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What is the point of a health visitor.

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Amy1996 · 20/09/2018 14:32

Does anyone know what the point of a health visitor is and why they need to come to your house? I feel like they are just nosey and useless :/

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BridgeFarmKefir · 20/09/2018 14:39

I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first and I suspect I'll be pleased to have someone come and check on the health of me and my new baby. I don't really know why you wouldn't want that?

SoyDora · 20/09/2018 14:40

They’re there to help... some are great, some aren’t. If you don’t want them to come then refuse the service.

Amy1996 · 20/09/2018 14:41

She's coming round when I'm 38 weeks pregnant I just don't understand what for that's all

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SoyDora · 20/09/2018 14:42

To see if you’ve got any questions/need any help or support. To introduce herself so you know who to contact if you’ve got any issues.

HoleyCoMoley · 20/09/2018 14:42

To check you and baby are ok, healthy, managing ok, if you don't want to see them just tell them, bit ungracious to say they are useless and nosy, they are extremely well trained health professionals.

GummyGoddess · 20/09/2018 14:42

I had a lovely one for dc1. She checked on me to make sure I was coping, held dc while I showered, made me tea and gave us story books.

Current one is rather useless but if I have a question I just go to the health clinic she doesn't go to and ask one of the ones there.

Amy1996 · 20/09/2018 14:45

@HoleyCoMoley I have an older child and my health visitor did nothing that wasn't useless other than ask irrelevant questions and look down on me so I don't actually what the purpose of them is from my experience so that's why I'm asking

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Cyw2018 · 20/09/2018 14:47

My midwife, put it something like "if you baby is normal and healthy, then all the health visitor is for is weighing and passing you information (vaccinations etc), if you child has a problem at any point the health visitor is your first point of contact for accessing the support and services you will need".

Amy1996 · 20/09/2018 14:48

@Cyw2018 I understand they are for baby and checking them but why does she need to come to my house when I'm pregnant ? everything I need to know I ask my midwife and she can't check on a baby that isn't here I just don't get it

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SoyDora · 20/09/2018 14:53

Decline then 🤷🏻‍♀️. It’s just to introduce herself and signpost you to any support you might need post birth. If you don’t think it will be useful to you then say no.

TheHollowLeggedGoat · 20/09/2018 14:54

I think she's coming to introduce herself, so when you have a bawling two week old and are feeling tearful and useless, struggling with nappy rash or breastfeeding, it's a familiar face who you can call for help? Give her a chance. Mine was lovely.

pineappple · 20/09/2018 14:55

I'm 38 weeks with my 3rd and had the HV just appear out of the blue for a pre natal visit. I think it's more of a tick box exercise, having to introduce herself and the HV service which to me is ridiculous as I have a 1 year old who she sees anyway.

bigbluebus · 20/09/2018 14:59

Both the health visitors i had were completely useless. The 1st one was totally out of her depth as my DD had multiple problems due to a chromosome disorder. It's a wonder she didn't drive me to suicide with her negative attitude.
The 2nd one I had for DS spent more time telling me about her DS's behaviour and glossed over the concerns I had about my DS's behaviour. DS was diagnosed as having HF ASD aged 6 - no thanks to Health Visitor - we got into the assessment system via nursery!

PoisonousSmurf · 20/09/2018 15:02

Mumsnet was all I needed with DD1. My health visitor was as thick as two short planks. How they get the job, I have no idea!

someonekillbabyshark · 20/09/2018 15:03

It's the new rule to introduce them self before baby arrives ! Stupid really and waste of money..... I really appreciate my health visitor she has got my daughter the help she needs with her speech they are useful !

StressedToTheMaxx · 20/09/2018 15:05

My first baby everything was obviously all new. Baby was severely under weight. She helped monitor weight and reasure me.
2nd baby I saw health visitor twice. I couldn't even tell you her name. I suppose it just depends in how the baby is health wise.

Fatted · 20/09/2018 15:07

I live in an area where there is 'intensive' health visiting they call it. Basically it's a generally deprived area so they ass from that parents need more support.

The one that was here with my eldest was shit and everything I was told a HV was useless etc. One that was here with my youngest was absolutely amazing. Although she is leaving now and appeared to be struggling in the last year or so I'd say.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/09/2018 15:09

Because there might be issues that show up already.

