Waiting 2.5 weeks for initial consultation

[Chocsandcrisps]

Hi,

I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant on Wednesday. I'm not in the position to keep the baby and want to have a termination.

I phoned to speak with the clinic last Thursday and the earliest date I can get is Wednesday 6th of January for a phone consultation. I'm only about 4 weeks now, so a bit disappointed that it will take that long to speak to someone. I understand they are busy and it's a bad time of year with the xmas/new year hols so can't helped. I just thought I could get the tablets and do it at home when I first phoned. Will it make the termination harder the further I am in my pregnancy?

Thanks

Me too! I just wish I didn’t have to wait so I could get the process started. Luckily dd will be in nursery which will make it a bit more manageable. It’s just not knowing what to expect. I’m sick of feeling sick too! I seem to have it awful. Managed a piece of toast this morning, but all the food yesterday was thought. I was worried all day my mom would cotton on! xx

How is everyone doing?

I have my phone consultation with BPAS at 1.30. Will let you know how it goes, feeling numb today. How are you doing?

Have been thinking of you @UsernameSpoosername - sending hugs! I’m okay, I really just want it over with now. I sound awful but I know what decision I’ve made, and I’m happy with it, well happy maybe not the right choice, but the wait is torture.

@YnysMon20 it’s great your happy (or content) with your decision. When is your phone consultation? The waiting is just horrendous...

@YnysMon20 thank you, it means a lot

@UsernameSpoosername not until the 6th, I phoned on the 21st, so over two weeks. I feel bad for not feeling bad, it’s all very odd. Hopefully you’ll feel better after your consultation - maybe take the counselling up too. You have a choice, give yourself time to process what’s best for you. xx

Well I had the call, she was very nice - but she asked if I was 100% with my decision and I hesitated & questioned the offer of counselling. She said that was available but unfortunately that meant she couldn’t send me the medication now & I have to wait until Tuesday for the counselling & then if I decide to go ahead make another appointment!

I feel terrible now, have I just prolonged the inevitable? But if you aren’t 100% I guess they have to do it this way. So I’m still... waiting.

Hope your appointment goes well, really long time to wait for you! She did say the medication would arrive in 1-2 days after the consultation so I hope this will all be over for you soon & you can get on with your life, as I can see that’s what you want x

You’ve done the right thing, if you were 100% there would have been no hesitation, it doesn’t mean you can’t proceed but I am sure you’ll feel better about your decision and how you come to it after having had the counselling and that will support how you heal and deal with the action you take - whether it’s to keep or not. I really do think it’ll make all the difference for you, and another 5 days is nothing compared to perhaps how you may feel for a lifetime knowing you hadn’t talked it through and went into it with a firm decision. Well done for what you’ve done today, you’ve taken the first steps in this very unsettling process. Inbox always open xx

Hi everyone,

I managed to get my consultation brought forward due to increased staffing levels. I had the phone consultation yesterday which was fine. They just asked my reasons why, my circumstances, medical history and then went through the procedure and possible risks.

I went to the clinic at 8.30am morning before work and have taken the first tablet. No side affects at all so far.

I asked about pain relief and they said alternating paracetamol and ibruprofen. I mentioned reading that some people have been given codeine and she just said they have decided it's not necessary anymore . Bet it was a man that made that decision .

I take my 2 antibiotics on Friday morning along with leaving 4 tablets under my tongue to dissolve. I then have to take swallow the remaining 2 tablets 3-4hours later.

Feeling quite anxious about it now. Not questioning my decision, but just how painful it's going to be.

@YnysMon20 I can really sympathise with the waiting. It's terrible that we have to wait for so long. Is it worth phoning to see if they have any cancellations? That's what I did in the end.

@UsernameSpoosername you are right to try the counselling first if there is any slight doubt in your mind. Hopefully this will help you make you decision. It's such a difficult thing to go through.

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Really glad to hear from you @Chocsandcrisps - I did phone Tuesday but nothing this week, the clinic is only open two days a week which is quite annoying! There’s no direct line for the clinic either or I’d chance it and phone them directly. Happy to be your virtual handhold if you want to post on here or private message. I’m really apprehensive about the pain too - it seems so mixed, I guess we won’t know how our bodies will respond. Did they mention anything about surgical at all? I was going to enquire about paying privately for one under general anaesthetic (because I’m a wimp), however I know considering the pandemic this really isn’t a priority, private or not.

