How bad is a medical termination?

[bifjufd]

Appointment is booked for Thursday, I'm terrified of being in pain after the procedure. How much pain am I likely to experience? And how much blood loss is normal?

To complicate things further I fly to visit family a week and a half after this. How awful will this holiday be? I can get out of swimming etc by just saying I'm on my period and will be sure to pack plenty of underwear etc but will I still be in pain at this point and bleeding heavily? I can't cancel this holiday DD is so excited to see her cousins.

Thanks in advance

Sending supportive hugs to @bifjufd and @Daisy1988 Hope it's all going ok and sorry to hear about the inappropriate PMs you had from people with an agenda.
They stand outside the clinic where I am. It's a total headfuck and really unfair when you're in that place. You don't have to explain your decision to anyone, not on here, not anywhere.
Good luck x

@NeverRTFT

Sending supportive hugs to *@bifjufd and @Daisy1988* Hope it's all going ok and sorry to hear about the inappropriate PMs you had from people with an agenda. They stand outside the clinic where I am. It's a total headfuck and really unfair when you're in that place. You don't have to explain your decision to anyone, not on here, not anywhere. Good luck x

Thank you, yes it was pretty inappropriate and I'm sure anyone in this position could do without it! I can't see how to access PMs on the app but it's getting reported. I'm doing much better thanks, after a good nights sleep for the first time in about a week, going to rest up today just to be safe. x

I would also like to send hugs to the women on this thread, and others who’ve been through this. It’s pretty poor that others feel it’s ok to send negative DMs about what may not have been an easy choice for some women.
Take care of yourselves x

Thank you, that's really kind. I have reported the PM, after re-reading it and getting even more angry!
Take a look at this....

From: IoIsAMoon
To: Daisy1988
Re: abortion - I can relate
Aug 14, 2021
What a stressful time you are obviously going through? I guess I can relate because I’ve been in this sort of situation myself, falling pregnant in less-than-‘ideal’ circumstances. Different specifics to yours, same awful dilemma.

I was 20, living at home, with no job or money or education. I wasn’t sure I wanted a child then, or ever. My ‘boyfriend’ wanted me to have an abortion, but, although everything seemed against me having my baby, in the end I simply didn’t want to harm this little being inside of me who was depending on me for life. So. ... I kept him and raised him without that boyfriend in the picture or without help from any man, and things worked out so well for him and for me! His arrival motivated me to turn my life round, go back to school and get a pretty good job to provide for us. He’s grown now and is successful and happy in life, and helps me in many ways. I suppose the only thing both he and I regret is that he never had a little sibling to learn social skills and have a built-in friend and lifelong companion. He and I agree, it wouldn’t have been taking something away from him, but adding someone beautiful to his life and mine.

In the end it’s your decision what to do; I would never judge you and no one should, not for either choice. Just suggest you give it some (more) serious thought before any final decision, assuming of course your baby is viable and this isn’t an ectopic pregnancy. Obviously there is no undo for abortion and it can have a profound effect on you, physically and, especially emotionally. Many women regret aborting their baby.

You might want to consider checking out the following pro-choice or neutral pages about feelings various women have had after abortion – one of these threads is here on mumsnet!

exhaleprovoice.org/post/category/community/

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/pregnancy-terminations-1161/unplanned-pregnancy-46/424693-regretting-abortion.html

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy_choices/4228387-Abortion-Regret

I sincerely wish you all the best no matter what. Would like to know how you’re doing if you would care to keep in touch xx
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