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Fear of termination failure

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Lenooo · 04/05/2020 13:16

Hi all,
I'm just looking to see if anybody might have the same situation as mine, I'm a single mum of 3, happily getting on with life and doing well, on 17/04/20 I found out I was pregnant, straight away I knew inside it wasnt what I wanted, I called the local clinic and started medical abortion procedure.

On 20/04/20 in the presence of doctor I took first pill, I was giving 2 other pills to bring home as well as a low sensitivity pregnancy test to take 2 weeks later (today)

On the 21/04/20 I placed the 2 tablets i was giving to take home under each side of my mouth under my gum and let dissolve for 30 mins, I places them at 9.30am finished at 10.00am and start bleeding heavy at 10.15am with diarrhoea, I was surprised how quickly I start bleeding, by 12pm I had bad cramping and everytime I went to the toilets der was always a little mass of clots in the bottom of the toilet and I could feel little clots come out as I had a wee,

I stopped bleeding heave on day 3 and spotted until day 9 and then stopped bleeding completely.

Today I took the low sensitivity test as directed as it is 2 weeks since my abortion and it came up positive, my breast are still tender and my sence of smell keeps going crazy.

I still feel pregnant but I'm really hoping I am not.....

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Bookaholic73 · 04/05/2020 13:18

CN you contact the clinic for reassurance and confirmation?

Brambley · 06/05/2020 15:35

Hi, I am also worrying about wether my medical termination has worked. I found out I was pregnant fairly late on into my pregnancy as I didn’t really believe that’s what my sickness was down to. I have four children, my youngest is 2 and my other three are over the age of 9 so my youngest was a shock to the system and I suffered from postnatal depression. I came off my anti depressants last year but with all this lockdown I started to feel anxiety and panic and decided to go back on my tablets (my emotional stress was probably more because I was actually pregnant!) so going back on my tablets I put the nausea down to that. So I was 8 + 2 weeks when I found out after googling other symptoms and it dawning on me ! I decided straight away I couldn’t have another baby and contacted BPAS who called me back four days later on 21/3/20 for my consultation and I received my pack in the post on the 23/3/20. By this time I was 9 + 3. I took the first pill that afternoon and the next four the following evening once my children were in bed. I’m glad I did as my experience was terrible. Maybe because I was further along, but after about two hours I had mild cramps, they were variable but I took some co codamol just in case. About an hour later I went into the kitchen and blood gushed down my legs all over the floor soaked through my pad, dress and dropped as I ran to the bathroom. When I pulled down my knickers a lemon sized clot came out into the floor before I had positioned myself over the toilet . I didn’t see anything resembling what I would say was pregnancy looked more like placenta tissue and the bleeding continued really runny to the point I had to clock watch to check I didn’t soak through the four pads in two hours as it says. I passed more clots much the same as before and had to put on two pads to go to bed and lay on a towel. The next morning I managed to get to the toilet before a huge clot and blood poured out but after this it slowed down for the next two days I had what I would say was like a heavy period and then it slowed and has since been brown discharge type loss with occasional red when I wipe. It’s been 13 days since my first tablet and I still have tender boobs am suffering with dry mouth and general fatigue my nausea has subsided but with other pregnancies I am usually over nausea by 10 weeks. I have googled and just don’t feel that I’m not pregnant anymore but I lost so much clots and blood although none I would say looked like an embryo. I was told to do the test at week 3 so am waiting until then but I’m just concerned I still have these symptoms.

Lenooo · 06/05/2020 16:57

I have an appointment in a maternity hospital on Friday morning for an internal ultrasound, the midwife said the symptoms and positives could be due to left over pregnancy tissue in the uterus and if there is still a pregnancy I have the option to do the medication again ot surgical, she reassured me not to worry that there is plenty of options, I am only 6 weeks so I do have alot of time,

I agree the experience is horrible and I suffer with depression and anxiety too so I really no how u fell.

Try not worry I did but got some reassurance that it not the end of the world and it can be sorted,

I'm the unluckest person in the world lol so I was almost sure this would happen.

I've really strong pregnancy symptoms too and I'm 16 day post abortion and still testing strong positive

I'll keep u posted on how I get on on Friday x

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Brambley · 06/05/2020 18:48

I hope you get on ok, yes please let me know how it goes. I didn’t even read about it not working until I started researching because I just expected to feel more back to normal by now. Thank you for replying good luck Friday..

