Failed Abortion- Continued pregnancy after finding out..

[ceecee98]

Hi , I have came across this page after having a disappointing conversion with a doctor ( who deals with abortions), looking everywhere for the answer to my question and by the looks off things I am not the only one. Although it very tuff to have to go through this I am glad the honesty I see , The male doctor that scan myself to conform that the pregnancy is continuing.. conformed that although 3+weeks ago I decided to go though with an abortion at home.. 1 tablet then 48hr later 4 inserted and later on that day 4 oral (personal at this moment I'm not sure if I did in fact take the oral one my brain is mush).. after these I experience an upsetting loss of blood which brought the guilt on really hard, but I did accept that I made the decision. 3 weeks later I took the test that was given but came back invalid so took myself to asda and bought a clear blue ( week test ) came back positive 3+ with this information I contact and spoke with some staff regarding this and I got booked in for a scan the next day as prior I thought I may have been further ahead on in the pregnancy so they wanted to confirm the dates. So first scan of this ''pregnancy' I went to the gynaecologist and had a scan done coming back an active pregnancy at 8 weeks, asking what my next step was , straight away I said I would like to continue my pregnancy , personally the doctor was not amused or maybe confused.. couldn't answer any question I had just straight to the point that he has never came across this in his time at the hospital meaning ( a women going through with an abortion for it to fail then continue with it) which got me really upset and worried I followed on by asking on why I pasted so much blood in the first place for it not to off completed.. I never got a answer I left quite upset , the 2 nurses at the front desk stopped me and spoke with me for 30 minute reassuring me , I'm so glad they did as I was a nerves reek. So I am booked in @ a maternity hospital in 2 weeks for a 10 weeks scan, to confirm that the heart beat is there( as he said it not shown until then...) I'm happy but really hating on myself for the fact I may have harmed a health child. I don't believe anyone has the answers for each person experience as all are complete different I think after reading and taking in everyone's situation my question has changed to. After finding out that you are still pregnant , and changing you mind to continue with that, did you receive support? knowledge? and help understanding the what ifs etc.. My apologies if this wasn't the best on explaining something, I would apricate any type of response, but if not I send my love to all you strong ladys Take Care X

First fingers crossed. You are entitled to change your mind- I did after the first tablet but it didn't stay. There's a few cases on here of women who went on to have their babies with no issues. If you search mumsnet you may find them. Good luck

Ceecee98, I'm so glad those nurses talked to you and gave you some reassurance. Current research does show that if the mifepristone does not work, there is a very low chance of any kind of fetal deformity. For most mums, if the pregnancy does continue, the baby develops normally. It's good that you're going to the maternity hospital so you can know you're doing everything for the best outcome possible. Don't feel guilty, you got clarity on what you truly want, and I hope your pregnancy will go smoothly and you can give your child all the love you have. Don't feel bad, take good care of yourself, be at peace, dear.

Update; 10 week scan went ahead! Little baby growing away with a strong heart beat❤️ , other scan at 12week , Happy to be continuing with the pregnancy, Just praying for a health pregnancy x Take care Lady's wishing you all the best!

That's such good news, Ceecee. My heart feels so glad for you. Will be praying for you too. Thanks for letting us know!

Hi, this happened to me.
I have a beautiful healthy 9 month old baby.
I understand how scary it was but I was so relieved finding out that it didn’t work even after a week of bleeding.
my consultant did loads of checks on the baby throughout and she said it was an extremely low risk to abnormalities.

Hi , Yes I think the negative thoughts have cleared from my mind , All scans looking great BABY GIRL making her way in to a family for 4 young boys! Super happy praying all ends well ♡ Appreciate your comment 🙏 Wishing you and your Family A Happy Christmas, Be Safe xo

I was 3 weeks pregnant,I took medical abortion pills,,my cramping was really bad all night I couldn't sleep..but the bleeding was very little the clot was in a very small size and that's it,in the morning,the bleeding was very very light..as per now I hardly wear a pad,a pant liner is enough and its just a day since I did the abortion,,am worried it might not be successful please advice me guys

This is such a beautiful vulnerable post,
right now I’m 11 weeks took 4 misoprostol tablets vaginally only. and went for a checkup there’s a heartbeat and everything looks good for now. I’m just scared if the pills I took will make it grow with some deformation.

Honestly that was my biggest low thoughts , I took it very personally wondering how my partner would feel on the out comes of the health of the child, but honeslt yes we made a decision because at that moment there was a differcult decision to be made and although It never ended the pregnancy. If I could go back and prepare myself with a better birth control I would 100% do so but at this moment in time , I am 23 Weeks pregnant with my first baby girl completing my family of 4 boys. I have most definitely lost my mind!

Scan information- I have a low placenta. Staff aren't worrying, though it might just mean a c-seaction at the time of labour.
She is very stubborn, not a fan of the nhs scanning ladies, sleeping all day, and partying at night lol. No pregnancy symptoms what so every.
I wish you all the best on your journey and hope you have alot of support guiding you 😊 , but if not you have yourself so stay strong keep your mind full off positive thoughts Good Luck with the year ahead 🥰

Thanks for your quick response and all the love aw! If I could go back I would prepare way better aswell by using brith control aswell. Thank you for an amazing update and I wish you nothing but the best. I’m glad you’re having a really good pregnancy 💕 definitely makes me feel better.

