Abortion after 24 weeks

[MammaD1]

Hello, tragically I have been informed today by fetal medicine that my baby 24 weeks 5 days has a 50% chance of abnormalities due to me loosing 100% amniotic fluid. We do not know when the fluid was lost but it was probably week 23. Tomorrow I am going to a London based hospital and have been told there is a chance they will consider termination due to health of baby and my own mental health. I have a 2 year old who I care for on my own. I am deeply upset and am reaching out to anyone who may be able to share. I am only here for those who can help. I do not wish to cause offence to anyone with alternative views on abortion and women’s rights. Thank you.

That is horrible OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Is there any family who can be there for you during this time; who can come with you to the appointment? How do you feel about what's happening? Remember it's all your choice, listen to the experts but you are in control of your decisions about what happens next.

Big hugs - stay strong.

I'm so sorry this must be so distressing and I don't want to say the wrong thing. Have you spoken to them about other options besides termination (depending on what you want)?

I've found this thread for you with peoples experiences. I hope things work out for you www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/2829660-Low-amniotic-fluid-levels-at-23-weeks

Hi ladies. Thank you for the messages. Sadly this is not a happy ending so please don’t read if this could be an emotional trigger for you.

we were sent to St George’s in London to see fetal medicine specialist the next day. There they confirmed no fluid and likely fluid loss at around 21 week mark. The placenta also looked unhealthy. Here I was given clear statistics on outcomes and they were significantly bad. 70% chance of serious disability such as cerebral palsy. regardless I was still given a choice of what to do next. There was no pressure either way.

I follow science, facts, numbers and stats not hope and wishing. That is just who I am. I know some would hope for that miracle to be them. However I have my 2 year old daughter to consider and also the selfishness of bringing a very unhealthy life into the world with low to little quality of life. We chose to terminate.

I delivered after a very painful but quick labour yesterday morning. The consultant confirmed that the placenta was very fragmented and not healthy and felt that baby’s heart would have stopped naturally quite soon and should he have survived birth, he would not have survived long outside.

it is devastating and traumatic. Now a long journey of grief begins. I am grateful though that I live in a country where medical science enables me to make a choice about my life and my family’s future. Time heals, and I have much to be happy about and a beautiful daughter to love.

I'm so sorry hun hope you and you're family are okay. You did what you had to do and what was best for your beautiful baby as their mother. You'll work through the grief together but remember you made the best choice for your child. Here for support sending much love xx

I'm so sorry hun hope you and you're family are okay. You did what you had to do and what was best for your beautiful baby as their mother. You'll work through the grief together but remember you made the best choice for your child. Here for support sending much love xx

You are such a trooper for getting through this. I believe you did the right thing and followed the science. I hope the hospital is following up with grief support, but if not, do try and get in touch with the GP for some. Big hugs to you.x

OP I am so sorry to read this and I am sending you so much love and strength. I went through a very similar thing in January at 19 weeks.
Sadly I had a surgical abortion so will never know the reasons. Hopefully you can find some comfort that there was nothing you could have done to prevent this. xx

Sorry for your loss my Dd is 16 weeks pregnant baby has some problems.she went to Leeds LGI fetal medicine and they told her to terminate or if she went ahead baby would almost die after it's born my Dd is only 30 she's heartbroken 💔