sarah

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Swedes · 24/12/2008 12:30

Worzel - Good luck. Will be thinking of you.

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 24/12/2008 18:13

Just posted on your other thread - thinking of you!! (This is the first thread I check every morning )
Hoping everything's ok - wishing you and your family a merry Christmas!
(((HUGS))) to you and Baby W!

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 25/12/2008 19:35

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TinselBaublesMistletoe · 26/12/2008 03:00

Pleased to hear everything is going so well and that you're so far along.

Thanks Bronze, I'm still hanging in I keep reminding myself that if I can get to the weekend we'll probably have a night or two on the unit. I had a small show today and I think I've dropped, so things could be starting off but I'm happy now as I'm so far along.

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WorzselMincepieYummage · 26/12/2008 11:41

Oooo tinsel, how exciting !

good luck ! x

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anonandlikeit · 26/12/2008 20:38

I have been following this thread & pleased to see you are still hanging in there.
My ds2 was born at 28 wks. emergency c section so no labour to go through.

Just wanted to send you & your baby lots of good wishes

TinselBaublesMistletoe · 27/12/2008 14:03

Isn't it funny when you go through so much during pregnancy to be excited at the thought of giving birth at a date that would freak most poeple out? I've just realised I've only got three weeks before they want to do the elective anyway! I guess we have become so grateful for each day that we have a different perspective on prematurity.

SparklyGothKat · 27/12/2008 14:08

how far are you now tinsel??

slavetomykids · 27/12/2008 14:09

Ds was born at 27 weeks C/s so no labour.
My best friends baby was born at 23.5 weeks vaginal labour, her waters broke and they couldn't contain him, she said it was no different to her vaginal birth with her full term dd. Short and painful. Regardless of gestation, all births are different.

TinselBaublesMistletoe · 27/12/2008 14:36

35 weeks tomorrow, it was 10 weeks ago today I was taken to Liverpool so I'm over the moon!

SparklyGothKat · 27/12/2008 14:50

wow well done!!! Ds1 was born at 35 weeks and came home with me.. no scbu stay for him..

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WorzselMincepieYummage · 27/12/2008 14:53

35 weeks ! wow you have done so well to get that far, you must be so excited

Anything else happening after the show ?

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mediocrebronze · 27/12/2008 14:56

Wow 35 weeks. These last few weeks have gone quickly. You've done amazingly and I know what you mean about 35 weeks feels ok when it could have been a lot less like 25 weeks. Its only 2 weeks off term!

How're you doing Worszel. I've lost track of where you are. Is it about 27 weeks now?

I'm 23+1 today so feeling good I've almost got to viability. I think I'm going to go overdue though. Wouldn't that be good.

WorzselMummage · 27/12/2008 15:23

16 weeks overdue would be amazing wouldn't it

27+1 i am, incredible.

We're not doing to badly are we !

TinselBaublesMistletoe · 27/12/2008 15:38

I've been counting down how long FiFi would have to stay in the NNU and I think we're at a point where it may be an overnight stay at most but we may be on transition for a few days.

I can't believe how quickly it's gone or that it has! When we were in Liverpool I really thought she was coming. I remember having to make the decision about whether they would fight for her at birth and it made it so real, I really thought "this is it". (BTW I said that she was to be given every chance and only when they've tried everything was the decision to be made, not at birth).

I have been having contractions, but I have for ten weeks and I don't know how to take them anymore.

I?m under orders not to go into labour as my grandparents are down from Manchester, they came to see us yesterday and my grandma was taken ill. Called an ambulance and she?s in the local hospital, they don?t know what is wrong with her and nothing is responding, they said there is an infection and she has fluid on her heart and lungs. I have this really horrible thought going through my head about going into labour now and (not wanting to say it out loud) the circle of life.

lizzytee · 27/12/2008 15:51

Lovin' those gestations ladies. Worszel, still very early but a different ball game to 24 weeks.

slavetomykids · 27/12/2008 15:55

Tinsel.
Dh's lovely granddad was 84 when ds was born at 27 weeks.
Dh's mam and stepdad, had a call from the home he was living in to say he was ill and the priest and doctor had been called. Dh's mam put her mobile down from that convo, to immediatly have a phone call from dh to say I was to have the baby with in the next half hour as I was dying.
She said it was the hardest choice of her life, her dad or her son ... they both needed her.
She went to her dad. By the time she had got there he was having the last rights and the doctor gave him an hour Well 1 hour later ds had been born and dgreat grandad was sitting up drinking tea.
Dmil came to visit us.
DGGrandad and mil were talking a week later about ds and He said
"But, hen I had to pop out so Ds could come in, God told me there is only so much room you know!" mil was over the moon with that one!
Anyway DGGrandad died before ds 'true' birthdate in the end. So I believe that what he said is true.

WorzselMummage · 27/12/2008 15:56

I hope she starts to improve soon then, sounds like a worrying time for you.

I cant imagine having contractions for 10 weeks has been much fun, you must be exhausted ! are they regular ?

slavetomykids · 27/12/2008 15:58

Bum. I made a mistake, GreatGrandad was NINETY FOUR

TinselBaublesMistletoe · 27/12/2008 16:02

Wow slave. Did he know what had happened?

Worzel, I'm wrecked! I struggle to sleep and often startle (like a baby) in my sleep during contractions punching TBD in the face! I don't go more than an hour without a contraction, but the further on I've gone the more often they come. When I have a false start they pick up to about 2 minutes then take a few days to drop back down to normal.

WorzselMummage · 27/12/2008 16:10

Bloody hell, Nightmare !

Still, your on the home stretch now eh, 3 weeks max

slavetomykids · 27/12/2008 16:11

Yeah Tinsel he did now that he was dying the day ds was born. He was really matter of fact about it. As far as DGGranddad was concerned He was 94 and wanted his wife and was quite happy to die. He wanted ds to live. He met ds just the once, although neither were strong enough for ds to be taken out of his incubator for a cuddle. He left ds all of his religous icons and we gave ds his middle name. He is an extra special little boy anyway (cp and severe learning difficulties) so he is Dmil (only) special Grandson.

mediocrebronze · 27/12/2008 16:48

My daughter has my grans name as her middle name. My gran died when I was in hospital just before I had dd. I wish they had met but I like to think my gran gave my daughter that little bit of extra strength she needed to survive.

slavetomykids · 27/12/2008 17:44

Mediocre, thats what mil and I think about DGGrandfather, and as sure as I am sitting here ds needed the extra strength.

TinselBaublesMistletoe · 28/12/2008 01:34

Can I join in? Tink was born on her G-Grandmother's birthday 26 years after she died and she has my mother's (it was her mother's birthday) name (the Hebrew version of it) as her middle name. We've been convinced that FiFi would come for Mum's birthday as it was almost to the day when Tink was born.

I can't believe that she will be here within the next three weeks! I don't think it's going to be long, my bump has almost disappeared I noticed today because I've dropped.