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Successes after MMC . . . anyone?

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knackered76 · 05/07/2010 20:45

I found out I had a MMC on friday, foetus stopped at 8 weeks I was meant to be 10. I am booked to have an ERPC tomorrow. I actually feel fine about the whole thing, could all change tomorrow! I have 2 other children so that obviously helps.

I was wondering though whether to try again or stay happy with 2. I know it's early days but how many of you who have had MMC were able to get pregnant again easily and managed to have a successful pregnancy the first time after? And guess just so I have the balance, how many suffered another?

I hope you don't think me intrusive or nosy, I just can't seem to find information anywhere on this.

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clothaddict · 05/07/2010 20:50

Hi, I am now 34 wk pg after a mmc last Sep and got pregnant really quickly again after it all. I have one DS age 2 prior to the mmc too.

clothaddict · 05/07/2010 20:51

Oh and sorry about your mmc, it's a pretty horrid experience. I had medical management but then had an ERPC too. Hope you recover OK.

hippychick66 · 05/07/2010 21:38

Hi, just wanted to say sorry for your experience. I had the same thing in Feb. Thought I was 11.5 weeks (scan showed 8 week foetus). i had an eprc - which was physically fine but I did find it all very emotional.

I got pregnant again within 3 months but am sad to say that I had an early MC with that one too. I started bleeding at 7 weeks but the scan showed a very small sac of about 4.5 weeks. I lost that one completely without any medical intervention.

However, I want to point out that I am 43 so the risks are higher for me and it doesn't mean the same would happen to you.

I am now thinking that I will try once more and if I have another MC then I will take that as my sign to stop. i also have 2 children already.

I was told that even 2 in a row is considered just bad luck and my odds are just the same as anyone else's of having a MC next time.

All the very best for the EPRC tomorrow.

I hope I haven't put you off trying again - just wanted you to know that I did get preg quiet easily after the procedure and that as far as the doctor is concerned my body is doing well with the pregnancies it's just that those 2 embryos were probably not right - that could be my age or could be just bad luck.

hippychick66 · 05/07/2010 21:40

Am worried I might have made you feel bad now - but you did want both sides of the story.

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knackered76 · 05/07/2010 21:47

hippychick - don't worry, you haven't made me feel bad at all . There is not point only finding out about the 'good' ones. Sorry you've been through it with 2. I'm of the same thoughts as you, give it another go (maybe) and then if it doesn't work out perhaps move on.

Clothaddict - congratulations, how exciting you're due so soon! Thank you for answering. Not looking forward to tomorrow but then at least it will be done!

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Wonderstuff · 05/07/2010 21:56

I'm sorry for your loss.
I had mmc with my first pg - at 10 weeks small bleed, baby measured only 6.5 - I was devestated and it took me 2 years to conceive again, I'm sure that I was quite depressed and this affected fertility.

Anyway - dd is now 2 and a half and her sibling is expected any day

I found that this book here really helpful

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knackered76 · 05/07/2010 22:00

Thanks Wonderstuff - congratulations on your second

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hippychick66 · 05/07/2010 22:05

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. I'm guessing that you are 10 years younger than me (clever old me!?) so you will probably be fine next time.

Good luck. When I had the eprc the aneisthatist (spelling??) said to think of something lovely and they would take care of me.

i drifted off thinking of my two boys and my DH and after just a second asleep I awoke to be told it was all over and there in my head was the same image I'd gone to sleep with - my lovely family.

Try to enjoy your family and let them spoil you and I'm sure you'll be up the duff again before you know it .

louisesh · 06/07/2010 09:57

Hi ..Sorry for your loss.I too had a MMC in Oct 08 diagnosed at my scan at 12 weeks, baby had ceased to be viable at 8 weeks.Then a second pg last Aug which ended in a MC in Sept , followed by an EPRC.Third pg Dec 09 ended in a CP.

Pregnant again in Jan 10. Now 27 weeks pg with no problems.Was momitored very well this time, twice weekly hormone injections,two weekly scans and monitored by an ob consultant.I m now 39 soo just let you know there is hope through the other side .Hope the ERPC goes ok today.Take care X

2ndDestiny · 06/07/2010 10:12

Sorry for your loss. I had a MMC with my first pregnancy in Jan 2009 at 10 wks. Took me almost a year to get pregnant again but that's cause I have PCOS. Now 28 weeks and all looking good so far. I second the recommendation of Lesley Regan's book. Lots and lots of women have successful pregnancies after one or more (m)mc. Good luck x

racmac · 06/07/2010 10:49

sorry to hear that i had mmc in Oct 04 - i then went on to have DS2 in the following Sep and then another DSin Apr 07 so hopefully you will be fine.

GoldenKippers · 06/07/2010 10:50

Whether to try again for a third child or to stop at two has to be you and your partner's decision. As for conceiving again, my first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage (embryo never got beyond 5 weeks, but didn't find out until 12th week) - opted for natural management. Then waited for two normal periods as hospital suggested. Then got pregnant again in 3rd month of trying. 18 weeks now and - fingers crossed! - all is fine so far.

hippychick66 · 06/07/2010 13:20

louisesh Thanks for your story. i know it was aimed at knackered but it has helped re-assure me too. It sounds like you had a really tough time of it but it seems like it's all working out now.

