Abortion

[Confused987]

I'm not sure if this is allowed here, but here I go. So I've just found out I'm pregnant. I'm kind of horrified but also confused. I'm only 20, in uni and living my own mother.

First of, I've been drinking, taking heavy drugs, and opiates for the past few months. I had an appointment with my GP yesterday that was completely irrelevant to all of his. But lately things haven't been right - I've felt sick each morning, very sensitive to alcohol (I'd be on my back after just a few glasses of wine), constantly tired and had a horrid aversion to coffee, plus I couldn't remember when I last had a period and I had begun to get sore breats, which I never get during PMS.

So, the test was positive and I screaming the surgeons down. I had a consultation booked for an abortion just 30 minutes later. I've always been SO certain that I never want children (even branded myself as a complete anti natalist). So once the check up was booked, I downed a huge amount of opiates. I've now woken up with severe stomach cramps and even sorer breats feeling more nauseous than ever. I'm scared I've killed my little baby before I even had chance to really think this throug. I'm terrified.

I don't think it'd be fair for me to bring a child into this world. I'm in uni, rely on my student grants and living with mum. The father and I have a very on/off volitie relationship and would not want me to keep this unless it was too late. He has his own two children and says he's had enough. Plus he's between jobs constantly, an alcohol and living in a van. All a big no no.

Despite all of this I'm so confused and terrified my previous habits have destroyed even my choice.

Sorry about the spelling, I should have thought to check it over

It's no one's place to tell you what to do. As much as I really want to type have the abortion! It absolutely isn't right of me to. This pregnancy might motivate you and change your world for the better. Good luck whatever you choose.

Please talk through your options and concerns with someone professional asap op- honestly no one here can tell you what to do- only you can make that decision and decide what's best to do. Hope you get some good support

Like op said it could change your life for the better. Nobody can tell you keep it don't keep it that has to be solely your decision and one you are certain of 110%. Take some time to think through things clearly. Stay off the drink and drugs for a while so you've got a clear mindset to figure it out. Don't worry about the father plenty of women go through it on their own in uni/working full time etc and get through it and manage and do a damn good job too. Don't make this about him or anything else apart from you and what you want to do

Hi there OP,

We're going to send this over to our pregnancy choices topic as we really want you to get the right support and advice.

It sounds as though you've leaped into the decision to have an abortion without really giving yourself time to think about things, and that you would probably benefit from some independent (i.e not an anti-abortion group in disguise) counselling to get your head around the situation. I'd say that ideally, you want to be in a situation where you can take responsibility for your decision, and feel that is the right choice for this particular exact set of circumstances. And because I'm not you, I don't know what that "right choice" will be, but you will find it by having a long, hard look at all of the options and seeing which is the one that you can best live with.

They are pretty resistant in the womb, my friend didnt know she was pregnant and drank a lot and was partying, her baby is fine.