Needingsupportplease · 06/05/2020 19:50

I'm 3 weeks since my abortion, they wanted me back at the clinic today as my test was positive this morning, I didnt bleed much at all. They scanned me and all is fine just said my body was obv dropping the hcg slowly and it would probably settle after my next proper period. Try not to worry but if you have anything left it can be sorted, take care of yourself. Here if you want to talk x

Lenooo · 06/05/2020 20:00

That's so reassuring I just want it all over at this stage,

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Needingsupportplease · 06/05/2020 20:04

I know you do and it will be soon x

Lenooo · 08/05/2020 12:46

Little update, I am in fact still pregnant, not the result I wanted but I am booked in on tuesdat morning for a surgical abortion and they ate inserting the coil too while I'm out xx

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Brambley · 08/05/2020 15:19

Hello, oh I’m sorry to hear that but glad you are booked in again for Tuesday that’s not too bad timing. Obviously in this situation any time feels like a lifetime, that’s at least how I have found it. Do you mind me asking how many weeks you are? I was 9 + 3 which would make me 11 + 4 today which is quite late so I’m really worried. It’s 3 weeks on Wednesday that I took the first pill so I can’t take my test until then. But I’m so worried that it hasn’t worked. Do you feel you lost a lot of clots and blood, because although I still have these symptoms I just can’t understand losing blood and clots and the pregnancy surviving sorry if tmi. Such a sad situation I never thought I’d be in. I’m sure everyone feels the same way though. I am thinking of a more permanent contraceptive also, I’d never want to go through this again xx

Lenooo · 08/05/2020 19:08

I was 4 +2 when I took first pill, it failed so today I am 6+6 I'm 7 weeks tomorrow, i will be 7+3 getting surgical, my scan was exact to my dates, I knew I was still pregnant knew by symptoms, boobs, sickness smell I still had it all, der was no way it was left overs in my uterus it was defiantly pregnancy I wasnt offered a second treatment of medication she stated it failed once it will probably fail again and the experience is horrible so to be pur asleep and be done in 10 minutes is great

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Brambley · 08/05/2020 19:40

Ahh, yes I’m with you in that I couldn’t go through all that again. Glad you are all sorted. I am bloated and sore boobs and now all of a sudden eating like there’s no tomorrow! I don’t know if I should just take the test as you were advised 2 weeks I was advised three. But I just want to know ! Thank you for getting back to me I hope all goes well Tuesday x

Lenooo · 08/05/2020 21:08

Even wait till day 16, u should have been supplied with a low sensitivity test over the counter are ver sensitive the slightest bit of hormone, I'm in Ireland so I need it done before 12 weeks tgats why mine is so quick its the law here

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Brambley · 08/05/2020 21:42

Yes I have that test. Because of the lockdown everything was sent in the post my nearest open
Clinic is over an hours drive away. I’m so worried. I think I will just do it in the morning and hope to god it’s negative it’s getting very late for me now. But I just didn’t realise until I was already 8 weeks stupidly

Lenooo · 09/05/2020 07:38

If ur at the time to do it u should, it will put ur mind at ease

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Brambley · 09/05/2020 11:35

I took the test this morning and had the faintest line. Could it mean I’ve taken it too soon? As I would be 11 weeks had I of carried on with the pregnancy? Or am I wishful thinking. If can’t understand how a pregnancy could continue when I lost so many clots etc? I know I should call the clinic but I just don’t want to be called in as I have four children no childcare and have avoided telling anyone but the father. I feel so worried .

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Lenooo · 09/05/2020 13:35

First thing I was asked was the line faint on mine it wasnt, very possible its early and a small trace of hcg is in ur system, contact clinic anyway to be save dont waste time

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Brambley · 09/05/2020 14:33

That’s nice to know, ok I will give them a call thank you x

Lenooo · 09/05/2020 17:33

I'm rooting for u x

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Lenooo · 12/05/2020 15:44

Not long home from the hospital, really tired but feeling good, glad it's all over with now, took me longer than most but got there in the end, little bit of pain but over all feel good x

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SunnyDays3 · 13/05/2020 21:01

Hi Lenooo, sorry to jump on your post are you in the north of Ireland or south? Just asking as I’m awaiting a call back for a consultation on Friday and then being referred but I just want to know what way it works. Thanks

SunnyDays3 · 13/05/2020 21:21

@Lenooo sorry forgot to tag u x

Lenooo · 13/05/2020 21:43

I'm Dublin @SunnyDays3 x

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SunnyDays3 · 14/05/2020 06:50

@Lenooo ok thank you and I hope you are ok x

Bell2000 · 28/01/2021 23:57

@Lenooo @Brambley hi I need your help I recently got an abortion and I feel like I’m still pregnant but not at the same time my line was faint on the test they gave me but I’m not getting pregnancy symptoms except I’m weeing so much if you see this my Instagram is hn.1605 thank you

Bell2000 · 29/01/2021 00:06

Hm16.05