Medical abortion week 5 + 2

[Positivegal]

I wanted to start this thread as I relied on the posts on here to help me understand what I was going to go through as it’s the only place on the internet where it’s not set out in a sterile and factual manner but based on experiences.

There are a lot of horror stories - but if you look there are also experiences which go ok - so don’t panic.

I found out I was pregnant last week and knew immediately it was the wrong time for us. I spoke to Marie Stopes and had an appointment on Friday and my consultation Monday. Picked up the tablets Monday afternoon and took the first tablet then.

I had pretty bad nausea from the pregnancy symptoms and was very bloated. This continued after taking the first tablet but I wasn’t sick.

24 hours later I took the four tablets vaginally. Pretty instantly I got a bit of the chills and shakes (in my legs only). At the same time I took the codiene and ibruprofen. Along with a hot water bottle this made it all very manageable.

About 3 hours later I went to the loo and felt a blueberry pass - which I assume was it. My pains were no worse than a period and I haven’t experienced huge amount of bleeding.

I’ve woken up this morning for the first time in a week with no nausea and less bloating. Still a bit of tummy cramping and moderate bleeding.

Whilst it will be different for everyone - I hope this helps one person be less scared and know it will be ok. X

@positivegal - thank you so very much for sharing your experience. How refreshing it has been to read your post.

We are identical! I found out last week also, and new immediately that it wasn't the right time for us. I had my telephone appt with BPAS nurse yesterday, who said my tablets should arrive in the post within 2-3 working days. As soon as they arrive I shall get the ball rolling.

I am identical in dates to you as well, and it is great to hear that it was no worse than a heavy painful period. Some of the horror stories online paint a rather different picture!

Thank you, once again 💕 Your post has really helped me. I hope you are doing well post-procedure? Xx

Glad it could help one person - that was all I wanted.

Good luck and I hope it goes ok.

Feeling ok - little of an bit achey but no different to any usual month. My OH has said I seem more myself today than I have done in weeks!

@positivegal I'm so glad to hear you're feeling a bit brighter in yourself 💕
If you don't mind me asking, how long did it take from your telephone consultation with a nurse for the tablets to arrive? I had my telephone appt yesterday and she said I would receive an email when the pharmacy dispatched the tablets. I haven't received anything yet (thought I would have either yesterday afternoon or today!) And I'm panicking I've been forgotten about! 😔 the waiting game is the worst part x

I actually picked mine up that afternoon. The clinic I went to was right at the end of my road, so it was easier than waiting on the post. X

Maybe give them a call, but I’m sure they haven’t forgotten!

@hillarypcof just wanted to check you were all ok?

@positivegal thank you for this post. I am in a similar poisition this month. Found out last week and knew immediately it was the wrong time - I have struggled but come to terms with my decision. I have been waiting over a week for a call back from Marie stopes and bpas the waiting part has been the worst. I hope this next part moves quickly and I hope to help others like this post and many others has helped me in the lead up. I just want it over.. I feel guilty the more days it goes on. X

@user1483390189

Hi. I'm in the same position as you. Found out on Monday, I Have a phone appointment with Marie stopes tomorrow.

Have you had your phone call yet ?

Do you mind me asking you a few questions if you have?

@butter675 I'm glad to hear you have had a quicker turn around. I think i was really unlucky on the time I called. 8 days for a call.. I first phoned bpas which was 10 days.

I've had my first phone call and have the nurse phone call in 15 minutes. Ask away of course. X

@user1483390189

Hope your phone call goes okay.

I was going to quiz you a little on how long it took after the nurse call to get the tablets. Either delivered at home which I hear they are doing currently, or whether you have to go to a clinic. But as you haven't had the call I assume you don't know the answer!

Sending you virtual hugs. This is an awful thing to experience. Xx.

@butter675 I've just finished the call and they're sending the pack today. She said it will arrive in the next 1-5 working days (I'm hoping sooner rather than later)

They are very supportive and the questions I may aswell have been in person at the clinic. I feel very supported and at ease. Just the next difficult part to get through now. How are you feeling?

@user1483390189
Hoping it arrives quickly for you.

I'm glad you have had a positive experience so far.

I feel really numb towards it all, I'm trying hard to be practical rather than emotional. I havent told anyone IRL as I do not think I could handle any opinions or judgements. It's 100% this right decision for me.

