I want the baby but partner doesn't

[dontthinksoman]

I've posted on miscarriage as I'm not sure if the baby is viable or not but I just needed to talk this through.

I've only been with my partner since February- we are stable and live together and discussed babies but decided it's not yet the right time.

Last week, after experiencing sickness and other symptoms we did a test together and found I was pregnant.

Long story short- he doesn't want the baby yet but I do. He asked me to book a termination which I did for him, thinking I could always cancel.

He has said he is sorry he just can't do it. I don't feel strong enough to be a single parent. And now I've probably lost the baby.

I have to decide how I feel about my partner now too. And really try not to be angry or think he's glad.

Agree with proseccols .
First thing you need to do as you’ve had some bleeding is to ring your local hospitals early pregnancy unit for a scan . As an aside if you attend the abortion clinic they will scan you anyway and if there’s any doubts about the wellbeing of your pregnancy send you off to the hospital Gynae department anyway - tell them these issues as you’ve told us - they’re there to support you making the right decision for you .
Good luck x

I’m sorry your partner has been so horrid. You have seen his true colours. I would focus just on what you want. Wishing you the best x

I really appreciate all the advice which I'm reading and will come back and respond later. I was made homeless through no fault of my own, I was in an abusive relationship and staying with a friend until I met my partner. It's all so embarrassing and complicated.

Oh bless you, you've been through the mill. All the more reason to NOT go through again with the latest.

I presume you have a job and could rent somewhere alone if necessary. I haven't noticed you saying anything about work, may have missed it and if so, apologies.

First thing is to find out whether or not you're pregnant.

I can work but I'm worried for when the baby is born. I'm looking at rooms to rent now. I have a GP appointment this week and I'm going to try and arrange the appointment I cancelled at the termination clinic. I don't know if I can do this- that goes for having the baby and leaving him. The emotional tie is too strong. I am a grown woman. I'm having definite symptoms of pregnancy now, I need to decide what to do.