Going ahead with “bad timing” pregnancy?

[Potterygal]

Just looking to hear experiences of anyone who has been faced with a “bad timing” pregnancy, whether you went ahead with it or not.

I might be facing that decision. Terrible timing - husband between work contracts so wouldn’t get shared pat leave, the bloody cost of living crisis (I earn fairy well, but doesn’t feel like it right now). It would be our third child. We hadn’t closed the door on the idea of a third, but NO WAY would we have chosen now! Even a month later would be better. More likely it would have been a year or two down the line, if ever.

In theory, I could end this pregnancy and we could try again at a later date if we want. But in reality it’s not that easy, is it? Or is it?

Ok.. Calm down, no need for the hostility 🙂

was just replying to a comment and freedom of speech you know.

Personally I wouldn't terminate, if as you say only a month would have made all the difference. It's a bit blasè to be thinking like that over something like this.

I don’t think it’s fair to say it’s blasé - qualifying for maternity/parental leave pay can be the difference between being able to afford a baby or not. The difference between getting thousands and thousands of pounds into debt or not. We have existing children who are impacted by our financial decisions. I could only take maybe three months of mat leave. So my husband having leave (vs a little baby going to nursery for example) would be very important.

As it happens, that’s just one of a long list of things which make it bad timing or not a good idea. But I don’t appreciate being called blasé.

Had some not very helpful comments in this thread.

No hostile just an opinion. Which is why people post.

I was faced with a really bad timed pregnancy and ended up deciding to terminate.
For me it was more about disappointing my children I already have and since us mums will do anything for our children I really didn’t see the impact it would have on me.

I wish I knew how hard it would hit me after. I stupidly thought life would just go back to how it was before but that couldn’t be further from what actually happened.
I’ve never felt grief, anger, hate or utter despair like it. It was back in April 23 and 4 months on I still have days where I struggle and not a day goes by that I don’t think about it.

We wasn’t planning to have anyone children but I never considered myself the type of person who would ever have a termination.
I am pro choice it just isn’t who I thought I was.

The same as you had it been a few weeks later I would not have had to make that choice but in the situation at the time I just didn’t have any other option.
We are now considering having another either later this year or next year.

What I would say is that if you want to keep it at all think very carefully about what you really want to do.
I think that because I did want my baby but couldn’t see a way to keep it without causing upset for my children that’s why things have been so hard for me.

Hope you figure out what’s best for you.

Op literally asked for other people's experiences so that's why people have posted giving their examples...
"Just looking to hear experiences of anyone who has been faced with a “bad timing” pregnancy, whether you went ahead with it or not"