Have you got codeine? I’ve heard the nurofen plus from behind the counter at pharmacies is meant to be useful. Total man who made that decision lol! My father in law has a repeat of codeine so I’ve sneakily asked if I could borrow some for any forthcoming migraines....

I really hope all goes well for you xx

@Chocsandcrisps I hope you’re ok. It’s an extremely difficult situation to go through what ever your circumstances or how sure you are of your decision. I have read of more stories where it wasn’t as bad as people had heard, than of things going terribly. I hope it’s as easy as possible for you.

@YnysMon20 I hope you’re doing ok. Thank you for being so kind to me when you’re going through so much yourself. X

I had my consultation over the phone yesterday with the tablets expected to be with me on Tuesday.

I just want it over and done with - fed up of the sore boobs, the nausea, the bloating.

Will be working next week and no idea how bad the pain is going to be but in a week, this will all be done. I hope.

@jammyrodger I’ve booked a day off work for the second lot of tablets, and cleared my calendar for the second day in case I need it off too. But my job allows me to do that - have you thought of phoning in with a stomach bug just in case? Let us know how you get on xx

Hello everyone how is everyone doing ? I had so many plans to start my weight loss journey tomorrow but will be postponing that one now !

Phoned them 2 days ago have my consultation next Monday ! I really feel for all you girls waiting it's been agony for me ! I've suffered awful 😞 dizziness! Feel like I've had pints of vodka ! Can't stand it sounds awful but I've made my decision n I just feel like I'm waiting to b normal again ! Doesn't help I'm so bloated n nauseous already look 4 months PG! Xx

[quote YnysMon20]@jammyrodger I’ve booked a day off work for the second lot of tablets, and cleared my calendar for the second day in case I need it off too. But my job allows me to do that - have you thought of phoning in with a stomach bug just in case? Let us know how you get on xx[/quote]
I think I might have to. I'm WFH thankfully but am planning on working on Monday (technically leave) to try and catch up.

I haven't told anyone in RL.

I hope you're ok.

@cherry101

Hello everyone how is everyone doing ? I had so many plans to start my weight loss journey tomorrow but will be postponing that one now !

Phoned them 2 days ago have my consultation next Monday ! I really feel for all you girls waiting it's been agony for me ! I've suffered awful 😞 dizziness! Feel like I've had pints of vodka ! Can't stand it sounds awful but I've made my decision n I just feel like I'm waiting to b normal again ! Doesn't help I'm so bloated n nauseous already look 4 months PG! Xx

That's how I feel. Just want it over with.

I’m exactly the same @cherry101 and @jammyrodger - I want this over and done with. I’m grateful we have this choice and control over our bodies. I’ll be 7 weeks at my consultation tho, wish it could’ve been resolved sooner but trying to let go of that! Hopefully I can start the process before I reach 8. I don’t know why 8 feels so far a long? I’ve had a packet of salted crisps today, all I can keep down...!

Hi Everyone,

Hope you all enjoyed New Year despite this looming over us.

@YnysMon20 thanks. I've been thinking of you all going through the same thing and this thread has been a great support.
They didn't mention surgical options to me but I wonder if it's because I was only 5 weeks. I would definitely ask about it though. I phoned my local pharmacy and they said I could get some co-codamol.

It wasn't the best day yesterday. After keeping the tablets under my tongue for 30 mins, it said to swallow the stuff that hadn't dissolved with a glass of water. That was a disaster. I projectile vomited from my bed onto my carpet! It could only happen to me honestly! When I phoned for advice she said if most of it had dissolved it would be fine. I'm not sure if the antibiotics I took beforehand would have come up also.
It was a long day, but manageable and not as bad as I was thought it would be. Keeping my hot water bottle topped up definitely helped.

I never felt a large clot pass so not sure if it has worked. Now the waiting game until I can take a pregnancy test on the 19th to see.

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Hi @Chocsandcrisps how are you feeling today?

My tablets have arrived - I didn't think they'd get here until Tuesday. Every moment of my day has been consumed by this recently. I'm going to get some supplies in and take the tablets and hope the pain is manageable.

