18 weeks pregnancy and I don't want the baby

[Kathryn2014]

I just wanted some help, I really don't want this baby and I don't know what to do i feel awful:(

What's your situation? Is getting an abortion difficult for you?

I think abortion may be really hard on you if you are that far along as you would have to have surgery to remove it. Depends how you feel about adoption? Those are the only ways of not being a parent really. Do you think you could possibly change your mind? What are your reasons for not wanting a baby?

Are you ok?
Why don't you want to keep the baby ? X

Have you had any counselling about this? You could try www.bpas.org or Marie Stopes. Has something changed since you became pregnant or have you always felt like this?

Kathryn didn’t want to read and run! Like perry says what’s ur situation? And we could hopefully offer some advice! Huge sympathy I’ve been there not so far on very early on spoke to a truly lovely doctor which helped enormously.

If you don’t want to be pregnant you don’t have to be, but if you want to terminate then you will have to move quickly. Can you access abortion services? If so, then you can self refer to BPAS or Marie Stopes.

You still have the option of terminating the pregnancy

Hope you are ok OP

18 weeks is very late to be considering a termination???

Did you only just find out about your pregnancy?

Have your circumstances changed drastically?

Is your mental health suffering because of pregnancy?

I don't see how you could have been pregnant for several months and only now be considering abortion?

Have you wanted the baby up until now? Has something happened to change the way you feel? Sorry that you are feeling this way.

This might be better in pregnancy choices that AIBU

There are people here who want to listen and support you without judgement but you need to give some more information.

If you don’t want to be pregnant then you don’t need to. Do you want to talk about it or just want some one to tell you who you need to speak to so you can get things sorted?

Take care OP

You don’t have to stay pregnant OP. You don’t have to justify why you don’t want to be, you don’t have to answer intrusive and judgmental questions about whether you knew you were pregnant etc. It is your decision only, and the only reason you need is that you don’t want to be pregnant any more.

But you do need to move now if you want to end the pregnancy. If you need help or counselling before you make the decision that’s fine, but get it sorted quickly. You still have options but now is the time to put them into action.

Speak to your GP or Marie Stopes.

Definitely contact somewhere like Marie Stopes to talk about options. They have a 24-hour advice line or you can email them. You have options available to you so try not to panic.

Do whatever is the right thing for you

So get an abortion don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it

you can always adopt

Please ask HQ to move your thread. It's such a difficult subject and as another poster said, there may well be more support and advice from people who have been in a similar position.

You’re not alone lovely but you need to speak with safe people without an agenda - I worry that you won’t necessarily find that here. BPAS are a good starting point and should be available tomorrow.

Any decision you make is the right one if it’s right for you. Deciding whether to continue a pregnancy or not often brings about an internal debate but I’m quite a big believer in your initial reaction being the one that should guide you.

Thankyou for all your comments, I sadly miss carried in June last year started to take the pill and fell pregnant again, and from the off I didn't want baby I booked 2 consultations to terminate but the baby's dad said if I did he would ruin my life so for the sake of my other 2 children I've kept this baby so they arnt affected, it's not the baby's fault at all I just can't help the way i feel I'm scared and I've been so so poorly to :(

There is 2 issues here, both of which are pretty hard.
Other than your partner, do you have support (I say other than him because he absolutely is not supporting you)

Oh gosh op what an awful situation to be in. Can you talk to a family member or your doctor ? He's being emotionally abusive.

Crunchy your message is not at all helpful.
Or supportive. It’s not that straightforward for everyone you know, don’t be so judgemental.

OP the decision is yours to make, you must do what is right for you

You don't have to have this baby, OP, don't let your partner/expartner pressure you into it. No one even needs to know that you've had one as your medical records are confidential and if anyone was to ask or make comment you can always say you've had a miscarriage.

Speak to your GP or an organisation like BPAS/Marie Stopes as they'll be able to advise you on the next steps.

the man who has threatened you, is he the father of the other children?

Is there any way you can get away from him completely?

If you do not want this pregnancy, then you dont have to have it. There is still time. You could always tell him it was a miscarriage