Have a 10 month old and just found out I'm pregnant and I feel like a fucking idiot

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I'm so upset. Dd is still breastfeeding round the clock so I didn't think I'd be able to get pregnant, have had no periods. Please don't tell me I'm stupid cos I already know.

I don't know what to do, I'm not ready, I feel like I've let everyone down. I don't know how far along I am but will get a frer later, tried to get appt with dr but there aren't any today, not sure whether I should push for one.

I am such a dick I'm so angry with myself.

There are less than 9 months between one set of my cousins! My auntie (accidentally) got pregnant very, very soon after the birth of her first ds and her ds2 was very premature.
TBH had I become pregnant that fast after any of the dcs I doubt I'd have continued the pregnancy, but that's just my personal choice. If you want to go ahead, there are plenty of people who've done just that and come out the other side smiling :)

Congratulations! My eldest daughter was 15 months old when my son was born. It was difficult to juggle, downright exhausting at times as I also found myself a single mum with a new born and a toddler. But once my daughter was toilet trained I went back to college part time the day she turned 2. And felt like I had a touch more of "me" back, a smidgeon of Independence and adult time while they were in the creche. Best thing I ever did having them so close together. Now they are 16 and 17 and really close, just as they have been all through their lives.

DP is the youngest of 5. 5 years between him and the eldest. All lovely, really close. I wouldn't recommend it but 2 will be fine.

16 months between my two. It has been tricky at times. The youngest is now 10 months and they're really starting to interact with each other, it's lovely to see.

this is a fantastic age gap, honestly! you do all the hard work first two years then barely have to do anything after that as they play together and keep each other company.

To be honest if you left it longer to have another baby you would be in the unsettled bad sleeping phase for a lot longer. This way you are going to have a busy few years and then after that you'll start to get your life back a bit. Plus (speaking from experience) having two close in age actually makes life easier when they get a bit older as they entertain each other and can be each other's friends - a godsend xx

Oh sorry bombadier... I literally rewrote what you said (didn't read PP) xx

great minds ...

I did the same there's 18 months between my eldest 2, it's the best age gap! Can be tough in the short term but oh so lovely in the long run.

Fairly common years ago - my great aunt had "Irish triplets" - baby in February, twins at Christmas! My mum was also the eldest of 5 born in 6 years.

Not gonna lie though, I have a 6 month old and I'd be seriously considering my options if I peed hot in the morning.