I think I might have Hyperemsesis.Want to die

[bebsy75]

I am 8+5 and have had nausea and moderate vomiting since 5+3. It has suddenly got much worse and I am vomiting more than 10 times a day. Food and even fluids stay in my stomach for approx 20 mins max before coming back up and I'm spewing bile.

It's getting me down so much and I don't know how I'm going to get through this pregnancy. Last time I had nausea and sickness (but not HG) for 20 weeks severly then on and off till I delivered.

I have one dd and I'm struggling to look after her and feel like such a mad mother. i know it's a bit neurotic but i feel like my bad mothering's going to scar her.

I just feel so isolated and low. I have zero excitement about this baby and have even thought I'd be slightly relieved if I miscarried which is terrible as I did earlier in the year so I should be grateful that I am still preg as I do really want another child.

In brief, I don't feel like I'm coping and the thought of weeks more of this is soul destroying.

might be worth getting checked out to see that you are not getting dehydrayted, they can prescribe anti-sickness medication during pregnancy if you are really bad.

get straight down to the doctors in the morning and get checked out, I also have hyperemesis and the anti sickness meds are a the biggest blessing ever, they enable me to function and look after DD (just!!!!) Much sympathy and there are loads of us on here who totally understand how you feel. Tiredness and stress make it worse so try and stay calm and don't beat yourself up about being a mad mother, you are doing the best you can and thats all any of us can do

Bebsy

I have also suffered from hyperemisis and i know how hard it is.

Firstly please make an appt to see a doctor asap, not only about the hyperemisis but also about your feelings. They are there to and will help.

I found that drinking rehydration fluids really helped me avoid dehydration (and a possible hospital stay)

Also your GP can look at giving you some tablets to ease the vomiting.

Please dont dispair, it is difficult, but there is help.

also the mumsnetters were great to me when i needed help.

Take it easy your body will be tired from all the sickness and i know its easier said than done - but please remain positive

take care x

sorry hevster (cross post) the meds are great!

Go to the GP's ASAP - you poor, poor thing! I had rotten vomiting with no3 child (just felt like utter vomity poo with no1 and no2) but nothing like yours. Go get some sympathy and hopefully some meds.xx

If it's got much worse very suddenly it might be something else - this happened to me a few weeks back and it turned out I had a kidney infection on top of HG!!

Makes sense as I think dehydration caused by N&V can set off a kidney infection because your system is not being flushed out with fluids frequently enough allowing nasty bacteria to grow... and in turn a kidney infection can cause N&V, so it's a vicious circle!!.

Anyway the good news was that I was given antibiotics as well as anti-emetics which really helped.

I really feel for you. Please don't feel like a bad mummy. You are doing the best you can. [supportive and encouraging smiley].

I had really bad hyperemesis with DS1, I got very very down with it too, resisted taking any anti sickness meds for ages but finally gave in when I just couldn't function and it was the best thing I did.
Even if you only take them for a short while it gives you a break to gain a bit of energy and feel a little bit better.
As others have said, go to GP asap, you cant carry on as you are or you will end up been admitted.
Really hope things start to improve, you have my sympathies X

As everyone else has said - get to the doctors in the morning and get help - you don't have to suffer (as badly!). Cyclizine probably saved my life. I also too get the whole miscarriage thing - although I yearned and yearned for this baby I was so sick I thought terrible thoughts.

I would defo get checked out if you can. I didnt get mine checked when it got worse, and I ended up in hospital for a week on a drip being re-hydrated. I still have it at 36 weeks but its under control with the help of anti-sickness medication.

I found it really hard at the time, and as u feel; isolated. No one around me has had it or understands just how horrific it can be. Work even thought it was made up!

Really hope ur feeling so much better very soon

THANK you all for your support. It's really helpful hearing from people I know can empathise. Stomach almost feels like it's spasming and just the thought of certain foods is enough to make me vomit.

Am going to give it another 24 hours on the off-chance it's a bug as it got worse very quickly. Somehow I don't think it is though so will be sure to make an appointment for Thurs.

Has anyone tried acupuncture or those anti-nausea cds? Also, any tips on staying positive? I find it so hard to get through the day that focusing on the baby in 7 months time is nigh on impossible.

I tried acupunture (and everything else I could find) but nothing made any difference apart from the anti sickness meds, however I understand that acupuncture does work for some people and I was also told that homeopathy can help but by this point I had started taking the meds and past 12 weeks so didn't bother trying it. Really hope you feel better soon

I've found some relief from the sea-sickness bands. Definitely see your doctor if it doesn't stop - you need to be able to keep fluids & nutrients down.

Getting through the day on my bad days I've found has been a case of taking it easy and taking each day as it comes. Trying to think about a baby in 6 months time doesn't help as its too abstract when I feel so ill! So curling up on the sofa, watching silly movies, etc is what cheers me up.

I tried the morningwell CD but didn't find it very helpful. In fact after a couple of weeks it became so associated in my mind with sickness that it started to actually make me feel sick to listen to it!

It's VERY hard to stay positive but keep on here, it really helps to have other people who don't think you're exaggerating / being pathetic!

You need to see a GP, who will do bloods and urine sample, to exclude any other problems. If it is HG, then get thee some ondansetron and fast - it really works.

Don't just carry on as you are, as I did with previous 2 pregnancies, as all the evidence suggests that the quicker you treat HG, the better.

