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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Abusive relationship and pregnancy

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Reph20 · 06/05/2022 08:47

Hey

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Wayfairtwo · 06/05/2022 13:23

Reph20 · 06/05/2022 12:23

Thank you ❤️ she was a bit confused as to why I was so upset the first few weeks and why my mum was here a lot to help out, but I’ve explained how my belly isn’t well atm; and that my partner isn’t coming back here again, and she’s accepted it and is still thriving in school and her routines still good ! We’re both still doing what we do together, as we have such a good relationship between us and she does ask for him sometimes but it’s easily brushed off . She only just turned 4 at the end of March . Thank you very much for this conversation, it really does mean a lot! I haven’t got the best mental health myself as it is, with things that have happened in my past so I kept doubting friends and family, thinking they were just against my partner and that he was just unwell but unwell or not, it’s not excuse n I know it😣and I see it’s all him now, I knew it was all him and never them .. I just needed someone who doesn’t know either of us, to have a say

I'm glad to hear that you have your mom for some support. And you've also mentioned your granddad being supportive as well. I couldn't imagine going through all that on my own x

Lu901 · 06/05/2022 13:28

Just reading that.. any of those times you could of died. I was with a guy like you discribe and on two occasions towards the end he strangled me it went to court I was lucky he texted someone saying what he had done as other wise he would probably have not been charged. When the police don't back you up it makes you question if it's that bad but it is.

The chances he will kill you after it escalating to strangulation is so high.
Just think of your little one when you feel you want to see him you have to snap out of it and focus on her.

No one can tell you what to do about the pregnancy but again the dangers of being tied to this man is a scarey thought. He shouldn't be anywhere near a baby.

What he's done to you is absolutely terrible.

All the best in what you decide to do x

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Reph20 · 06/05/2022 13:43

You have no reason to apologise so pls don’t, I’m grateful for all of your advice! I just wish this baby was mine and mine only 😔 it would be too much of a risk, too complicated to have a child with someone like that; even with social services supporting me . I can’t ever let him back or into my home again, he hasn’t been here since the end of feb so I’m just hoping I stick to it now he’s back around this way . Again, thank you very much ❤️ means a lot n I’m really grateful!

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Reph20 · 06/05/2022 13:45

Oh wow, that’s unbelievable :/ they needed it in black and white on paper to proceed with charges!! I’m glad it was successful for you though ❤️ it really does discourage you when nothing is done .. I hope you’re well after all this and are happy! Thank you so much, I really does mean a lot .. from what I can tell by my social worker it would be dependant only on them if he’d be allowed near the child, I’m assuming under supervision! I just wish it was my baby n only mine . X

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Reph20 · 06/05/2022 13:47

I do have a few very supportive close friends too, and my brother and me are very close , he’s 19 and is extremely protective of me so I do deffo have support .. I think I just needed to talk to someone who doesn’t know either of us @Wayfairtwo x

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Threebutterflies · 06/05/2022 20:19

Don’t feel bad if you do decide to go through with the abortion . At least you can make a complete fresh start from that ‘man’. There’s other threads on here from ladies who had late abortions so maybe they can help.
The main thing is to keep him well away from you and your daughter . If you do have the baby keep him away from the baby also he may end up really hurting or killing it . Also I speak from experience. I was with a man who beat me . I had two kids with him and one abortion as I didn’t want to bring anymore of his offspring into the world.

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