Thanks to the others for your positive stories too.

i think it is incredibly hard to try again after a MMC or MC - the joy of the early weeks is snatched away. But hopefully there is another baby out there for you knackered and for me and for all the others who are TTC after MC.

Take care.
x

Goodluckbear · 06/07/2010 13:22

Sorry about your mmc, hope tomorrow goes ok.

I had a mmc in Jan this year, found out at 10 weeks it had stopped developing around 7 weeks. I had the ERPC, it was ok, then had two periods and got pregnant again. I'm now 16 weeks and so far, so good!!

Hope this helps a bit xxx

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knackered76 · 06/07/2010 16:51

Thank you all ladies for sharing your stories and I'm pleased so many of you have had positive outcomes since your mc/mmc.

All went fine this morning. Had a bit of a panic when they took me into theatre but really all okay. So far not much bleeding and no pain. I have a course of antibiotics to take and have been told there's no reason to not try again as soon as I feel ready. I think we shall play it by ear and see what happens.

hippychick - you should be a detective! Fingers crossed for you and success.

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elk4baby · 06/07/2010 18:00

I had a MMC at 10.5 weeks (baby died at 6/7), didn't need a D&C. Was absolutely devastated as it was my first pregnancy. Went on to have a healthy pregnancy 4 months on (DS is now 14months).

Unbuffy · 06/07/2010 19:16

Glad it was not too hard for you today Knackered. I had a mmc in January, 2nd pg and no signs until I went along for the 12 week scan. I was completely devastated because the first pregnancy was so easy (bar morning sickness and breech presentation!) and I had no inkling that it might not 'work'.

I had one period, exactly 28 days later (v unusual for me to be so regular).

I am now nearly 20 weeks.

I would suggest leaving it a couple of weeks before making a decision - I know I just wanted to be pregnant again, and even now I still feel sometimes that I want that pregnancy back (my due date is coming up very shortly). There is a lot of emotion invested in this pregnancy now, and a fair old amount of anxiety. It is worth taking that into account if you do decide to try again - it's a lot more stressful if you are personally aware of the risks.

There are some excellent threads on here that help hugely with coping if you feel the need, lots of ladies in similar boats who are wonderful.

Best wishes, and hope this helps x

starshaker · 06/07/2010 19:21

I had a mmc this time last year. Im now 32 weeks pregnant with twins and all going well.

MiniMarmite · 06/07/2010 19:25

Hi Knackered, so sorry to hear about your mmc.

I've had a couple of MMCs.

After the first I became pregnant with DS 4 months later.

After the second I became pregnant after 4 months again and I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant.

For me having had the MMCs seems to have meant that I dread scans and worry quite a bit before I reach the point where I can feel the baby move.

Good luck and take care of yourself x

hippychick66 · 07/07/2010 13:32

knackered so glad it went ok. Good luck for future tries. i'll look out for your name and hope to see fab news from you really soon.

in the meantime take care and allow yourself to get over this experience. I found I was a bit nervous of having sex again after my EPRC (not sure why exactly) but just needed some time.

This time after my natural MC - I just dived back in - so everyone and every situation is different.

All the best.
x

CardyMow · 07/07/2010 16:36

I had an MMC in march, baby was meant to be 12 weeks but had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I never actually passed anything because by the time it was discovered...I was already 4 weeks pregnant again! I was put on preventative antibiotics (to prevent infection from the retained 'products of conception' from the last one) for 2 weeks, I actually ovulated again practically straight away and fell pregnant. I am now currently 12+3, and everything is going really well. Everything from last time has been reabsorbed, but given everything, I am starting to feel that this one is meant to be. Good luck!

hippychick66 · 07/07/2010 20:17

loudlass how incredible. I've never heard of that before. You must have been very shocked. Glad to hear all is ok now. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy.

lovechocolate · 08/07/2010 09:28

Am sorry to hear about all the MMCs.

I too am in the same boat. I lost 4 babies within a year. Then had my beautiful daughter. Have lost 2 more since and am now 20 weeks with a son!

It does get harder each time and after the 4th and 7th loss almost gave up trying because it was just too hard emotionally. Then thought give it one more try on each of these occasions and have had successful pregnancies each time.

hippychick66 · 08/07/2010 13:14

lovechocolate sorry for all your losses. i think it's that - 'one more go cos it might be the one' thing that keeps people trying.

Congrats on yuor successes.

knackered how are you doing now?

BunnyBaby · 08/07/2010 13:28

Sorry to hear of your loss,

I had a MMC in January, found out a 12 week scan we had lost little one at 11+2.

I had two really odd cycles, and then things settled down, and now I'm pregnant again.

16 weeks this Saturday!

Good luck with your decision

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