Late abortion

[lemondrop1x]

Hello I'm just asking if anyone who's had a late abortion at 14weeks &4 days it's been a tough decision and I've thought long and hard about it, I'm having one on Saturday and I'm terrified of having it done I've never had any surgical procedure done before and obviously it's under general anaesthetic any help will be greatly appreciated

Hi lemondrop1x

i had a surgical termination on Monday. I was 16 weeks and 4 days. I didn’t opt for the general anaesthetic, so I’m afraid I can’t offer any insight into that, I had the conscious sedation. The procedure itself was painless and the staff were really nice, which did help put me at ease. But it was most definitely the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.

@Sanityhunt23 hi I asked the clinic if they could do it under local anaesthetic but they said no because I'm 14 weeks and they don't do the sedation I've told them my concerns and tbh they have reassured me it's safe I will be fine but I can't shift the feeling of not going through with it because I don't want to be under general anaesthetic, can I ask how you felt after it and how are you feeling now ? X

@lemondrop1x I used BPAS, but I had to travel an hour and 20 minutes to get to the clinic, the Doncaster one was the soonest appointment offering the conscious sedation option. Could you ask the clinic you’re using whether they have any other locations that offer an alternative to GA? Straight after the abortion, I think I was still feeling the effects of the drugs they gave me, I didn’t really feel much. It was the next day when the emotions kicked in, yesterday was the worst. I know I made the decision for the right reasons, but I do feel very emotional, I’ve cried a lot, and just feel guilt, grief and a sense of emptiness. I wasn’t prepared for that. I’ve booked in for counselling, the clinic offered it, so I’m hoping that’ll help me. Im trying to be kind to myself, it’s only been a few days, and factoring in the hormones too. I’m just hoping that with time, it’ll get easier. X

Hi @lemondrop1x and @Sanityhunt23 I’m due to have a medical abortion next week when I will be 13 weeks. Unfortunately surgical wasn’t an option here in Scotland and for that I’m so very sad. I really wanted a surgical purely to lessen the trauma.

@JamToasties oh no that's awful! Have you got to
Do it at home or in a hospital? X

@lemondrop1x In a hospital which is a relief, hoping to have access to stronger pain relief. Just terrified of what I may see

@JamToasties aw I bet you are! Keep me updated how you get on I hope everything goes okay for you xx

@lemondrop1x thank you I will do x

Just wanted to update you had my abortion at around 11am this morning and it was so relaxed and calm I'm home now and resting up the general anaesthetic was a breeze the surgeons was lovely too x

@lemondrop1x So happy and relieved for you, wishing you a speedy recovery x

@JamToasties I hope yours goes okay and smoothly what day are you booked in for? X

@lemondrop1x booked in for Thursday, petrified tbh x

Can't you travel for a surgical termination I think that might put your mind at ease abit more ? Xx

@lemondrop1x Hi. Glad to hear everything went smoothly for you. Rest up over the weekend and be gentle with yourself. X

@JamToasties So sorry you’re going through this too. I’m sure you’ll be well looked after in the hospital, will be thinking of you. X

@lemondrop1x you know they didn’t even give me the option, the clinic was very unhelpful, they didn’t offer me any alternative routes I could take even after I expressed my wish for a surgical so strongly and deeply. It’s come to the point where I’m getting further and further along and I want this to be over by the end of the coming week. I’m prepared to suffer mentally and emotionally and I’m expecting a traumatic experience. I’m angry at the whole situation and the clinic x

@Sanityhunt23 thanks so much x

@Sanityhunt23 I cried the moment I got out the car to get past the protesters & in the doors and I was just full of dread but after the surgery I couldn't understand why I was so worked up over it but thank you for sharing your story with me it helped a lot x

@JamToasties i would
Ring them back and ask can they transfer you to a clinic so you can go through with a surgical procedure x

@lemondrop1x i can’t imagine how much more difficult it must’ve been for you having to face protestors. We work ourselves into a state because it’s the thought of the unknown, and the waiting between making the appointment and it actually arriving is far too long (it was for me, I’m not sure what the average waiting time is though)…. It took 6 weeks from my initial call to the actual procedure, they were the longest weeks of my life.

it’s hard to know the right thing to say when you’re faced with this situation, but I’m glad to help in anyway I can. I found that just reading posts from other people going through the same thing has helped me. I’m here if you feel like you need to vent, ask questions or just chat. X

@JamToasties i agree with lemondrop, give them a call and see what other options are available. Are there any other providers in your area? Could you travel outside of Scotland? X

@Sanityhunt23 honestly seeing them and them hurling abuse set me off it wasn't an easy decision to make hence why the lateness of the abortion and yes that's what it was the unknown but for the situation we was in it was nice I felt at ease which I'm glad about! How are you feeling now ?
X

I’m definitely not as emotional as I was in the 48 hours after, but I’m still finding it very tough. I’m doing what I can to keep myself distracted, like watching lots of tv, being left alone with my thoughts is not good for me just yet. I’m meant to be back at work on Monday, in one way, I’m looking forward to that, just so I can get back some sense of routine, and take my mind off of the event. X

@Sanityhunt23 aww bless you! Yes keep busy I've been in bed so emotional with friends on in and out of sleep! Making up for the sleep I've lost out on worrying, just take as much time as you need to recover, have you thought about going to counselling? X

@lemondrop1x I've been watching Friends all day, I find the humour helps. I’ve got a session with the BPAS counsellor next Saturday, no idea what to expect, but I’m hoping they’ll help me understand and process my feelings better.

I’m glad that you’re managing to get plenty of sleep, I was exhausted when I got home from the procedure too, kept nodding off throughout the day, a combination of the drugs I was given, but also the weeks of emotional turmoil beforehand. X

@Sanityhunt23 did you manage to go to work ok today? I felt ok yesterday just tender and today I done the school run which is about 15 minutes there and 15 minutes back and oh my god I cried all the way home the pains in my stomach and lower back was awful if I walk to quick 😔!