Is it safe to get pregnant again quickly after abortion?

[Foolish33]

Hi,

TW: regret. I know my feelings and emotions are not what everybody who has an abortion goes through.

I had an abortion last month. It was the worst thing I have ever done. Half an hour before I took the first tablet I had decided to keep the baby, then was terrified and stupidly took the first tablet. I have been so stupid; I felt rushed to decide quickly before it developed further. I tried to make myself sick but couldn't. I rang up to see if there was anything that could be done but they said once you've taken the first tablet you have to go through with the rest. It was terrible - I had to have emergency counselling and rang Samaritans. I didn't know how I could go on afterwards.

I am doing better now. I know I made my decision out of love and wanting the best for my 2 current children. And it is my love for my children that have got me through the past weeks; they are my joy. However, the abortion was very much the wrong thing for me and I know now how much love I have to give for another child.

I would like another baby. Please do not judge me. I know all too well how messed up this all is. I went on the pill the day after the procedure, mainly just because I thought it might help my hormones level out and help me feel better, but I've now had my first 'period' and don't want to stay on it.

I just want to know, will it be safe for the baby? Has anybody quickly conceived after an abortion and it's been ok? I'm terrified that if I get pregnant quickly then I will be the cause of a problem with the baby, yet equally this feels like the way I need to heal.

Thank you.

@Makeitrightqqq @Regretttt if you do get pregnant don't let things on here or other peoples fears scare you especially with the pregnancy hormone you can have so much anxiety. I kept reading people moaning about hotels with 3 kids on here and it being expensive. We've been to hotels etc and it's been fine! Expenses etc we just adjust and kids don't mind. They share and learn. I ask my 6 year old would she rather have all the stuff she had as an only child or her siblings and less stuff. She just said I don't care about the stuff I just love my sisters and that's enough ♥️

@Makeitrightqqq how long it took you to conceive again after the termination ? And how old were you ? Love to hear your stories. It makes me happy that some of us at least can have some peace after going through such a traumatic thing in life. I hope I can forgive myself one day...

I did conceive 3 months after termination I was so obsessed with getting pregnant again but it was a chemical and when I found out I was pregnant I came to my senses and realized that it was way too soon and I became less obsessed with getting pregnant again and focused on getting where I wanna be before I decide to have my last child, I know never is the right time but now I’m working on myself and all my attention and gratitude on the 2 children I already have gives me peace of mind. I’m 35 now, I was 34 at the time 10 months ago. The hardest year of my life x

@Foolish33 I know this is an old post, did you go ahead and get pregnant again ?

@Foolish33 @CharlotteMcF @Hdhhdidi @Makeitrightqqq Hey I was just wondering if any of you were still on here and if you’d gone on to have another pregnancy? In a similar situation and trying to sort out the way forward.

Hello, just wondering how you are doing now ? Did you go on to have another baby ?

Hello, just wondering if you went on to have another baby ?