How bad is a medical termination?

[bifjufd]

Appointment is booked for Thursday, I'm terrified of being in pain after the procedure. How much pain am I likely to experience? And how much blood loss is normal?

To complicate things further I fly to visit family a week and a half after this. How awful will this holiday be? I can get out of swimming etc by just saying I'm on my period and will be sure to pack plenty of underwear etc but will I still be in pain at this point and bleeding heavily? I can't cancel this holiday DD is so excited to see her cousins.

Thanks in advance

Hi
I had a medical on Thursday and it was nowhere near as bad as I was expecting. I felt quite ill after the first tablet. Inserted the 4 tablets the day after and within the hour started to cramp, no more than mild period pains. Felt the urge to go to the toilet and passed a few clots and there was a lot of bleeding. I was a little shocked at how much blood at first but it slowed down after 3 hours. The next day was only bleeding lightly but the bleeding has increased since. Currently still feeling the odd cramps and heavy bleeding. The anxiety of the procedure was much worse than it itself. You will be fine. Xx

@Aligeorge thank you so much that really helps!

@bifjufd I had my second lot of pills yesterday and so am just over 30 hours since. I cannot believe why I got into such a state - and I hope your experience is as positive as mine. I took first pill on Monday - I didn’t feel much different, maybe a little lightheaded at times but that’s it. 22 hours later I had a small small amount of blood when I wiped. I inserted (vaginally) 4 tablets 28 hours later. I lay on my bed for a full hour before I dared move. I had a small
Amount of bleeding but nothing much. I felt movement in my uterus but cramps weren’t bad atall. I decided gravity would help so I walked around, swayed my hips etc

Three hours in I had a bit more blood, few small black clots and twinges rather than bad cramps. The tablets fell out at the three hour mark too. I decided at four hours in to insert the final two tablets and lay flat for another thirty mins. Few stronger twinges but no nausea etc - I even managed to eat some lasagne! 5 hrs 30 after taking initial four tablets I felt a bit of a gush and then I passed the pregnancy sac (grey tissue and about the length of my middle finger). I stood up and felt another bigger clot (?placenta?). After this my bleeding was heavier for about an hour and a half. The pain level was at most a 5 out of 10 tho I had my last two children without any pain relief so maybe I have a high pain tolerance?

Today my uterus feels tender and Like it’s had a right work out. Undercarriage is achey and I get intermittent mild cramps. The bleeding today is light (but I’ve been told it might pick up again).

Honestly it was nothing like the horror show I was imagining - you’ll be absolutely fine xxxxx any questions feel free to ask - I spent hours on here gearing up for mine

I had zero pain. The clotting was unpleasant

I had one on a Tuesday and was fretting I would struggle to take my dds to the theatre on the Saturday. It was totally fine I was better by then.

@41whathaveudone thank you for taking your time to reply, I've read through every thread on this board going back to 2018 to try and get an idea of what will happen, I'm so grateful for people like you who take their time to post their experiences. I'm glad it went as well as can be expected for you, I'm hoping for similar, I've woken up feeling sick although I'm sure that's just nerves.

@NeverRTFT and @nevernotstruggling thank you so much for taking your time to reply to my post, you will never realise how much your words have helped me calm down and feel supported at a shitty time. Thank you!

Had a funny DM off someone claiming to be supportive but also trying to sway me to read threads on people who regretted their abortion, asking me to reconsider so I will post this in the hope no one else sends me similar. I am not trying to say they were wrong it just shocked me to receive the message.

I am absolutely certain of my decision, I have 1 child and I cannot financially or emotionally support another child. My child spent a long time in ICU when born and I could not go through that again. I'm 4+5 and the reason I found out so early is because I take pregnancy tests pretty often as being pregnant again is my biggest fear, I use contraception but had a sickness bug last month and couldn't keep anything down, including my pill, for 3 days me and DP very stupidly had sex after this.

@bifjufd you’re welcome - I did the exact thing and and read every single account I could find xx sorry you got a private message though - that would have bothered me too.

Good luck today and remember you’re doing what’s best for you - you don’t need to explain yourself xxx. And if nerves get the better of you there’s so many people here including me who will be around and can calm you down. Nobody enjoys this experience but your body will know what to do ❤️

@bifjufd you're more than welcome. No judgement whatsoever from me. Not wanting to be pregnant is a good enough reason IMO. Xx

It's really not as bad as you might imagine OP.
A bit crampy. You will be very emotional with the hormones as your body adjusts.
I had one years ago because I wasn't ready to have kids.
I now have two beauties. Who I wouldn't have met had I made a different decision. Our bodies our choice!
Sending love & un-MNtty hugs

P.S. do talk to your DP about a vasectomy if neither of you want more kids. My DH was in and out in a day & says it's one of the best decisions he ever made.

@ShinyHappySummers

P.S. do talk to your DP about a vasectomy if neither of you want more kids. My DH was in and out in a day & says it's one of the best decisions he ever made.