Am scared too, did d/c at 8week , but still pregnant after a week went for scan and the heartbeat is there.
Am just scared of any deformation

That’s so interesting! A D and C usually they will physically see the procedure done. Maybe it was twins I heard about that before and I seen a YouTube video of a women who was a twin of a mother who was going through an abortion. She came out perfectly fine.

if you want to have a child at this time, do it. but if you feel like it’s not the time you should schedule another D and C.

update: they seen some complications. My baby has ectopia cordis which opens from the stomach to heart. The ultrasound is so graphic and very sad to look at. They said it’s not the pills I took nothing I ate. It’s just really bad luck. I am so sad at this moment but I just had to update you guys, because you guys were my support system over the past weeks. The survival rate is very low as 3 doctors told me. so I booked a D&C just on the waiting list now.

I had a medical abortion early this year using misoprostol 2 doses orally and 1 dose vaginally accompanied with oxytocin injection 💉, on 4 weeks old fetus.
On the first day, I passed out tissue, like heavy tissues, i mean. I bled heavily for 4 days and spotings went for 10 days too.
With all these, I was thinking the abortion was successful.

Until Last week, I started feeling stomach ache, and the nausea increased, I rushed to my nurse and complained. She said I should go for a pregnancy test, I did the test and it was positive.

Then she recommended that I should go for a scan. On the scan, I was told the fetus is active (15 weeks and 6 days old.)

I took the scan result to the Doctor, I actually wanted him to help me terminate the pregnancy because am scared of the effect of the misoprostol on the baby.( I showed him the video of the large tissue I passed out that I recorded)

But, the doctor said the baby is safe and can only recommend I go for abnormalities test between 18-20 weeks of pregnancy to confirm if the baby is deformed or not.
I left him and went to another doctor for D/C he also said the baby had been formed @ 15 week already, that the abortion will have complications.
I was left with no option than to keep the pregnancy. But, i am scared, I don't know what to do. I always feel guilty about hurting an innocent child.
I hope the baby will be fine and not deformed.

Did you ever gi through with this ? I'm in the same situation. Baby's the same size, 7 was now 9. I feel everything your saying & wondered what you decided & how it is. This was posted 6 years ago so I don't expect you to answer but maybe you will !

Hi , the post was only last year , not 6 years ago maybe around 6/7 months.

36weeks
So I currently I'm still pregnant, just back from my scan today to determine if I was going to a c-section (@37weeks) or natural delivery. Due to having a low placenta at my 32 week scan , so as of today everything is clear and healthy for a natural labour, and will have my beautiful baby girl at my due date time. Although it have been a a very positive pregnancy journey, life has been tough and thoughts are still overwhelming for the future.

I understand how hard it is right now to make either decision, but alot changes in a few weeks and months so consider you future plans as a result, although things change each day so there is no telling where you will end up , or how positive or negative a child or other children brought into your life.

Wish you all the best ❤️

Thank you so much for responding! I think I saw 2018 on someone else post & my mom brain went on lol. But thank you for responding ! I appreciate the kind words & your response give me alot of hope. I have an appointment tomorrow for a follow up.

Hi I had a termination
I just missed my period so got the pills
I ended up having 5 day period type bleed two days after the last internal pills were done
, since I’ve had od bits of nausea
and hungry loads still and this morning I woke up then seen my little girl slept in her room again all night and I started crying 😭 then I was fine
still bloated
could it not of worked ?
took first pill 25th April if helps
took normal pregnancy tests and are positive not uber dark but very there to see
and can’t find the bpas one they sent me

Baby Girl was born on Sunday Morning 🩷

No issue with labour nor delivery, she is absolutely perfect in every way 🩷

Although everything is tough I'm glad I'm were I am at 🩷

Lady's do what's best for you and your family's Big Hugs and Kisses from a mother of 4 boys & baby girl 🩷

It does NOT take a village to raise a child , 1 strong mamma with love to give we all have our bad days so don't let the Internet mess with you head.

Congratulations on your little girl 💕xxxx

i don’t no what’s happening with me
but I’m just gunna keep testing and see if owt changes I guess xx

I’m having this same issue right now . Was everything okay ? I’m concerned that it was not successful but im hoping that if it wasn’t there isn’t going to be anything wrong with my baby .

My pill abortion failed and see this post . I’m really struggling I must of only been a week and a half pregnant as I’m now 5.2 weeks and had abortion 3.5 weeks ago . But I really regretted it and I feel I can’t make my mind up to continue or not for reasons due to abnormalities. All that is showing is a yolk sack no heart beat . As all my symptoms did disappear but then come back . So I’m worried was starved of HCG or something so will have abnormalities. I don’t know how it works but I have come on here for some support :(

this gives me hope i took the first tablet but regret it so wonder will pregnancy continue im 9 weeks 3 days took 24 hours ago no bleeding or cramps yet just feel usual sickness

I was told it's a 50/50 chance- if the pregnancy continues there is a low risk of it the tablet causing problems l. Eg it either ends the pregnancy or things are ok. Sometimes clinics tell you to continue with the tablets but that's outdated advice. Fingers crossed you get the outcome you hope for x

Saskia is right, there is a small chance the pregnancy will continue, but if it does, the fetus should not be harmed by the pill you took. I'm so sorry you are in such a whirl of emotion, a surprise pregnancy makes it so hard to think clearly. Sending all my best to you, whatever happens.