How are you feeling, do you have RL support ?

I'm the same. I struggled and lots of tears guilt just after I found out - mainly because I knew it was the wrong time for me. I'm lucky I have a very supportive long term partner. I don't think I could tell any friends in real life - yet (or if ever) x

@user1483390189
Hi. I had my phone app with MSUK yesterday. The lady was so lovely and kind. Have a clinic appointment on Tuesday for a scan and t take the first tablet if all goes well. I can then take the second tablet from home.

How are you doing? Have your pills arrived ? Hope you are ok x

@butter675 are you OK about having the scan? My pills arrived yesterday - after a bit of a emotional moment I took the first one at 2pm and will take the rest today. I am scared but I will have my partner around and fingers crossed will all go OK. X

@User1483390189

Not at all happy about the scan. I was hoping I wouldn't have to have one. I think that will make it all feel more real. My nearest clinic is over an hour away as well.

How do you feel after the first lot? Any pain or bleeding? Hoping you are okay x

changed my user name from user. Yes I really didn't want a scan and glad I didn't have to have one - I guess one little thing can trigger having one bless you.

After the first pill pretty much 24 hours to the dot I started bleeding - I then took the others at 2.45pm and it has progressed gradually. I'll be honest (touch wood) it hasn't been nearly as bad as I'd built myself up for it to be. The pain is quite significant now but very very manageable! Not sure if I'm past the worse or not but been tucked up in bed all day and watching netflix while my partner has looked after me. Hoping I can get some sleep tonight x

@Mel1917

Hope you are feeling better this morning. Thank you for your honest account.

I'm glad you have your partner for support. I'm worried about how long and how heavy the bleeding will be. I have 2 children on my own so will still have be mum and put on a brave face.

I'm potentially thinking of telling my mum I have a sickness bug or something and asking her to take the children for the day. I hate lying, but I feels better than telling the truth right now !

The reason for scan is I stated taking the pill again. Unfortunately I couldn't get a doc app so ordered from Lloyds pharmacy online. I didn't get to ask all the relevant questions. Had sex on day on day 5 of taking them.

So they want to date it to be sure.

I'm 100% sure I conceived the first time we had sex. Which is typically my luck, considering it's been 2 years since i had had sex before that !

I feel so much better. Just feel like I'm on my period heavy. I suffered so little that I'm worried it hasn't work but I'm fairly sure I passed the pregnancy and I was still very early on. It really wasn't anything like the stories I'd read or set myself up for.. If I had to i could of looked after little one but it was really good to just to be able to relax. You've had children so I would compare it to bad period very early labour cramps but manageable with painkillers. I would advise you to take the pills couple of hours before the children go to bed?x

I'm really glad your experience has been relatively straight forward. Hoping the rest is as pain free for you too

My two go to get at 6.30. So I was thinking of taking the pill at 3pm ish straight from the school run. Hopefully they will then be asleep through the worst of it, and I will be able to to the morning school run with no problems.

Please do keep in touch via here, it's been so reassuring to have someone to talk to who is going through the same thing.

@Mel1917

Hi. Hope you are ok. How are you coping?

I've got my appointment tomorrow. I plucked up the courage to tell my best friend and feel loads lighter. She has been an angel about it. She is going to take me to my appointment and stay for a couple of days to help with my DC if needed. I feel so much better for speaking to someone.

@buttee675 thank you for asking. I surprisingly ok - I feel better than I thought I would emotionally and physically. I'm so glad that you've told your friend and she will be there to support you if needed. I sadly can't tell any of my best friends or if I can it wouldn't be the right time now.. However I'm lucky to have a great partner so I can't complain and have found comfort on here to. How are you feeling about the appointment?

@Mel1917

Thank for your reply. I'm feeling okay about the appointment. Well I was until about 5 mins ago when I received a private message on here from a user basically telling me to reconsider my decision!

How are you? Are you still bleeding and in a little pain? I hope your partner is still looking after you. X

@butter675 I had exactly the same. Passive aggressive message acting like support but saying the same thing. I just deleted before I got to the end of the message.

Still bleeding but no pain. Feeling myself again as such. It all feels like it was a bad dream.. Good luck today let me know how it goes. X