Pregnancy is a pile of poo

[spilttheteaagain]

Indulge me in a moan please!

I am only 4+3 and already I have had/still have:
-A 3 day headache
-Dizzy/lightheaded spells
-Insomnia
-Desperately tired
-Worsening nausea
-Night sweats (drenched the bed! )
-A brief flirtation with constipation that sent me dashing for branflakes & an extra pint of water...
-Extremely thirsty
-Constant weeing (see above)

Feeling a little depressed and worried that I will prove to be one of those people who is Not Very Good At Being Pregnant

Also having that dawning realisation that it will only get worse. And there will be blood tests (total needle wuss) And then there's birth as well. I want a baby, I really do, I just hadn't quite thought this part through!

I'm not alone am I??

er no you're not ! have thought about a baby for long enough but now I find myself actually pg I'm a tad concerned as to what the next few months will bring

Currently ..

Random nausea - mostly later in the day
Can't stay up past about 10pm
Peeing lots
Dizzy
Have to eat the moment I feel hungry
DH thinks I'm becoming a psycho as v snappy and shouty for no reason
Don't want to be touched - at all

Also thinking I might not be very good at this and feel a bit rubbish saying that as there are those who are far worse off and hey I should be grateful to have got this far..

but still.. can't even look at the birth chapters in the book after scaring myself when reading about varicose veins in nasty places (euwwww). I fear an elective section may have to be in my future.. does that make me a total wuss ?

oh and miffed because I thought I was 2 weeks ahead of where I actually am (currently 7+3) due to erratic cycle. So it feels like I have been in this first trimester for ever....

lol. it does get better honestly!

I cant say i was that bad but for the first 4 months i had nausea/headaches/constipation/thirsty/dizzy spells. altho im 23 weeks now and its all totally disappeared and im now having a great pregnancy so there is hope! just enjoy having ur flat belly now before it pops out cos thats the worst bit, the aches and pains at the end. after ur first few months it gets a lot easier for the middle part!

Was it a planned pregnancy? Im on my second unplanned pregnancy rite now, so im trying not to moan as much second time round so i can enjoy it while it lasts. just enjoy having an excuse to get out of lifting and doing the housework!
xx

No it doesn't make you a wuss! It's perfectly rational to be alarmed at the prospect of something that is likely to be painful, long and have possible, unspeakably horrible complications. That said, the chances are that you will not have horrible complications at all, most people don't.

How many weeks are you?

I keep seeing heavily pregnant women hobbling around and thinking how incredibly uncomfortable it all looks. And I wonder "what was I thinking?!"

Ho hum, only one way forward I suppose!

ah I see, 7+3. Well it could be worse, you could be still at 4+3 like me! You're 7.5 weeks through the 40, that's nearly a quarter of the way there.

Pregnancy is often not fun. I've been really struggling, but I have to say that seeing the baby move on the scans and starting to feel her move in me is making it feel so much more worthwhile!

The first trimester is truly sucky. You feel awful, you might not look pregnant at all, you might not want to tell anyone and it just doesn't seem real. I know I often had days when I was wondering "why I am doing this?". It gets better.

Yummy it's great to hear that the middle part should be nicer! Glad you're feeling well.

Yes this is a much planned, much wanted pregnancy (about 2 years of waiting for DH to be "ready"), so I'm not unhappy to be pregnant, just a little startled by the reality of it

And just to add to the rubbishyness of the 1st trimester, you're panicking all the time that things might go wrong, and waiting for your 1st scan to check things are ok. Hurrumph

I thought I was going to be one of those people who was awful at being pregnant. I even said to my DH he better enjoy this one as we were only going to have one. I'm now just over 13 weeks and feeling so much better. My hormones are starting to calm down, not sick any more,nausea has improved, starting to slowly eat different types of food again.

I found after the first scan I felt so much better knowing there was really a baby in there. Still very tired but I can cope with just that

Hope you feel better soon and hope these weeks fly by for you.

that's exactly it spilttheteaagain I totally feel startled by the reality of it all ! nothing can quite prepare you for it, can it ?

and good point, yes 7+3 is further on than 4+5 !! having another scan on Friday (my first one we saw a very small embryo and the beginnings of a heartbeat) so I suppose I'm feeling a bit underwhelmed as I'm preparing myself for the scan and trying not to get too optimistic - then it will be the countdown to 12 weeks..

I'm encouraged by your positive reports of the second trimester yummy and japhrimel roll on August !

never in my life has time gone so slowly. it's really very annoying !

Get used to it - last night as I was throwing up I wet myself at the same time and I am now 20 weeks.

pile of poo? I should be so lucky!

Actually time also stood still when I was on the 2 week wait whilst ttc. But at least that is only 2 weeks!

Oh you poor thing IPredictADiet, how miserable! Have you found any foods/treatments to improve things?

I feel like i have been poisoned, im sleeping constantly, feel like i have been beamed down from another planet, feel completely detatched from everyone, have put on a stone and a half, feel sick all the time, and feel completely miserable, this is my third, my other two were wonderful pregnancies, this is a nightmare!!!! and im only 11 weeks... im counting down the days...plus i feel like a hermit, and dont want to see anyone, and wont let DH near me... im a barrel of laughs at the moment thats for sure.....

You're definitely not alone! I'm about 8 weeks and I'm totally fed up. The nausea has eased off a bit today (Thank God!) but I'm just knackered, dizzy and so hungry all the time that I'm actually bored of eating. I don't want to eat anything because I'm just so ruddy bored of sticking food in my mouth!

And I'm not allowed to play Roller Derby, which I usually train for seven hours a week, so I'm packing on the pounds already.

And my boobs hurt!