I hope everyone else is ok.

@Chocsandcrisps I’m glad to hear it wasn’t as bad as you were expecting, although sorry to hear about the projectile! I can imagine that was just what you needed! I’ve heard they’re pretty horrid to try and dissolve in mouth but I’ll be doing the same as I worry I won’t do it right if I try and do it the other way! I’m going to order those tenna lady knickers, attractive! I wouldn’t expect you’d feel anything pass at 5 weeks, but it seems like you experienced what you needed to for being so early on. How are you feeling today? Please can I keep your offer of a virtual hand hold when mine come through?!

@jammyrodger I will be thinking of you - keep posting on here if you feel it will help. I hope all goes as smoothly as it can and that the tablets arrived sooner than anticipated. I’m sure I speak for all of us when I say we just want it out the way with.

I’m still pretty angry at how long I’ve had to wait, I know I can’t control it but to know I’m firm on my decision and that I’ve had to continue for nearly three weeks with an unwanted pregnancy has mentally worn me down. I feel like I’m living in a nightmare, the last two days have been tough as the tiredness and sickness ramps up. I’m really hoping my tablets come soon after my consultation Wednesday.

Big hugs all.

[quote YnysMon20]@Chocsandcrisps I’m glad to hear it wasn’t as bad as you were expecting, although sorry to hear about the projectile! I can imagine that was just what you needed! I’ve heard they’re pretty horrid to try and dissolve in mouth but I’ll be doing the same as I worry I won’t do it right if I try and do it the other way! I’m going to order those tenna lady knickers, attractive! I wouldn’t expect you’d feel anything pass at 5 weeks, but it seems like you experienced what you needed to for being so early on. How are you feeling today? Please can I keep your offer of a virtual hand hold when mine come through?!

@jammyrodger I will be thinking of you - keep posting on here if you feel it will help. I hope all goes as smoothly as it can and that the tablets arrived sooner than anticipated. I’m sure I speak for all of us when I say we just want it out the way with.

I’m still pretty angry at how long I’ve had to wait, I know I can’t control it but to know I’m firm on my decision and that I’ve had to continue for nearly three weeks with an unwanted pregnancy has mentally worn me down. I feel like I’m living in a nightmare, the last two days have been tough as the tiredness and sickness ramps up. I’m really hoping my tablets come soon after my consultation Wednesday.

Big hugs all.[/quote]
@YnysMon20 I feel your anger at waiting - I first rang up on the 16th December and didn't have my consultation until 30 December. It's been over 2 weeks of knowing and horrific sickness and breast pain.

I've stocked up on pads, I've got codeine and paracetamol and a hot water bottle.

Does anyone know what the optimum time for taking second tablets are? It says 1-2 days, which seems a huge difference. Hoping I can aim for second tablets tomorrow evening.

Taking first tablet now. I will keep you updated on how I feel.

Thanks for all the support. It feels quite lonely but I'm also glad - means I can move on quickly.

@jammyrodger I’m not entirely sure, but it seems most people take them 24 hours after, that’s what I plan to do. I assume the 48 hour window may be there to accommodate in case for whatever reasons you couldn’t do within the first 24 if you need childcare, work etc. Although that’s an assumption not fact. Do you mind asking how far along you are? I’ll be 7 weeks day of consultation, I hope to have it over before I risk 8 weeks - your pills coming quickly has given me some hope that may be possible!

And yes, sore breasts, I just feel like I’m expanding everywhere!

@YnysMon20 oh that makes sense. Hopefully I can take second tablets tomorrow lunchtime then.

I was 7 weeks yesterday. I was hoping to have it all sorted within a few days of initially calling. I did try Marie Stopes too but they're not the NHS provider in my area so I'd have needed to pay - although I did seriously debate it.

You could ask if you could pick your tablets up once you've had your consultation if there's somewhere nearby?

I did consider a surgical procedure as it would have been quick but I had one 16 years ago after a horrible incident where my drink was spiked. The procedure itself then was fine, but I had retained products and needed antibiotics and a hospital visit - that's my current biggest worry although I'm hoping that won't be the case.

Lemon sherbets are good for sickness or polo mints.

Hope everyone else is ok.