Yes to this. Several male friends have had this done and said the same

Thankyou everyone who has taken the time to reply to this thread I've been trying to keep busy today but knowing there's people here to talk to has helped so much you wouldn't believe! My appointment is in an hour a friend is taking me and Dp is looking after our child I feel strangely calm as it gets closer. Thank you all again you're all amazing!

[quote bifjufd]**@NeverRTFT* and @nevernotstruggling* thank you so much for taking your time to reply to my post, you will never realise how much your words have helped me calm down and feel supported at a shitty time. Thank you!

Had a funny DM off someone claiming to be supportive but also trying to sway me to read threads on people who regretted their abortion, asking me to reconsider so I will post this in the hope no one else sends me similar. I am not trying to say they were wrong it just shocked me to receive the message.

I am absolutely certain of my decision, I have 1 child and I cannot financially or emotionally support another child. My child spent a long time in ICU when born and I could not go through that again. I'm 4+5 and the reason I found out so early is because I take pregnancy tests pretty often as being pregnant again is my biggest fear, I use contraception but had a sickness bug last month and couldn't keep anything down, including my pill, for 3 days me and DP very stupidly had sex after this. [/quote]
I had the same "pro choice, but have you REALLY thought about keeping it?" message. I ignored it, but will be reporting them as it's a distressing time and if they don't feel able to say it openly it clearly shouldn't be said.

@bifjufd

Thankyou everyone who has taken the time to reply to this thread I've been trying to keep busy today but knowing there's people here to talk to has helped so much you wouldn't believe! My appointment is in an hour a friend is taking me and Dp is looking after our child I feel strangely calm as it gets closer. Thank you all again you're all amazing!

How did it go? I've also had an appointment on Thursday and have just taken the second dose not long ago, I'm hoping it will be over quickly!

@Daisy1988 that's exactly how I felt! If you won't post it in the open then you clearly know it isn't right to say.

I took my first tablet on Thursday afternoon, I felt fine until Friday mid day when I got some very light period cramps as though I was due on my period and had a very light bleed.

24 hours after taking the first tablet I dissolved 4 in my mouth, I bled like I would a normal period and had cramps similar to a normal period. I didn't need any painkillers at this point.

I was given 2 tablets to take 3 hours after taking the first 4 if I felt I needed them. I took these and the cramps definitely intensified although I would still say they were only a 6/10 and the pain came in waves, I took 2 paracetamol and they took the edge off.

Around an hour after I went for a wee and to check on things and I believe I lost the pregnancy, I lost two white/clear fleshy clots no bigger than a finger nail.

Since then I'm bleeding as I would a normal period and have light cramps but I feel absolutely fine.

The lovely nurse I saw at the clinic did say I am very early, she put the gestation down as 4+3 so maybe that has something to do with how easy it has been for me. I am also used to fairly heavy/ painful periods for the first 2 days of my cycle.

How are you doing @Daisy1988? I found the most difficult thing was waiting around for 'something' to happen

Thanks, that's good to hear glad it wasn't too painful for you. I've just had the two tablets as I haven't lost the pregnancy yet, the cramps have been awful and I've had shivers and feeling generally awful :( but I've not been sick, I'm hoping the last lot will do it and things will settle down soon, I'm in quite a bit of pain xx

@Daisy1988 I definitely felt some kind of relief pretty much instantly after I lost the pregnancy, things moved pretty quickly after I took the second set of tablets, I really hope the same happens for you. Were you given painkillers by the clinic? I hope you feel better soon xxx

[quote bifjufd]@Daisy1988 I definitely felt some kind of relief pretty much instantly after I lost the pregnancy, things moved pretty quickly after I took the second set of tablets, I really hope the same happens for you. Were you given painkillers by the clinic? I hope you feel better soon xxx[/quote]
Thanks, I wasn't given painkillers no, but I had codeine and have taken 2 through the day, can't wait this to ease off xx

@Daisy1988 hopefully it's not too long for you now 🤞🏼make sure you're taking it easy and be kind to yourself, a heat pack on my stomach and back helped me during the worst of it xx

Thanks, I completely forgot to get a heat pack ready so it's just drugs and ride it out now. I've managed some food and drink and got out of bed for a walk around. Hopefully that helps set it off xx

@Daisy1988 how are you getting on? Xx

[quote bifjufd]@Daisy1988 how are you getting on? Xx[/quote]
Much better now thank you for checking. I just passed the sack about half an hour ago, it was obviously that though I didn't look too closely. The pains had started to ease off around an hour before that, and now it's out I feel loads better. I'm just relieved it's mostly over! xx

@Daisy1988 that's good news, I'm sure you're over the worst now! Remember not to over do it and look after yourself xxx

Thank you, no chance of that happening I'm keeping my feet up as much as possible! Thanks for helping me through it, it's been a little worse than I was expecting but glad the worst is over now xx