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Surgical termination

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Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 09:16

Please help..... I'm due to have a surgical termination on Wednesday and I'm petrified and keep thinking I'm going to die

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HeteronormativeHaybales · 08/12/2017 09:39

It will be fine - procedurally it is extremely similar to an ERPC, and I have had four of those under general and no complications.

There is no 'punishment'. There is no judgement for this (not from me or other right-thinking people, anyway. Those who would judge you, you can discount).

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 09:39

My partner will be with me. And I know he is feeling like I am and he has aspergas and adhd so I feel we both are in need of help but I'm struggling to help myself

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mummyretired · 08/12/2017 09:40

Had D&C type termination under GA. Absolutely fine, supportive NHS environment and no problems afterwards - I was well able to carry on looking after house and children as soon as I left (within the hour, IIRC)

HermionesRightHook · 08/12/2017 09:40

OP, you've nothing to apologise for - the PPs were being obnoxiously rude and they ought to be apologising. You do not need to justify your choices or your need for support to anyone.

Anaesthetists are so careful, they really are. It's the hardest specialism to qualify in because of all the maths and physics of gases and stuff they need to know and they are meticulous. Also kind, they'll talk you through it, ask a nurse about it.

ThisLittleKitty · 08/12/2017 09:42

Pointing out facts isn't being rude.

whattoweartomorrow · 08/12/2017 09:45

I had an ERPC after a missed miscarriage, which I understand is pretty much the same thing, and for reasons I don't understand I also became convinced I was going to die beforehand. I've had general anaesthetic before, I don't have any health anxiety, I don't really know where it came from. Luckily I was only waiting 48 hours before the surgery so it was really only the night before I struggled.

The tablet just softens the womb opening if I recal, it would be hard to have a reaction to it. The actual procedure is very quick, so normal risks from anaesthetic- which itself are vanishingly low- are even less because of that. My husband basically had time to go get a coffee before I was back up.

It's stressful, regardless of the reason. Your brain will be whirring and you'll have lots of anxieties that are turning into this one fear. Your hormones are also all over he place. I found as soon as I got into the hospital I was fine- the nurses were so competent, there were so many other women having the same thing. It's the waiting that's the worst.

My advise would be to try and distract yourself. If you need to, get some anti anxiety meds for now. But you'll be fine, and it's ok to be scared. Just know that the risks really are almost non-existent.

ZaphodBeeblerox · 08/12/2017 09:47

Fuck you LittleKitty

sparechange · 08/12/2017 10:07

You have nothing to apologise for
littlekitten is being vile and has no place on this thread

You'll be well looked after. The worst thing about my ERPC and termination was all the waiting around. At my hospital, hey get all the patients to arrive at the same time in the morning and then work through the list, so there is quite a lot of hanging around if you're not one of the first few to go into theatre

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 10:24

I really don't know what you said on my post but you are entitled to your opinion but unless you know me and know facts then please keep them to yourself

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thewisestoldelf · 08/12/2017 12:19

littlekitty

Yeah so me saying you're an arsehole definitely isn't rude then.

Just pointing out the facts, after all.Smile

roobrr · 08/12/2017 12:28

I've had a termination in the past.

I opted for conscious sedation, and I had exactly the same worries as you!

As it happens, it was all absolutely fine and over very quickly. I had a lovely nurse with me who spoke to me throughout and stayed with me in recovery. You will be fine x

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 08/12/2017 12:36

I am literally sat in the hospital awaiting discharge from the surgical management option (for miscarriage). I can't say it's 100% safe, that would be a lie, but generally it is rather safe and the surgery itself is done quite quickly. If you need to talk feel free to message me. It's perfectly normal and okay to have these worries Smile

gamerchick · 08/12/2017 12:46

Just ignore little kitty she has her own problems she's ignoring.

OP let them know you're scared and they'll look after you Flowers

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:18

Littlekitty you certainly think you know it all don't you ? Judgemental idiot

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Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:19

Hope your ok UnicornsandRainbows1 and thankyou

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MrsBonato · 08/12/2017 21:25

Op I had a surgical termination 5 years ago. I was terrified too of something going wrong and I'd had loads of surgery growing up.
Being completely honest without sounding like it doesn't bother me because it does, the treatment and care I got was amazing, probably the best I've had on any operation. They really will look after you. It's normal to be scared though. Sending you wishes and will be thinking of you

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:31

Thankyou. I'm petrified of even taking the tablet on Tuesday and being sent home. What if something goes wrong before I have the surgery ? Can the tablet cause anything to happen? Mifepristone

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MrsBonato · 08/12/2017 21:39

That was the only part I'm not sure of, the only tablets I had were at the hospital on the morning of the termination. One gave me very slight stomach cramps. The next not long before the surgery I was told not to get up. I'm guessing yours will be the first one, so perhaps mild cramps. They honestly wouldn't give it to you and send you home if something terrible would happen. Also ask them, whatever you want to know or be prepared for ask, you won't be the first or last person to feel anxious and they will answer honestly

RoderickRules · 08/12/2017 21:42

Thectablets stop the growth of the pregnancy.

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:43

Thankyou MrsBonato I thought I'd asked everything I needed to but my mind just won't stop and feel I've no one to turn to

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Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:44

RoderickRules does it come with bad effects Do you know? I've googled so much and the results are scary

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Fiere · 08/12/2017 21:45

I understand how frightening it must be for you, Maisonmum, but you will be fine - I have been under GA a couple of times and I LOVE it. You only feel like you've been asleep for a second, but that it was a lovely, really restful sleep. Like a really fast power nap.

And please don't think something will go wrong as punishment - because there is NOTHING wrong with having a termination, so therefore nothing to punish! It sounds like you are doing the right thing for yourself and your family and you should be proud of that.

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:47

Fiere I am punishing myself no matter how I look at it and after speaking to many many medical professionals and mental health team I feel it's the only option 😢

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RoderickRules · 08/12/2017 21:49

The tablets don’t affect the woman at all as far as I know.

Stop googling now!!
It is a safe procedure and you will be fine, back on your feet in no time.

Hugs.

Maisonsmum123 · 08/12/2017 21:53

I have even planned to finish all my Christmas shopping for my family this weekend just in case I don't come out of the hospital. That's how bad I have anxiety and panic disorder

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