Chin up, you will get through this. Though, my gosh, I wouldn't wish Hg on anyone!

please just go to hospital, i know exactly how you feel hg is a serious illness, both times i felt like you and was so dehydrated they could not take a blood sample. it is a misunderstood illness by many so post when it gets too bad - as you can already see those of us that have suffered understand.my ds survived my bad parenting and has told me it was worth it for his sister - even though i was inhospital for his 6th birthday .

but 5 mnths on and still revelling in having my body and energy levels back

Get to a doctors asap. Take a urine sample with you and ask them to test it for ketones. If levels are high they should send you straight to hospital for rehydration.

HG is a vicious circle that can only be broken by rehydration - I got in a bad way and was sent to hospital 3 times until it finally wore off at 16 weeks.

There are various meds which can help with the nausea and keeping food/fluids down. If water is coming back up try lucozade or ribena. I pretty much lived on lucozade and dry cereal at times.

There are loads of people on here who have had HG and know what a complete nightmare it is. I also had dark dark days when I thought those dreadful miscarriage thoughts, even though these were the most longed for babies. It's OK, it's normal. The good news is we have all survived and lived to tell the tale, so you will get through this!

My dd2 was born yesterday - I was on ondansetron and other drugs from about your stage. Got very down and no longer wanted her - actively fantasised about it in fact. It was dreadful but the meds are a lifeline and there is no reward for being a martyr. You will survive.

ondansetron - literally a life saver for me nothing else worked, shows how awful hg is to treat as its an expensive drug especially when taken long term.

admittedly it meant i couldn't poo , but at least it stopped the physical sickness well enough to function.

Hi I too suffered from this and my heart goes out to you. I actually think you have reached the point where you need to go to hospital and have a drip for a couple of days to rehydrate you. I know it sounds dreadful but I can't tell you how much better you will feel to be rehydrated plus it will take the anxiety of eating away from you.

I too ended up in a & e with a terrible kidney infection (I believe brought on by dehydration). The pain was unimaginable and I had to be given repeated pethidene. The sooner you get yourself hydrated the sooner you can get on top of this and then you can think about the meds. Many people have had a lot of success with ondansetron or a combination. I tried everything: acupuncture, wrist bands, every med going. The only thing that helped me was a drip but it kept me going a long while.

DO you have help you can call on for childcare. Where are you based? Different areas are more helpful with this than others. Also you are probably in the worst stage so hold on to the fact that this will get mote copable. Also ask your doctor to supply you with ketone sticks so you can check your levels yourself and get help quicker. Dehydration is a vicious circle and the sooner you tackle ketones the quicker they disappear. I hope this helps.

bebsy you poor thing. I was in this position 7 years ago (now have a healthy and happy 6 year old)

The hyperemesis for me was very distressing and I don't exaggerate when I say traumatic. Even now I shed a tear to hear of others going through the same.

I was hospitalised twice (at 7 weeks and again at 11 weeks) Just over a week each time for rehydration on a drip and monitoring/review of meds.

I got through it somehow, and had another baby 4 years later. Incidently with dd2 I had awful all day sickness but not hyperemesis.

So just wanted to add my support and empathy really.

Please ignore anyone who tries to give you ginger beer/rich tea biscuits/ginger nuts etc etc (unless you want them) and then gets offended that they haven't managed to cure you.

Yes the rehydration perked me up a bit as well, although I still felt quite unwell and spaced out.

Thankfully I had some excellent GPs and also had very good care in hospital.

Just to add I suffered terrible ante-natal depression I believe as a result of being so ill and unable to do anything. There are some great ante-natal teams for depression as this is becoming a far more recognised problem especially when it is offset by problematic pregnancies.

Also with regards to the acupuncture, my understanding is it can help but must be done at least three times a week. I was unable to do this as I couldn't afford it and I couldn't face the journey to the practitioner (must be someone trained to perform acupuncture for pregnancy sickness). If this is not an issue ot may be worth checking out more. But first you must get rehydrated and then you will feel a bit better to decide on practical support and help to get you through this.

Your messages have meant so much to me and I almost shed a tear. My husband's great but somehow it's better hearing it from people who have been through it.

I've managed not to be sick so far this morning and am rehydrating so that's good. Can't get an appointment until tomorrow.

I find that if I stay lying down I'm much better but if I start moving around I feel like I might be sick. Is that common with this?

yes, the more you try to do the sicker you feel. Lots of theories as to why but no answers, I know its hard when you have so much to do but rest as much as you can to allow your body to rehydrate. Drink whatever you can keep down. Do not worry about the baby, the baby will leech what ever nutrients you have and be fine. just have what takes you fancy. concentrate on you and yours.

sorry for referring to you unborn child as a leech, when i was suffering i used to refer to my unborn child as a parasite .

Hi Bebys, I really, really feel for you. I am 9 weeks today and feel absolutely awful, and its really getting down. The thought of another 3 weeks at best of this is just unbearable! I have a 15 month old daughter and am finding it so hard to master the energy to play with her.
It is good so see so much good advice though from everyone. I went to my GP and was given Cyclizine was has not even touched it, apart from feeling really spaced out- I now know what to ask for next!
Can you get help with childcare at all? I have hired a local sudent (friend's daughter) who gives me a much needed break most days for me to get my head down.