If she walks in and the dog pee is all over the floor, the house is in a state etc that will raise flags. If she turns up and you burst into tears because you can't afford to buy a cot that will raise flags. If everything is fine then she's had a chance to meet you calmly without a milk beast screaming for attention.

anotherangel2 · 20/09/2018 15:14

So you can meet them and ask them about their role before your baby arrives and before you have any concerns. The aim is so you know who they are so you know who you can turn to and a difficult and vulnerable time. They also can see what you are like before the baby arrives so they can spot PND more easily.

SlimmingMumOf1 · 20/09/2018 15:16

Not at all. They are there to help you! My health visitor was an absolute godsend. We still talk every now and again and it's been 2 years since she last seen my DS!

More2Fly · 20/09/2018 15:16

All mine ever did was ask "are you doing tummy time? My baby was screaming with colic and reflux and wouldn't sleep for more than 20 minutes at a time for the first 8 weeks- none of which she could advise or give any help on.. but she'd always finish up by mentioning the importance of fucking tummy time.
I guess she was useful in that she weighed and measured her each time

SlimmingMumOf1 · 20/09/2018 15:17

@Amy1996 you sound like a nasty piece of work

Cyw2018 · 20/09/2018 15:18

Just to introduce themselves, and make sure you have any support you might need/ be entitled too.

SilverbytheSea · 20/09/2018 15:27

My first one was useless, kept going on about the fact I was just a “young mum” (I was 26) and assumed I knew nothing about anything. We moved and the one has now is brilliant, we hardly see her as there hasn’t been any issues, but I’d feel comfortable calling her if anything did come up.
The pre-baby visit is just so you know how your point if contact is, raise any concerns you have and they can let you know about any services you might find useful, and probably a bit of seeing the home environment is safe but mine was only ever in the living room.

Graphista · 20/09/2018 15:37

Why they come before baby is born - to get to know you, so you get to know them, gives them a sort of "base line" on pre baby personality/habits/any issues with you. Let's you have time to become comfortable with them before you're dealing with a crying baby, leaky boobs and stitches in awkward places!

Why to your home? Your environment says a lot about you, let's them see how you usually keep your home - again a baseline for before baby. Everyone's standards are different. Eg if you're normally a very tidy, clean person and it all goes totally out the window far beyond your normal after baby that could indicate you're perhaps struggling, but equally if you're a "little bit of mess and chaos never hurt anyone" type and what to the first mum is 'totally out the window' is just slightly messier than usual for you that's less concerning (I am of course not talking about dangerously hazardously messy or unsanitary). They'll notice things like if laundry is being regularly done, if dishes are piling up - not to criticise but as external indicators of possible difficulties a new mother is experiencing. They may also notice things like if there's smoke detectors fitted, when baby becoming mobile if suitable accident prevention is in place. People are also usually more relaxed at home so it means they get a more accurate sense of who you are rather than the front you may put on (even unconsciously) in another environment.

As pp said they're highly trained and usually very experienced and so may notice things you wouldn't necessarily. Plus a fresh pair of eyes can be useful.

In my case the reverse was noticed and rightly flagged as an issue. I was always quite a neat and tidy type but after having dd I went into overdrive, home was COMPLETELY spotless. Dishes were washed up immediately, even just a cup and the sink and counter cleaned too, carpets hoovered at least once a day, everything else even handles and light switches cleaned daily. It was at this time my OCD began to be looked into.

As with any profession some are better than others. I didn't like my first, and I DID wonder not only how she got the job but why she went for it. She didn't seem to like kids, had none of her own (older lady so not a case of just 'not yet') and seemed to think books and their authors knew better than mothers or people with ACTUAL experience with children! After the 3rd visit from her I refused to have her any more when she made a stupid comment about it being unnecessary to bf past 3 months!

My 2nd was a godsend! Had 5 of her own and had been doing the job many years, had fabulous practical advice including 'wee tips and tricks' that weren't widely known particularly but worked well.

She was the one that on her 2nd visit mentioned that she'd noticed the house was particularly spotless and was savvy enough not to allow me to brush her off. As a result a whole load of stuff came flooding out that I'd never told anyone until then, which she was so supportive in helping me with, without pushing me into doing anything I wasn't yet ready for.

She could easily have made me feel like I was a crap mum , instead she empowered me to relax on some things and eventually to seek further help from my dr. She helped me to be a better mum without ever making me feel I was a bad one.

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