Advice for later abortion

[Lily966]

I’m hoping to post this and not have any judgment as I judge myself so much as it is. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago and was so excited however my partner was not. He has never been sure if kids were for him and after 6 years together where he has struggled with his mental health, he finally took the plunge this year to get help. The pregnancy was a total shock as I was on contraception and he made it clear since when we found out that he did not think the time was right. We have a house but our income isn’t great, we live month to month and he feels he would rather have better mental health as he struggles day to day (also has an addiction which he would rather stop before having a child). I couldn’t decide what to do and only now do I feel like it’s unfair to bring a baby into the world were I am struggling to provide and their dad doesn’t want them. The earliest I could get for an abortion is when I turned 17 weeks and I have decided to go through with it for my own well-being and my partners as I don’t have great support to go through it alone. The whole experience has also affected my mental health. Can anyone please advise me of what to expect with the second part of the abortion? I’ve already taken the first tablet and I’m due to have. The next part at the end of the week, I’m so scared and I don’t know how I’m going to get through it. I’m just really lost at the minute

Thank you so much, everyone being so kind has made this a little easier. I know it’s such a sensitive topic but I know deep down this is the right choice for everyone involved x

Sending lots of hugs and strength to you

What an awful situation you've been put in OP, I'm so sorry. It seems there are a lot of men with "mental health problems" that are happy to put their partners through the worst time of their lives like this 😢
Mine wasn't as late as yours, and I had surgical, so I can't really give advice, but like the other posters I would say accept as much pain relief as they can offer you. Do your absolute best to not look at anything, and maybe bring headphones so you can listen to comforting music when you're in the hospital. If possible arrange counselling asap, and if they offer you Valium or something for the days after, take it home with you, because given the situation plus the massive hormonal fluctuations you're going to go through after, you could well feel very sad.
You're going to be fine OP, with time, even though this is of course extremely difficult. Women all over the world have gone through this and know the pain you're going through. You're not alone xx

Thanks all, been pretty traumatic as it’s been 5 hours nothings passed and the only pain relief is a heat pad :( hoping the end of it is near soon x

Must be an awful thing to go through. At what point/stage of pregnancy do they not offer abortions. Sorry totally clueless on this subject. I didn't think they even offered then as late as 17 weeks as the baby is formed.

@Skynightsky
best to google that and not ask a women who is going through it! I’m sure she knows how formed it is so no need to bring it up

I had a medical at 17 weeks, although had to go to a hospital 300+ miles away as no one else would do it. Was so difficult. Hope everything went well

Hello how did u get on? I had a abortion at 5 weeks, went ill afterwards xxx horrible isn't it xx