Unsure who the dad is

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Ok so this might be long so bear with me. I've been an idiot and now I'm pregnant and unsure who the father is. I split with my ex who I have a child with a few months ago for various reasons. On day 22 of my cycle, 1st Feb I slept with someone else, unprotected but he pulled out. On day 24 I slept with my ex also unprotected but he did not pull out. I got a positive clear blue test on February 10th the day after my period was due. The test said 1-2 weeks. I took another test today and it said 2-3 weeks and as it would be 2 weeks tomorrow that I slept with the other guy I'm freaking out that the baby might be his. I know that no one can tell me definitively whose it is but I'm unsure how reliable these dating tests are. I've booked to have a pre natal paternity test but will have to wait till April to have it done and by then I will obviously be much further on.

No I suppose not and I hold my hands up to the fact I've been an idiot. Think what made me confused is that something similar happened when I fell pregnant with my son, based on last period I should have been a lot further on which I assumed meant I had ovulated later. Honestly you're right I don't have much idea, I have pcos but since having my son I have regular 28-30 day cycles so I've got no idea what's going on. I have a scan next month which will hopefully give me more info as to how far on I am

Scans don’t always match your dates though (in terms of using it to work out who the father is) I know my dates changed with each scan!
Take care of yourself and try to do what’s best for you and your dc and I wouldn’t bother too much about the potential fathers.

If you have a child with your ex are you not able to do a DNA test using your child's sample?

Prenatal paternity test. Using your current child's DNA to test against the foetus. It will prove whether they share the same dad or not.

I'm doing the pre natal paternity test with my ex as he is aware of the situation. I just wanted to know which was more likely as April seems very far away as I have to wait till roughly 10 weeks pregnant to do test.

It is very unlikely you conceived when your ex didn't pull out as you would only be around 7-8dpo in that case which I doubt would be picked up with the clearblue test.
So I would say it was either the week before with your ex or the 1st Feb with the other guy.
I know it is not very helpful but fingers crossed it is your ex's.
Good luck x

Hiii

I know the post is old but it was the most recent I could find, I am currently 4 weeks pregnant (2 weeks post conception).

From an app I have on my phone it says I ovulated on the 13th Nov which is when I would have gotten pregnant but my only problem is that I slept with 2 guys around the same dates.

When I say slept with there was a guy "D" that we had sexual contact so everything but sex. I was pretty drunk. But I'm more than sure there was pre ejaculation involved. This was on the 10th and lasted maybe 30 mins at most.

Then there was my ex that I had actual intercourse with on the 11th/12th/13th/14th multiple times but I'm paranoid the "D" guy is the father. Family have said they think the ex will be the dad and even he himself has said his 99% certain he would be. I just can't shake the feeling it could be the other dudes although we didnt have sex. I have more of a feeling the app was wrong and I actually ovulated on the 10th/11th.

If anyone could give me any opinions or thoughts they have that would be great. Thank you.

Literally 50/50 too close together to know unless a dna test is done after birth.

Do you think not having sex with one of the men lowers the chance at all? As I did read pre ejacualtion can only get you pregnant if sperm is in the urethra but he had been to the toilet multiple times before anything happened. I suffer with severe OCD so although I try and tell myself theres little chance, I cant stop it from crossing my mind. Thank you.

Anyone active at all to talk on this topic? I’m unsure too. November I slept with guy A on the 24th then guy B on the 25/27th due to online calculations it’s said I ovulated or conceived on 29th November. I’m now feeling crap about the situation and how to go about it.

@MissS9, Hey. Have you given birth yet or is it any day now 😊 ? Either way, congratulations! Hard to advise you as you haven’t shared whether you are still with either guy, whether you would want either of them involved if they were the father, etc. Those dates are so close that paternity testing is the only way. If you say what sort of advice you’re after, maybe someone can help you more. So far the only thing I can advise you is be safe and well, take care of yourself and enjoy your baby! Perhaps talk to you again. x