OK, moan over...

i just wanted to say it does get better! although it may not feel like it at this stage. i'm now 21+5 and had all the things and more the op says. i also felt very sad and down all the time, and this affected how i handled all the other symptoms of pregnancy.

but in the last 2 weeks things have really started to improve, i now have a very positive attitude and have even manged to wake up in the morning and get dressed! i've found the energy to clean the house (although dont ask me to do anything past 2.30pm because i am wiped!) and i've started going out shopping, meeting with friends etc.

i promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel, just indulge how you feel now, go with what your body wants you to do. if your too tired to wake up, sleep in alittle longer (if you can) dont feel bad for not being able to do much.

it does get better (not that i believed anyone telling me that 10 weeks ago!)

oh and i was ttc for 18months ish in that time had 2 mc. so when i fell pregnant this time and got past the 12 weeks stage, i felt like a complete failure because i was so miserable about being pregnant, something that i wanted so much. and all the books say its a joyous time.

i then had a pregnancy e-mail from one company or other that said something like 'now that you are blooming in to the second trimester i know you are loving your pregnancy (some women hate pregnancy, but i know your not one of thoes women)....blah blah blah' i stopped reading burst in to tears and dh unsubscribed me from their e-mail list.

its actually ok to not like being pregnant.

I'm 35 weeks on Thursday with my first and it does get better... for a while, then it get worse again.

I was very lucky because I didn't have any sickness or nausea. However I have a huge bump now and I'm finding it very difficult to sleep. Plus over the last few days my ankles have swollen up to revolting proportions.

My husband slept on the sofa to give me a break a couple of nights ago, only to complaing the next morning that he'd been kept awake by the dog moving around trying to get comfortable. I suggested that he imaging carrying the dog around inside him for 9 months, without having the option of banishing him from the sofa, and see how uncomfortable that gets!

The worst part of pregnancy for me has been getting so big and cumbersome. Although I have only put on about 11 kilos, I wasn't very big to start with and it feels very strange.

The best part is watching my husband talking to the baby and telling him/her all the things they're going to do together.

Ooh, also someone gave me a free Krispy Kreme "for the baby" at Waterloo station the other day. That was pretty good!

Yes, it is okay to not enjoy pregnancy, really. I hate this myth of a woman having to exist in a pink bubble of bliss otherwise there is something 'wrong' with her.

But, I know it is just my experience (I am due right now), but the first trimester was absolutely awful. I also worried about being someone who just did not handle pregnancy well.

I have never particularly 'enjoyed it', but I kind of 'took off' once in the 2nd trimester.... look and feel pretty good, and have had so many compliments about looking really fantastic. So, maybe you will be the same.

A pile of poo is what you get after the baby arrives .

Sorry you are feeling pants at the mo, hopefully it will settle down as your body starts to handle the hormone changes.

Oh, except i have to add that my legs and ankles have swollen up so much the skin has started to split. Not so happy with that.

39 +6 (?) I think. Very ready for it to be over.

It's definitely OK not to enjoy it, but I just wanted to add that you might be pleasantly surprised. You read about all the syndromes and things that might affect you, all the things like restless legs, piles, carpal tunnel, etc etc etc and you can't help thinking it's all going to be awful. At least that's what I thought. But in fact I've been one of the lucky ones and have (in general) really enjoyed being pregnant - and I've realised that usually things do go smoothly. The first few weeks were honestly the worst in terms of nausea and not being able to tell anyone, and worries that there might be bad news at the scan, and the time just seemed to drag - but ever since 11 weeks or so it has honestly been great.

Just be thankful you dont have a 2 year old to contend with as well! ha. I never realised how easy pregnancy first time round is - you get to sleep in all weekend if you really want to for a start! I have to be up at 5:45am every morning meaning i am literally falling asleep by 10am at work - cant shut my eyes for too long as i would actually go to sleep.
Thats along with the general tidying up after him, dealing with tantrums (terrible 2's) and getting kicked and elbowed (by accident may i add!) a lot in the belly by him as he doesnt realise he has to be careful with mummy's belly!
So thats my main moan second time round! Please dont take for granted how easy it is first time round like i did, enjoy those lie in's and afternoons where you can just lie on the sofa and watch a film as i miss them terrribly and just want to god damn sleep!

It will get better, although some side effects of the pregnancy might be with you long after the birth....thinking about my stretchmarks, continuing piles, recurrent anaemia, carpel tunnel....but you know what it is all worth it.

I had to point out to my father-in-law the last time i was pregnant and suffering with it, you don't choose to be pregnant for the sake of being pregnant....but for the beautiful baby at the end of it. If you can't moan about it here, with all the people who know exactly how you feel, where can you moan about it! You don't have to be an earth mother, enjoying every moment of pregancy to be a great mum. I hope you are all feeling a bit better today, and I hope you will all reassure me that it will be ok, if I decide to do it to my body again!

I have to say I didn't enjpy pregnancy in the slightest and didn't find it got better at all. I had severe nausea up to about 6.5 months and then just felt sick all day every day for the rest of the pregnancy (so I suppose in that sense it did get a bit better in that I wasn't throwing up all the time!). I also got SPD at about 4.5 months and that definitely got worse as the pregnancy progressed. Then towards the end the swollen ankles, piles, breathlessness, insomnia. So there you go - the voice of pessimism!!
However, it all got soooo much better as soon as I went into labour and immediately stopped feeling sick. I think I was the only woman in labour who was just thinking thank god for that and bring it on!! And the wonderful baby boy I had was just all the more wonderful because I was suddenly not feeling sick and could finally walk around. Also you forget it sooo quickly. I am now considering having another child despite my awful experience. It does help when you know how wonderful the end product is!
As a disclaimer can I just say that I was exceptional in my group of friends and most of them stopped feeling sick at around 17 wks and none of them had SPD! Good luck OP, I promise it is worth it!